How would you approach this?

[ProvocativeElement]

I have a cousin visiting from The South (she's about 4 years younger than me)

she's staying in The Queendom (the building my mother and grandmother inhabit) so they've been hanging out quite a bit. Anyway, I stop by last night to visit for a moment in between afterwork errands and appointments (¡ mi vida loca!)) and this heifa keeps busting out with the most casually obscene language when addressing my mother and grandmother.

"Aw sheeeit!, I could't believe that muthafucka!"

"I told that ho, bitch please!"

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now, even my three year old has been know to let a word slip here and there (in a whisper, cause she knows better)

but this big ass disrespectful bumkin is just way outta pocket (gon' tell my mother, 'aiight baaaby, I'll see ya in tha mornin' - I'm like, who tha hell is she calling baby?)

my mother has already asked her is she uses that sort of language with her grandfather (my grandmothers brother) and she responded 'oh shit yeah! I'm grown!'

how would you go about telling her that grown or not, in our house, her foul language is unacceptable when speaking to her elders?

(((guess I could just say that . . . maybe I just wanted to get if off my chest.)

[Terry James]

If she can't respect your home, Queendom, mommy etc. She needs to take her grown azz elsewhere.

[Edith A. Giles]

Take her aside and let her know that she needs to watch her mouth in front of her elders AND your child...
Also, you should tell her that if she doesn't change her language, that she will have to stay somewhere else the next time she visits...

I don't even use that kind of language around MY mother or any of my other elders, and I'M grown myself :rolleyes:.

[Big Ken]

Tell her take that country ass, back wood, moonshine runnin, geechie shit back to the DIRTY DIRTY!!!!

[ProvocativeElement]

I don't even use that kind of language around MY mother or any of my other elders, and I'M grown myself :rolleyes:.

THANK YOU! I don't do it, my Mother (grown'r than me) doesn't do it in front of my G'Ma and my G'Ma didn't do it in front of her mother (my GrtG'Ma)!!!

Think I'm gonna call her and tell her now (don't want her making my teeth grit next time I walk through the door)

[SuzanneT]

I have a cousin visiting from The South (she's about 4 years younger than me)

she's staying in The Queendom (the building my mother and grandmother inhabit) so they've been hanging out quite a bit. Anyway, I stop by last night to visit for a moment in between afterwork errands and appointments (¡ mi vida loca!)) and this heifa keeps busting out with the most casually obscene language when addressing my mother and grandmother.

"Aw sheeeit!, I could't believe that muthafucka!"

"I told that ho, bitch please!"

.
.
.
.
.
now, even my three year old has been know to let a word slip here and there (in a whisper, cause she knows better)

but this big ass disrespectful bumkin is just way outta pocket (gon' tell my mother, 'aiight baaaby, I'll see ya in tha mornin' - I'm like, who tha hell is she calling baby?)

my mother has already asked her is she uses that sort of language with her grandfather (my grandmothers brother) and she responded 'oh shit yeah! I'm grown!'

how would you go about telling her that grown or not, in our house, her foul language is unacceptable when speaking to her elders?

(((guess I could just say that . . . maybe I just wanted to get if off my chest.)
Your mom and grandmom should be the ones to tell her. She doesn't seem like she's trying to be disrespectful more like she feels that being a grown woman she can speak in the natural. From what you are saying here it sounds like she talks like this everyday. Maybe you could tell her that even though you know she's not trying to disrespect your mom and grandmom, to them the language is disrespectful and to check herself.

[Vinyl Deficit]

Don't go over there until she goes back home.

[Mz. Nicky]

PE GURL:jpshakehead:.. you need to pull, no disrespect, Bonquisha A-K-A "Ke Ke" to the side and let her know that type of language is not going to be tolerated around your baby, mom and granmother ..OMG!!WHAT IS SHE THINKING!!! Those are not her friends; those are her elders!!!... and like the others said tell her that she needs to stay somewhere else that will allow her to talk like that...:cussing:..my bad, I got all into it like it was my fam...MY BAD

[Bill Blake]

Don't go over there until she goes back home.

Ha ha ha ha ha

[Big Ken]

Take that country ass, back wood, moonshine runnin, geechie shit back to the DIRTY DIRTY!!!!
FUCK DAT SHIT PE!!!! TELL HER THIS!!!!:lol:

[Bill Blake]

And isn’t this what the ‘I’ll wash your mouth out with soap’ threat is for?

