View Full Version : If you had a family member that was wealthy
Stan747
12-21-2007, 12:02 PM
or had become wealthy, do you feel this family member should give you a piece of the pie..or at least hire you at his or her business
TonyB
12-21-2007, 12:07 PM
or had become wealthy, do you feel this family member should give you a piece of the pie..or at least hire you at his or her business
^^^No, I don't think a wealthy family member is obligated to "give" me anything. However, if I was the wealthy one, there are members of my family I would most certainly help out financialy. These would people whom I was ALWAYS close with, and NOT just some distant relative I've never met or basically did not have a close relationship with.
Phyllis Hyman Cherry
12-21-2007, 12:12 PM
Absolutely not.I would change all my numbers i cant be bothered.Keyshia cole is a prime example.
Terry James
12-21-2007, 12:13 PM
is it my momma?
Depends were they with you all the time or are they coming out of the shadows calling you their loving cousin..
D J 1 3 8
12-21-2007, 12:19 PM
no.
they owe you nothing.
and if they are smart, and hope to keep some of their wealth, they will keep family & business separate.
Edith A. Giles
12-21-2007, 12:22 PM
or had become wealthy, do you feel this family member should give you a piece of the pie..or at least hire you at his or her business
NO, they're not obligated to give you anything!!!
Ndless Nite
12-21-2007, 12:36 PM
Nope.
Shalewa
12-21-2007, 12:45 PM
No. I would keep them at the top of my fundraising list though. Gifts to MUV Dance Company are tax deductible!:biggrinangel:
No, but I would least share some knowledge. It would be the same way if I knew of a Wealthy Relative. I just want to know What you know. That's how you can put me on.
Stan747
12-21-2007, 01:10 PM
No, Terry...let's say it was your half sister...and she was in a position to help you out a lotl..but really never did much...yet depended on you to take care of her...and do work around her house for her.
Stan747
12-21-2007, 01:12 PM
No. I would keep them at the top of my fundraising list though. Gifts to MUV Dance Company are tax deductible!:biggrinangel:
hahahaaaa
That's what I"m talking bout...but what if this person was always crying broke when you knew for a fact that wasn't true...wouldn't you feel a little resentment.
Stan747
12-21-2007, 01:20 PM
Depends were they with you all the time or are they coming out of the shadows calling you their loving cousin..
Not exactly coming out of the shadows, but lets say you can almost count the times you've seen them on one hand; keep in mind...you are now taking care of this person...and this wealthy half sister now depends on you.
Not exactly coming out of the shadows, but lets say you can almost count the times you've seen them on one hand; keep in mind...you are now taking care of this person...and this wealthy half sister now depends on you.
ok i'm confused.. she's wealthy b/c of me or she is wealthy and depends on me.
If I've barely see them then no.. If they have helped me out thought my life then a little something is in order..
islandlover
12-21-2007, 01:25 PM
My immediete family yes, (parents and my brother) because we're close and I would give to them, but them other sapsuckers (aunts cousins, uncles, etc) hell to da naw!!
Stan747
12-21-2007, 01:29 PM
ok i'm confused.. she's wealthy b/c of me or she is wealthy and depends on me.
If I've barely see them then no.. If they have helped me out thought my life then a little something is in order..
Ok, let me try to clear this up. She's your half sister...she was financially comfortable before you started taking care of her. She didn't become wealthy because of you. You're taking care of her because she's now up in age...no one else wants to bothered with her because she's cheap...even cheap with you and you're the taking care of her.
Let's say she's almost old enough to be your mother...you saw her mostly when you were young. Now that you're an adult, of course she's older now, you are somewhat like a care giver to her.
Lets say she's always been cheap, and not a very giving person.
Ok, let me try to clear this up. She's your half sister...she was financially comfortable before you started taking care of her. She didn't become wealthy because of you. You're taking care of her because she's now up in age...no one else wants to bothered with her because she's cheap...even cheap with you and you're the taking care of her.
Let's say she's almost old enough to be your mother...you saw her mostly when you were young. Now that you're an adult, of course she's older now, you are somewhat like a care giver to her.
Lets say she's always been cheap, and not a very giving person.
so this has nothing to do with your money but her character.. If she is that much of a pain in the ass put her in a home.
Armento
12-21-2007, 01:58 PM
We're an immigrant family with so many close relatives struggling here, I'd absolutely help them.
Shalewa
12-21-2007, 02:03 PM
hahahaaaa
That's what I"m talking bout...but what if this person was always crying broke when you knew for a fact that wasn't true...wouldn't you feel a little resentment.
Nah.
same here, i give away a lot, support a lot, simply because i would not have it but for the support of my family, you can give money and things but the best support is time, knowledge and encouragement, on the flip side though, if you are so petty, resentful, and pathetic that you are counting other people's money then you need to get a life and pursue your own success while you are (relatively) young and healthy and perhaps by showing some initiative that wealthy relative will help to show you how to be successful, teach you how to fish instead of feeding you scraps
Stan747
12-21-2007, 02:14 PM
same here, i give away a lot, support a lot, simply because i would not have it but for the support of my family, you can give money and things but the best support is time, knowledge and encouragement, on the flip side though, if you are so petty, resentful, and pathetic that you are counting other people's money then you need to get a life and pursue your own success while you are (relatively) young and healthy and perhaps by showing some initiative that wealthy relative will help to show you how to be successful, teach you how to fish instead of feeding you scraps
I wasn't counting anyone's money. I feel this way...when you make the decision to "not help family members when you can" it 'is' your decision to do just that...but some people forget that they may need their family one day.
Putting someone in your will so they will get your money when you're gone is not the same as helping them while you're alive...the family member that you willed your money to may die before you. I don't feel that's being petty or pathetic...I have helped family members that have never done a damm thing for me.
housemasterreggie
12-21-2007, 03:54 PM
or had become wealthy, do you feel this family member should give you a piece of the pie..or at least hire you at his or her businessno i don't have to give anything...that is a big turnoff when your family visits. that is bullshit...
Stan747
12-21-2007, 04:03 PM
no i don't have to give anything...that is a big turnoff when your family visits. that is bullshit...
That's your choice, and you should be respected for your choice, but I hope they have a heart and look beyond your decisions if or when you ever really need them.
The Italians and Sicilians are very family oriented people and I admire them for that. It has made them very proud people. It makes me scratch my head how my Sicilian mentor has given me better advice than some of my own family members.
I really dont think you are talking about money here but treatment of family members.. Some think they dont need anyone and distance themselves or treat them unkind till they are in need for what ever reason then they are all humble.
Stan747
12-21-2007, 04:15 PM
My immediete family yes, (parents and my brother) because we're close and I would give to them, but them other sapsuckers (aunts cousins, uncles, etc) hell to da naw!!
..and this is my point...this isn't some distant cousin...this is a sister that has clearly stated "I know you'll be the one to take care of me when the need comes"
How in world can I take care of you when I can't take care of myself, because I had to leave my job...to take care of you
I don't get it...especially when one has all this money. Now, if she never called and asked for anything that would be different.
housemasterreggie
12-21-2007, 04:18 PM
That's your choice, and you should be respected for your choice, but I hope they have a heart and look beyond your decisions if or when you ever really need them.
The Italians and Sicilians are very family oriented people and I admire them for that. It has made them very proud people. It makes me scratch my head how my Sicilian mentor has given me better advice than some of my own family members.
Hey man, I love my family too. I'm there for anything. But it seem when they want to talk you, it's about money or something else.
Stan747
12-21-2007, 04:20 PM
I really dont think you are talking about money here but treatment of family members.. Some think they dont need anyone and distance themselves or treat them unkind till they are in need for what ever reason then they are all humble.
you have a good point Myor - but she's still exceptionally cheap and it doesn't make being around a pleasant experience
you have a good point Myor - but she's still exceptionally cheap and it doesn't make being around a pleasant experience
I guess if you expect her to give you money all the time she is a damn cunt. Perhaps you are expecting too much.. Maybe the problem is you not her.
Stan747
12-21-2007, 04:49 PM
I guess if you expect her to give you money all the time she is a damn cunt. Perhaps you are expecting too much.. Maybe the problem is you not her.
I never considered her to be a cunt...and I never expected for her to give up money all the time. She wasn't asked for money once in my entire life. I only considred she make some type of offer after she started expecting so much.
Maybe, (I AM) the problem for expecting her to do just a little something to help her family.
I never considered her to be a cunt...and I never expected for her to give up money all the time. She wasn't asked for money once in my entire life. I only considred she make some type of offer after she started expecting so much.
Maybe, (I AM) the problem for expecting her to do just a little something to help her family.
You know there was/is this old lady around here owns about 5homes. She has no kids perhaps I should start being nice to her and expect her to at least give me one of her house..
Stan747
12-21-2007, 05:04 PM
You know there was/is this old lady around here owns about 5homes. She has no kids perhaps I should start being nice to her and expect her to at least give me one of her house..
hahahaaa
that just tickled the hell out of me
I hate the fact that that's how I'm coming across.
As this thread ends, I'll just say this...this is not just some old lady that lives around the way...it's a close family member. I guess I expect for people to do what I'd do.
Thanks for your honesty
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