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richierich
03-17-2003, 08:47 AM
Your significant other got macked by someone else? but here is the kicker... guys she got taken by another woman, and ladies your man got taken by another man. How would you really feel or would it matter at all that it was a member of your lovers' same sex that came between the two of you?
Damn DUDE...tough !! I would consider a party with all 3 of us graemlins/grinyes.gif
Can you say, "threesome?" smokin.gif
richierich
03-17-2003, 08:52 AM
Originally posted by Michael J. Carmona:
Damn DUDE...tough !! I would consider a party with all 3 of us graemlins/grinyes.gif No that's not in the plan ... she got taken and don't want nothin' to do with you anymore.... now what???
Sensei Melei
03-17-2003, 08:54 AM
Was she being macked down, or was she actually interested and giving positive responses back?
If it was my significant other (wife in my case) and she was just getting game spit to her, it's no big deal to me. But if she's responding like she's interested, then we have a story. If she acts on it tnen we have a problem.
Originally posted by richierich:
No that's not in the plan ... she got taken and don't want nothin' to do with you anymore.... now what??? First, I would sing "Don't Say (It's Over)" by Stevo Armani, then ....Damn Dude, umm that would be weird, but I have to go back to my college days MOTTO "I'm Young, Dumb, and Full of Cum" graemlins/cool_shades.gif
[ March 17, 2003, 09:01 AM: Message edited by: Michael J. Carmona ]
Friday
03-17-2003, 08:58 AM
macked down....... graemlins/rofl.gif you guys got the best sayings
If that happened to me I think I'd have to bust out my "How to backhand someone when they act stupid" guide.
richierich
03-17-2003, 08:59 AM
Naw she got macked down and taken... she straight left you.. and there are no threesomes. she don't want you nor does her partner. get the threesome fantasy out of the scenario... she's gone... now what??
Eric Miles
03-17-2003, 09:04 AM
In my opinion, if something like that happened - that person wasn't yours to begin with. Cry, sulk, get over it & move on. . . . Thank GOD that you didn't invest even more time, love, energy & resources into such a doubleminded individual....When it comes to relationships, loyalty, trust & faith are tantamount to the relationship! Its unfortunate that its such a rarity these days for men to be faithful to one woman anyway.....and even sadder that the trend is now seeming to extend to the ladies as well.
[ March 17, 2003, 09:05 AM: Message edited by: Eric Miles ]
Originally posted by richierich:
Naw she got macked down and taken... she straight left you.. and there are no threesomes. she don't want you nor does her partner. get the threesome fantasy out of the scenario... she's gone... now what?? Well then F her and ask for every muh fuggen thing you gave her (but be polite, otherwise, she might tell you to F off), then tell her you cheated on her ass all the time so you knew you had it coming. To top it all off, subscribe her to porn and junk mail lists, tee-pee the hell out of her house, and try to hook up with one of her friends (Again, be polite and sly in order to get into the pants). Even better, if you have any nude pics of her, tell her you're gonna post them all over the damn internet and your gonna mail them to all her friends, your friends, and her family. Not that I've ever done any of that before. smokin.gif
[ March 17, 2003, 09:10 AM: Message edited by: Albert D. ]
Friday
03-17-2003, 09:08 AM
Originally posted by Albert D.:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by richierich:
Naw she got macked down and taken... she straight left you.. and there are no threesomes. she don't want you nor does her partner. get the threesome fantasy out of the scenario... she's gone... now what?? Well then F her and ask for every muh fuggen thing you gave her (but be polite, otherwise, she might tell you to F off), then tell her you cheated on her ass all the time so you knew you had it coming. To top it all off, subscribe her to porn and junk mail lists, tee-pee the hell out of her house, and try to hook up with one of her friends (Again, be polite and sly in order to get into the pants). Even better, if you have any nude pics of her, tell her your gonna post them all over the damn internet and your gonna mail them to all her friends, your friends, and her family. Not that I've ever done any of that before. smokin.gif </font>[/QUOTE]Albert, Albert, Albert...... graemlins/jpshakehead.gif
[ March 17, 2003, 09:09 AM: Message edited by: girlfriday ]
Austin/Dallas
03-17-2003, 09:08 AM
My feelings would have to change for that person I could not trust them even though it with same sex individual.
The pussy graemlins/nono.gif cat just don't get that good!!!
Originally posted by girlfriday:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by Albert D.:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by richierich:
Naw she got macked down and taken... she straight left you.. and there are no threesomes. she don't want you nor does her partner. get the threesome fantasy out of the scenario... she's gone... now what?? Well then F her and ask for every muh fuggen thing you gave her (but be polite, otherwise, she might tell you to F off), then tell her you cheated on her ass all the time so you knew you had it coming. To top it all off, subscribe her to porn and junk mail lists, tee-pee the hell out of her house, and try to hook up with one of her friends (Again, be polite and sly in order to get into the pants). Even better, if you have any nude pics of her, tell her your gonna post them all over the damn internet and your gonna mail them to all her friends, your friends, and her family. Not that I've ever done any of that before. smokin.gif </font>[/QUOTE]Albert, Albert, Albert...... graemlins/jpshakehead.gif </font>[/QUOTE]What?? graemlins/remybussi.gif
Originally posted by Albert D.:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by richierich:
Naw she got macked down and taken... she straight left you.. and there are no threesomes. she don't want you nor does her partner. get the threesome fantasy out of the scenario... she's gone... now what?? Well then F her and ask for every muh fuggen thing you gave her (but be polite, otherwise, she might tell you to F off), then tell her you cheated on her ass all the time so you knew you had it coming. To top it all off, subscribe her to porn and junk mail lists, tee-pee the hell out of her house, and try to hook up with one of her friends (Again, be polite and sly in order to get into the pants). Even better, if you have any nude pics of her, tell her you're gonna post them all over the damn internet and your gonna mail them to all her friends, your friends, and her family. Not that I've ever done any of that before. smokin.gif </font>[/QUOTE]that's exactly what i'm talking about. graemlins/acclaim.gif
Shalewa
03-17-2003, 09:16 AM
I think it would be in many ways easier to take for me if my man left me for a man than for a woman because it seems to me that his coming into alignment with his true sexuality is way more about him than about me. I mean if he wants a man there is nothing I can do to "compete" for his affections short of negating my woman-self and that ain't happening. If he wants a different woman and leaves our relationship in the ugly way described in the scenario, that is more deeply ego-wounding because you can get caught up in that whole older, younger, thinner, bustier, richer, more aggressive, less aggressive loop of comparing yourself to the next partner. That said, betrayal is betrayal and any partner who leaves as a direct result of infidelity is a person who needs to check themeselves. Endings are hard but they don't have to be dishonorable.
If I was involved with a woman, who then left me for ANOTHER woman, I'd consider that she'd done me a HUGE-ASS favor!!! I don't need her! I'll find someone a hundred times better. Phuck her and her confusion... let her go "carpet munch". mad1.gif
-HML
Jamie 3:26
03-17-2003, 09:27 AM
Considering the male ego,I would be hurt of course,but you would have to see these kind of things coming.
I guess from me having a few feamle friends who crossed over,I can see some things diffently.I would most def be aware and look out for certain things.If she leaves me for another woman,she was frontin with me anyways.
I would rather that person be honest with me and tell me the deal.It would make it easier for me to deal with.If I see her get macked up and she is totally vibing with this woman,she was already confused and just used me as a scapegoat to fit in.
**** em.I don't have time to worry over that kind of stuff.A woman is gonna do what she wants to when her mind is made up.There is no need to worry.Life is too short to be bugging out over a man or a woman.I guess my heart has been hardened,but I am not going to flip out over another woman...ever!!!
Koffy Brown
03-17-2003, 09:29 AM
Originally posted by Shalewa:
I think it would be in many ways easier to take for me if my man left me for a man than for a woman because it seems to me that his coming into alignment with his true sexuality is way more about him than about me. I mean if he wants a man there is nothing I can do to "compete" for his affections short of negating my woman-self and that ain't happening. If he wants a different woman and leaves our relationship in the ugly way described in the scenario, that is more deeply ego-wounding because you can get caught up in that whole older, younger, thinner, bustier, richer, more aggressive, less aggressive loop of comparing yourself to the next partner. That said, betrayal is betrayal and any partner who leaves as a direct result of infidelity is a person who needs to check themeselves. Endings are hard but they don't have to be dishonorable. I never thought of it that way....
Originally posted by JAMIE 3:26:
I guess my heart has been hardened,but I am not going to flip out over another woman...ever!!! I hear ya! Some women just don't understand that some of us fellas are sensitive too and we need a lil TLC every once in a while. We're not a blubbering mess, but we do have feelings dammit! graemlins/cussing.gif
[ March 17, 2003, 09:40 AM: Message edited by: Albert D. ]
Originally posted by Austin/Dallas:
My feelings would have to change for that person I could not trust them even though it with same sex individual.
The pussy graemlins/nono.gif cat just don't get that good!!! There are no absolutes ;)
Betrayal is betrayal. Same sex, whatever. There are too many factors that influence a person's decision to go for a same sex mackdown. Is a person automatically gay because they cheated on you/left you for a same sex person? What if they found themselves really attracted to that one person? If I were already hurting from a break-up, the gender of whoever they're seeing next doesn't add a unique pain of its own. I'm already hurting ...
I'd still have a few nagging questions I guess.
Relationships are just weird anyway..
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[ March 17, 2003, 10:05 AM: Message edited by: 6 23 ]
First, I would sing "Don't Say (It's Over)" by Stevo Armani, then ....Damn Dude, umm that would be weird, but I have to go back to my college days MOTTO "I'm Young, Dumb, and Full of Cum".
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Alanda Marquette from DiscoLadyLand
03-17-2003, 10:24 AM
Please pardon the expression but **** 'EM. Damn confused horny ass freaks.
Most of the time anyone that start as a heterosexual and all of a sudden decide that they are gay simply don't know what they want. I am not talking about the folk that have claimed to be straight all their life only to hide their homosexuality because of what family or friends think. It's an act of selfishness and has nothing to do with the other person.
Just my opinion graemlins/cool_shades.gif
richierich
03-17-2003, 10:42 AM
Originally posted by DiscoLady:
Please pardon the expression but **** 'EM. Damn confused horny ass freaks.
Most of the time anyone that start as a heterosexual and all of a sudden decide that they are gay simply don't know what they want. I am not talking about the folk that have claimed to be straight all their life only to hide their homosexuality because of what family or friends think. It's an act of selfishness and has nothing to do with the other person.
Just my opinion graemlins/cool_shades.gif No but this was your soulmate. Not someone you just met. Seriously how would you feel emotionally, How is anybody gonna just say **** it if they deeply cared for that person. Yeah we all can say.."**** em and all of this macho or bravado, but really deep down how would you really Feel inside. That's what I want to hear, not what woud you do. I mean your TRUE,DEEP Feelings inside. How would you even know if it's all of a sudden or something that they've been thinking about for years?
richierich
03-17-2003, 10:44 AM
Originally posted by Shalewa:
I think it would be in many ways easier to take for me if my man left me for a man than for a woman because it seems to me that his coming into alignment with his true sexuality is way more about him than about me. I mean if he wants a man there is nothing I can do to "compete" for his affections short of negating my woman-self and that ain't happening. If he wants a different woman and leaves our relationship in the ugly way described in the scenario, that is more deeply ego-wounding because you can get caught up in that whole older, younger, thinner, bustier, richer, more aggressive, less aggressive loop of comparing yourself to the next partner. That said, betrayal is betrayal and any partner who leaves as a direct result of infidelity is a person who needs to check themeselves. Endings are hard but they don't have to be dishonorable. Thank you for a true response.
most guys would feel crushed to get dumped at all, even moreso if the girl was cheating and even more than that if it was a girl, for most cats that is probably the most degrading blow to the male ego. the more macho you are the worse it will hurt.
yet, more importantly, you should check whether they were really such a soulmate, changing sexual orientation is a big deal and maybe you should have seen it coming. bottom line though is you cannot control people, and everyone is free to make choices, even bad ones. learn from it and move on
[ March 17, 2003, 10:54 AM: Message edited by: mhd ]
dennis f
03-17-2003, 11:02 AM
ppl can talk all shizit they wan't but honestly I'd be crushed! I'd probably just lay down and curl myself up into a ball like a fetus for a month!! Look....betrayal is betrayal no matter whatever preference your significant other has decided to post up with. It's not the actual sex part that hurts, hey i can deal with a "honey, he/she was cute and I was just horny and needed to get off", I can actually live with that...but to spend time with someone..basically having a relationship is the part that's f'd up! That's just something you don't do....#1 rule: bone if your gonna bone....but don't spend enough time to let the feelings creep up on your ass....
man...i get chills just thinkin' about this!!
Bad ass shizit!
laters
dee
Phuck him or her. Just move on. Just because someone else is phucked up is no reason to let them phuck you up. There's six billion people on the planet. Find someone else and don't sweat it....JMJ graemlins/cool_shades.gif
Originally posted by richierich:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by DiscoLady:
Please pardon the expression but **** 'EM. Damn confused horny ass freaks.
Most of the time anyone that start as a heterosexual and all of a sudden decide that they are gay simply don't know what they want. I am not talking about the folk that have claimed to be straight all their life only to hide their homosexuality because of what family or friends think. It's an act of selfishness and has nothing to do with the other person.
Just my opinion graemlins/cool_shades.gif No but this was your soulmate. Not someone you just met. Seriously how would you feel emotionally, How is anybody gonna just say **** it if they deeply cared for that person. Yeah we all can say.."**** em and all of this macho or bravado, but really deep down how would you really Feel inside. That's what I want to hear, not what woud you do. I mean your TRUE,DEEP Feelings inside. How would you even know if it's all of a sudden or something that they've been thinking about for years? </font>[/QUOTE]They WEREN'T your soulmate, Richie. If they were, this wouldn't have happened. Move on.....JMJ
Pete Nice
03-17-2003, 12:17 PM
i would expect it and buy a bottle of grey goose and celebrate being right..... graemlins/all_coholic.gif
richierich
03-17-2003, 01:05 PM
No JMJ it didn't happen to me ot was just a question.
Peace
richierich
03-17-2003, 01:05 PM
No JMJ it didn't happen to me it was just a question.
Peace
Jamie 3:26
03-17-2003, 01:07 PM
Originally posted by richierich:
No JMJ it didn't happen to me ot was just a question.
Peace Suuuuuuuurrrre..... graemlins/rofl.gif
richierich
03-17-2003, 01:07 PM
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[ March 17, 2003, 01:07 PM: Message edited by: richierich ]
VEESTER
03-17-2003, 01:07 PM
What up Rich!? In either case it wouldn't feel good to be left by your significant other whether it's the same sex or opposite. Of course a person is gonna be upset by all of this but eventually you have to move on. Obviously that person isn't the one for you. I know it's easier said then done but such is life.
richierich
03-17-2003, 01:17 PM
I see I aint gonna get too many straight answers. Too much "I wouldn't care" stuff (Which I don't believe for a minute) You mean to tell me if the person you loved left you, you wouldn't care??? Please ... a lot of brothers call a woman a bitch even if they can't get a conversation now you gonna say you don't care if she leaves you. I DON'T BELIEVE THAT FOR ONE SECOND.
Alanda Marquette from DiscoLadyLand
03-17-2003, 01:26 PM
Originally posted by richierich:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by DiscoLady:
Please pardon the expression but **** 'EM. Damn confused horny ass freaks.
Most of the time anyone that start as a heterosexual and all of a sudden decide that they are gay simply don't know what they want. I am not talking about the folk that have claimed to be straight all their life only to hide their homosexuality because of what family or friends think. It's an act of selfishness and has nothing to do with the other person.
Just my opinion graemlins/cool_shades.gif No but this was your soulmate. Not someone you just met. Seriously how would you feel emotionally, How is anybody gonna just say **** it if they deeply cared for that person. Yeah we all can say.."**** em and all of this macho or bravado, but really deep down how would you really Feel inside. That's what I want to hear, not what woud you do. I mean your TRUE,DEEP Feelings inside. How would you even know if it's all of a sudden or something that they've been thinking about for years? </font>[/QUOTE]Emotionally I would be hurt but must move on. I have enough emotionally war medals. I have been through a couple of worse relationships and my tolerance isn't the same as others. I could forgive but not stay with that person if that happend.
Also about being soulmates. Obviously that person isn't a soulmate if they can ruin what we had and do something like that. An extramarital affair with the opposite sex I can handle because I know that he is attracted to women (I will still leave him). I couldn't handle my husband screwing another man. Because that crosses a whole other barrier and he hid a deep secret from me about his appetite.
Luckily I don't have to worry about that. Now there are other ex's that I probably would have had to experience that with. Whew! I am so glad I chose carefully.
[ March 17, 2003, 01:28 PM: Message edited by: DiscoLady ]
MsAlayneous
03-17-2003, 01:26 PM
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[ March 19, 2003, 01:24 AM: Message edited by: deepred ]
Alanda Marquette from DiscoLadyLand
03-17-2003, 01:30 PM
Originally posted by JMJ:
Phuck him or her. Just move on. Just because someone else is phucked up is no reason to let them phuck you up. There's six billion people on the planet. Find someone else and don't sweat it....JMJ graemlins/cool_shades.gif This may sound strange, but I am in total agreement with you JMJ.
Jamie 3:26
03-17-2003, 01:32 PM
Originally posted by richierich:
I see I aint gonna get too many straight answers. Too much "I wouldn't care" stuff (Which I don't believe for a minute) You mean to tell me if the person you loved left you, you wouldn't care??? Please ... a lot of brothers call a woman a bitch even if they can't get a conversation now you gonna say you don't care if she leaves you. I DON'T BELIEVE THAT FOR ONE SECOND. Rich,like I said before bruh,my heart has been hardened.I would not say that it would not bug me out,but my days of crying over a woman are done.
Yeah,the ego would be bruised,but if it was my wife who did this shit,I still would be hurt,but not all "I'm going to kill myself..."
I am over that....
rob brito
03-17-2003, 01:35 PM
They WEREN'T your soulmate, Richie. If they were, this wouldn't have happened. Move on.....JMJ [/QB]people do make the wrong decisions here and there. people may belong with each other but it doesn't mean the circumstances will favour them coming or staying together.
keep on though, YOUR happiness is crucial.
Originally posted by richierich:
I see I aint gonna get too many straight answers. Too much "I wouldn't care" stuff (Which I don't believe for a minute) You mean to tell me if the person you loved left you, you wouldn't care??? Please ... a lot of brothers call a woman a bitch even if they can't get a conversation now you gonna say you don't care if she leaves you. I DON'T BELIEVE THAT FOR ONE SECOND. What I gave you WAS a straight answer. I think it's all about where your mindset is. Any woman that is gonna leave for another man or woman is not YOUR soulmate. Period. Something like that might have bothered me 15 years ago, but not now. It's all about where your at in life. Unless the woman can make me happier than I already am, and vice-versa, then why bother?? And if she leaves me for another woman, who cares?? It wasn't meant to be. Too many people beat themselves up over these things. It's pointless. Pick up your ball and move on.
We're all different, Richie. You asked for an opinion, and we gave you one, whether you agree with it or believe the sincerity. Peace.......JMJ
Alanda Marquette from DiscoLadyLand
03-17-2003, 01:42 PM
Originally posted by richierich:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by Shalewa:
I think it would be in many ways easier to take for me if my man left me for a man than for a woman because it seems to me that his coming into alignment with his true sexuality is way more about him than about me. I mean if he wants a man there is nothing I can do to "compete" for his affections short of negating my woman-self and that ain't happening. If he wants a different woman and leaves our relationship in the ugly way described in the scenario, that is more deeply ego-wounding because you can get caught up in that whole older, younger, thinner, bustier, richer, more aggressive, less aggressive loop of comparing yourself to the next partner. That said, betrayal is betrayal and any partner who leaves as a direct result of infidelity is a person who needs to check themeselves. Endings are hard but they don't have to be dishonorable. Thank you for a true response. </font>[/QUOTE]So if others say they won't care isn't a true response? You have no idea how others feel especially the peeps that have been through endless, hopeless battles of emotional distress. I guess age plays a major role in how to handle most things. If I were 10 - 15 years younger I would probably hurt him and the person he is cheating with mainly because I couldn't handle rejection then.
I am sure that other folk that posted that wouldn't care probably been thru enough garbage not to. Life is too short to waste it on sexual appetite (in the process of being connected with your soulmate) and being hurt plus withdrawn because of it.
[ March 17, 2003, 01:47 PM: Message edited by: DiscoLady ]
Originally posted by DiscoLady:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by JMJ:
Phuck him or her. Just move on. Just because someone else is phucked up is no reason to let them phuck you up. There's six billion people on the planet. Find someone else and don't sweat it....JMJ graemlins/cool_shades.gif This may sound strange, but I am in total agreement with you JMJ. </font>[/QUOTE]Miracles never cease......JMJ graemlins/remybussi.gif
richierich
03-17-2003, 02:06 PM
Originally posted by JMJ:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by richierich:
I see I aint gonna get too many straight answers. Too much "I wouldn't care" stuff (Which I don't believe for a minute) You mean to tell me if the person you loved left you, you wouldn't care??? Please ... a lot of brothers call a woman a bitch even if they can't get a conversation now you gonna say you don't care if she leaves you. I DON'T BELIEVE THAT FOR ONE SECOND. What I gave you WAS a straight answer. I think it's all about where your mindset is. Any woman that is gonna leave for another man or woman is not YOUR soulmate. Period. Something like that might have bothered me 15 years ago, but not now. It's all about where your at in life. Unless the woman can make me happier than I already am, and vice-versa, then why bother?? And if she leaves me for another woman, who cares?? It wasn't meant to be. Too many people beat themselves up over these things. It's pointless. Pick up your ball and move on.
