Anyone friends with the supervisior and the coworkers?

[Phyllis Hyman Cherry]

A group of my coworkers and the supervisor are real cool.They go out to clubs together and are generally good friends.Eat lunch together,you get the picture.The supervisor has a personality that i find rather distateful,you know when someone thinks there smart but they are as dumb as a rock.To make a long story short and a short story even shorter i dont fuck with none of them.They all make these silly locker room,homophobic/Racist jokes that arent even the least bit clever.
Jokes about boobs,mind you these are grown men.Now i think they are looking at me funny cause im not one of the gang,Im cordial good morning and goodnight.But all of that eating lunch,hanging out shit doesnt rock with me.Besides its not a good idea in my opinion to make friends cause suppose i gotta climb over them to get higher position,if we were cool i would probably feel guilty.What are your thoughts?

[Edith A. Giles]

The thing about hanging out with co-workers and supervisors is to make sure it doesn't blur the lines between business and playtime...

There'e a time and place for everything. When it's time to work, it should be all about work...

Get my drift?

[Phyllis Hyman Cherry]

But it always will blur the lines.As a manager how can you look Edith in the face and tell her what to do when shes always chillin with you,and yall smoke and drink together.That violates ethics in so many ways.Work should be work and your personal life should be your personal life dontya think?

[kara]

i'm undecided on the socializing with coworkers thing - my mother always warns me against it, urging me not to mention clubs or behave in anyway other than professional in front of them ...

but for the supervisor/worker relationship, that one i definitely feel needs to be kept professional. its nice, even builds good morale, to engage in some appropriate socliaizing, i.e. office parties, maybe happy hours, but there needs to be a line and a supervisor needs to always behave like 'the adult' and not allow certian conversations, behaviors to be condoned

well IMO that is

[chldfknungrnd764]

Hard to be friends or real chummy with someone who can affect your job.http://i54.photobucket.com/albums/g108/Hoffasgrave/trump.gif

[Edith A. Giles]

But it always will blur the lines.As a manager how can you look Edith in the face and tell her what to do when shes always chillin with you,and yall smoke and drink together.That violates ethics in so many ways.Work should be work and your personal life should be your personal life dontya think?

That's why I don't hang out with my supervisors after working hours...

[Phyllis Hyman Cherry]

Arent you amazed at how some workers on your job are so unprofessional.But in the end the friends of the supervisors are the ones that enjoy all the perks of that relationship.

[Edith A. Giles]

Arent you amazed at how some workers on your job are so unprofessional.But in the end the friends of the supervisors are the ones that enjoy all the perks of that relationship.

It's not fair, really...

I've seen some people drag their personal lives into the office and it takes it's toll on the work environment.

[chldfknungrnd764]

It's not fair, really...

I've seen some people drag their personal lives into the office and it takes it's toll on the work environment.

In the military you see it a lot, never was comfy with it.

The UCMJ is a bad thing to get caught up in, I keep it very distant with superiors.

[Edith A. Giles]

In the military you see it a lot

Oh fo sho, sometimes more that you would in the civilian workplace...

It's crazy...

[kara]

before my rocky patch of unemployment-employment-unemployment i worked at the same NGO for 10 years and developed a friendship with my supervisor, who was deputy director of the organization

everyone hated it and thought i was allowed to do as i please, get away with things (like avoiding all staff - boring - meetings, coming in late, etc.), and some thought i got ahead all because of it

sometimes i wonder if it was true ... but for some part of it, its cuz he knew he could depend on me on important matters, i would snap into agame for the urgent issues .... etc.

but i do feel like i took advantage of his soft spot for me

its all about playing the game baby lol

[chldfknungrnd764]

before my rocky patch of unemployment-employment-unemployment i worked at the same NGO for 10 years and developed a friendship with my supervisor, who was deputy director of the organization

everyone hated it and thought i was allowed to do as i please, get away with things (like avoiding all staff - boring - meetings, coming in late, etc.), and some thought i got ahead all because of it

sometimes i wonder if it was true ... but for some part of it, its cuz he knew he could depend on me on important matters, i would snap into agame for the urgent issues .... etc.

but i do feel like i took advantage of his soft spot for me

its all about playing the game baby lol

Good points!