[ProvocativeElement]

Your mom and grandmom should be the ones to tell her. She doesn't seem like she's trying to be disrespectful more like she feels that being a grown woman she can speak in the natural. From what you are saying here it sounds like she talks like this everyday. Maybe you could tell her that even though you know she's not trying to disrespect your mom and grandmom, to them the language is disrespectful and to check herself.

just spoke with my mother about it a little while ago (she's just as chaffed about it as I am) and she said that she was definitely gonna speak to her about it (she's on her way to a Drs appt, but I think they're gonna keep her and the Cussin Blue Ribbon Cow from the county fair will be gon by Saturday

[GROOVE VICTIM]

Why are you negotiating with a lil girl?

Have you spoken to the child's parents. You gotta get to the root of the cause first IMO.

Peace

[BHouse]

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"I'll have a talk with her..."

[jojaujae3]

I have a cousin visiting from The South (she's about 4 years younger than me)

she's staying in The Queendom (the building my mother and grandmother inhabit) so they've been hanging out quite a bit. Anyway, I stop by last night to visit for a moment in between afterwork errands and appointments (¡ mi vida loca!)) and this heifa keeps busting out with the most casually obscene language when addressing my mother and grandmother.

"Aw sheeeit!, I could't believe that muthafucka!"

"I told that ho, bitch please!"

.
.
.
.
.
now, even my three year old has been know to let a word slip here and there (in a whisper, cause she knows better)

but this big ass disrespectful bumkin is just way outta pocket (gon' tell my mother, 'aiight baaaby, I'll see ya in tha mornin' - I'm like, who tha hell is she calling baby?)

my mother has already asked her is she uses that sort of language with her grandfather (my grandmothers brother) and she responded 'oh shit yeah! I'm grown!'

how would you go about telling her that grown or not, in our house, her foul language is unacceptable when speaking to her elders?

(((guess I could just say that . . . maybe I just wanted to get if off my chest.)
Show her ass the door that way she can have all the foul mouth she wants outside where that kinda language is tolerated.:kickbut:

[GROOVE VICTIM]

How old is she to begin with?

Seriously, she is on a path to being drugged up with Ridlin and being placed in Special Ed classes as a means to "Control" her. The teachers these days aren't gonna put up with a disruptive child in their classrooms and this is an easy way of getting a child to become just another "No Child Left Behind" Statistic.

Peace

[ProvocativeElement]

Why are you negotiating with a lil girl?

Have you spoken to the child's parents. You gotta get to the root of the cause first IMO.

Peace

she's almost 30.

[SuzanneT]

just spoke with my mother about it a little while ago (she's just as chaffed about it as I am) and she said that she was definitely gonna speak to her about it (she's on her way to a Drs appt, but I think they're gonna keep her and the Cussin Blue Ribbon Cow from the county fair will be gon by Saturday
That's good that your mom is going to speak to her, she tried to be subtle by asking her if she talked around gramps like that but ol girl didn't catch the hint. If she talks like that around them she talks like that all the time around everybody.

[GROOVE VICTIM]

she's almost 30.

Damn, that's sad. The way you described it, it reminded me of what I see daily at work with school kids with no home training. Looks as if she's doing it to get attention but it's not intentional, just natural to her. Yeah, your someone needs to put their foot down and tell her like it is or take a stroll down the highway back home.

[chldfknungrnd764]

I have a cousin visiting from The South (she's about 4 years younger than me)

she's staying in The Queendom (the building my mother and grandmother inhabit) so they've been hanging out quite a bit. Anyway, I stop by last night to visit for a moment in between afterwork errands and appointments (¡ mi vida loca!)) and this heifa keeps busting out with the most casually obscene language when addressing my mother and grandmother.

"Aw sheeeit!, I could't believe that muthafucka!"

"I told that ho, bitch please!"

.
.
.
.
.
now, even my three year old has been know to let a word slip here and there (in a whisper, cause she knows better)

but this big ass disrespectful bumkin is just way outta pocket (gon' tell my mother, 'aiight baaaby, I'll see ya in tha mornin' - I'm like, who tha hell is she calling baby?)

my mother has already asked her is she uses that sort of language with her grandfather (my grandmothers brother) and she responded 'oh shit yeah! I'm grown!'

how would you go about telling her that grown or not, in our house, her foul language is unacceptable when speaking to her elders?

(((guess I could just say that . . . maybe I just wanted to get if off my chest.)


Greyhound bus ticket.

[Edith A. Giles]

Greyhound bus ticket.

:lol: