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Originally posted by Ashaki:
Well you gone with yo' bad self Ambassador of House...maybe rejection is such a major deal for me because I am a woman...we could be a little more sensative to those type of things. But, I'm going to try to get over that real soon...before I have gray hair...in both places...just kidding

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Originally posted by Dee-Dee Sheridan:
You may not show it to that individual but deep down there will be some feelings from the rejection. Men seem to know how too mask it better than woman.

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Originally posted by LEONARD REMIX RROY:

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Originally posted by Dee-Dee Sheridan:
You may not show it to that individual but deep down there will be some feelings from the rejection. Men seem to know how too mask it better than woman.

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I never felt like that about you, I only felt bad about the situation being bad.

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You may not show it to that individual but deep down there will be some feelings from the rejection.

Men seem to know how too mask it better than woman.

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Originally posted by mhd:
we have to, we usually take more shots or more chances than women, so have to be able to handle rejection. it does bother you though, but you have to handle it like a gentleman

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Handle it like a gentleman.....another round bartender!

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You may not show it to that individual but deep down there will be some feelings from the rejection.

Men seem to know how too mask it better than woman.

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Dee-Dee, I think the conversation is about approaching someone before you know him/her, so presumably there are no feeling involved yet. That's whay the males here say their feelings don't get hurt too much.

Once you know somebody and have any sort of a relationship, feeling will get hurt just as much for males as for females.

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[snip...]You can be admiring a person for years before you actually work up enough nerve or courage to approach them.

If when you approach them & they don't react the way you would like, that is when the hurt comes in from the rejection

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[snip...]You can be admiring a person for years before you actually work up enough nerve or courage to approach them.

If when you approach them & they don't react the way you would like, that is when the hurt comes in from the rejection

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Dee, for years? Come on now...how about going on with one's life!

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Originally posted by lola desire:
fyi boys...

the women always approach...but the women who give you play have already chosen you before you've said word #1.

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Originally posted by Dee-Dee Sheridan:
Well maybe not years but for a serious length of time.

I'm sure there has been someone that you've had a crush on & she didn't reciprocate the same feelings. How did you feel? Don't Lie.

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Well maybe not years but for a serious length of time.

I'm sure there has been someone that you've had a crush on & she didn't reciprocate the same feelings. How did you feel? Don't Lie.

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Like SHIT on a stick!

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Well maybe not years but for a serious length of time.

I'm sure there has been someone that you've had a crush on & she didn't reciprocate the same feelings. How did you feel? Don't Lie.

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Like SHIT on a stick!

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Well maybe not years but for a serious length of time.

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Like SHIT on a stick!

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No problem. So I don't allow myself to be in that position.

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i love the women but i have never been intimate with anyone before.
i have never been approached nor have i ever approached anyone.

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man you gotta get out there. women aren't gonna step to you. i've definately noticed that after a period of no new lovin you definately get that "i haven't gotten laid recently" stink on you and women can smell that quicker than any b.o. imaginable.

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Originally posted by LEONARD REMIX RROY:
[QUOTE] Rejection? That word does not apply to The Ambassador of House.

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You go RROY!!

I know I'm always late...

Ashaki, it has been my experience that some of the best men were the ones that never approached me. I'm like you and a little on the shy and passive side, but I did do as Lola says and go and dance right up under a brutha I was interested in (that eliminates the fear factor in his having to walk across the room). He'd either talk to me before the night was over or I figure it wasn't meant to be. You know if someone is interested. You can feel him following you around the room with his eyes. Your eyes keep meeting.

How about if you just great this guy with a friendly hug each time you see him (it's all about love, right?) and feel him out. At the very least, you can be his friend that way. Don't be scurred, gurl! Be like RROY!!

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Originally posted by TAC:
Some women get off on "lancing" guys, and be laughing too.

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How approachable are you? Do you like for women to approach you or do you prefer to do the approaching? My girlfriends are getting tired of me being so passive when it comes to socializing with the opposite sex. Before I jump out there and start being a little more assertive when I see someone I’m feeling, I want to know do you prefer to be approached or be the approachee…

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I would be tickled pink if a female came at me the right way. To tell you the truth it would make my day in the best way!!!! Hopefully this will catch on and females will stand up and go for what they want if its done in a real kool way.

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Originally posted by wearyinquirer:
Thanks Lola desire....that was soma the BEST views i have heard in a while...never thought of shit that way...Damn!!!

Anyway, I prefer the "drawn out" approach when i try and talk to a girl....kinda like a tease...(or foreplay if u will)....once i know a girl is checkin me, or if i think a girl is cute...the first thing is to make eye contact and smile...then dance near them, slowly inching closer, maintaining my vibe and constantly feelin hers...even if she is 'ready' to talk, i like to draw it out a bit, keep dancing, smiling, etc....after a bit that i merely introduce myself and that's it...jus keep on groovin and enjoying the other person's company..no need to get bogged down wit conversation (yet)......after a while of dancing, i like to invite the lady (or she me) to the side (either the bar or couches) to perhaps get drink and talk, get to know one another etc....

I like this approach cause, 1)it clearly tells the other person that the primary reason ur in the club is to dance and have a good time, 2)gives u a chance to 'feel' the other person's vibe, conversation too soon never really lets you ascertain one's body language towards you, and 3)I dont have to yell in the other person's ear on a loud loud dancefloor and bump into other ppl and shit...

oh, and to answer the question....I think women approaching guys is great....however, ladies, u gotta realize there are many ole fashioned and narrow minded dudes out there....the "my friend thinks ur cute" approach is cool too....us guys find it REALLL amusing and it breaks the ice quickly...

oh and ladies, if u think a man is cute and want him to talk to u, but u are there with 20 of ur best girlfriends...PLEASE FIND A WAY TO GET THE FUG AWAY FROM THEM FOR % MINS!!!!! like the washroom, or getting a drink or sumin....guys are scared shitless when there are more than 3 pairs of female eyes on them at the same time...

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We think alike here, Weary. I always enjoy that approach myself. Also, if one is a serious house person, one can't be bothered with those who didn't come to the club to dance!

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Well you gone with yo' bad self Ambassador of House...maybe rejection is such a major deal for me because I am a woman...we could be a little more sensative to those type of things. But, I'm going to try to get over that real soon...before I have gray hair...in both places...just kidding

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You will be ok & grey don't get in the way.

Yea, JMJ & I got something women want "I have no fucking idea" because...they are more than willing to give up the sex - (I am talking about women that men debate on aproaching due to a fear of rejection) - not tramps.
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Yea right, what do you and JMJ have that the women want???

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Originally posted by TAC:
Some women get off on "lancing" guys, and be laughing too.

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I've seen it happen, and I personally don't like when women treat men like that...but that shit do be funny...

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