We're all different, Richie. You asked for an opinion, and we gave you one, whether you agree with it or believe the sincerity. Peace.......JMJ </font>[/QUOTE]Cool my brother
DJ RON C
03-17-2003, 02:25 PM
I can sum it all up in one word: Goodbye graemlins/cool_shades.gif
richierich
03-17-2003, 02:34 PM
Originally posted by DiscoLady:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by richierich:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by Shalewa:
I think it would be in many ways easier to take for me if my man left me for a man than for a woman because it seems to me that his coming into alignment with his true sexuality is way more about him than about me. I mean if he wants a man there is nothing I can do to "compete" for his affections short of negating my woman-self and that ain't happening. If he wants a different woman and leaves our relationship in the ugly way described in the scenario, that is more deeply ego-wounding because you can get caught up in that whole older, younger, thinner, bustier, richer, more aggressive, less aggressive loop of comparing yourself to the next partner. That said, betrayal is betrayal and any partner who leaves as a direct result of infidelity is a person who needs to check themeselves. Endings are hard but they don't have to be dishonorable. Thank you for a true response. </font>[/QUOTE]So if others say they won't care isn't a true response? You have no idea how others feel especially the peeps that have been through endless, hopeless battles of emotional distress. I guess age plays a major role in how to handle most things. If I were 10 - 15 years younger I would probably hurt him and the person he is cheating with mainly because I couldn't handle rejection then.
I am sure that other folk that posted that wouldn't care probably been thru enough garbage not to. Life is too short to waste it on sexual appetite (in the process of being connected with your soulmate) and being hurt plus withdrawn because of it. </font>[/QUOTE]Naw that aint what I"m sayin'. I really could have worded it better and yes all responses are true whether I agree with them or not. Some can handle this situation better than others obviously. What I was trying to get at was the real genuine emotion of a break up with someone that you truely, deeply care about. I wasn't expecting people to say ,"I'm gonna kill myself or not get over it. I just wanted to cut thru the fronts that people put up to hide their true feelings when they have truely been hurt. People have been killed , shot, stabbed and all kinds of stuff over breakups and for someone to say they don't care just took me as very callous. I just thought that if someone left you that you loved that it would have some kind of affect on a person, that's all.If I loved someone and they left me for whatever reason.. yeah I know I gotta move on but I would also be hurt inside. Not suicidal or anything, but I mean Damn no feelings at all?? No feelings at all???? Oh Well!!
Peace
HouseDiva
03-17-2003, 02:35 PM
i guess i am just the crazy one cause i would be pissed, mad and ready to put some sugar in somebody's gas tank... bleach in the clothes, etc...
that would hurt like 'ell and just saying puck them is not gonna get it for me...
but may be i am just crazy.. lawd have mercy... i humm i would have to hurt my ex man and his new man....
HouseDiva
03-17-2003, 02:41 PM
Originally posted by square root:
i would expect it and buy a bottle of grey goose and celebrate being right..... graemlins/all_coholic.gif see i like your idea the goose gotta fly smile.gif graemlins/all_coholic.gif graemlins/all_coholic.gif graemlins/all_coholic.gif
Alanda Marquette from DiscoLadyLand
03-17-2003, 02:43 PM
Originally posted by richierich:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by DiscoLady:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by richierich:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by Shalewa:
I think it would be in many ways easier to take for me if my man left me for a man than for a woman because it seems to me that his coming into alignment with his true sexuality is way more about him than about me. I mean if he wants a man there is nothing I can do to "compete" for his affections short of negating my woman-self and that ain't happening. If he wants a different woman and leaves our relationship in the ugly way described in the scenario, that is more deeply ego-wounding because you can get caught up in that whole older, younger, thinner, bustier, richer, more aggressive, less aggressive loop of comparing yourself to the next partner. That said, betrayal is betrayal and any partner who leaves as a direct result of infidelity is a person who needs to check themeselves. Endings are hard but they don't have to be dishonorable. Thank you for a true response. </font>[/QUOTE]So if others say they won't care isn't a true response? You have no idea how others feel especially the peeps that have been through endless, hopeless battles of emotional distress. I guess age plays a major role in how to handle most things. If I were 10 - 15 years younger I would probably hurt him and the person he is cheating with mainly because I couldn't handle rejection then.
I am sure that other folk that posted that wouldn't care probably been thru enough garbage not to. Life is too short to waste it on sexual appetite (in the process of being connected with your soulmate) and being hurt plus withdrawn because of it. </font>[/QUOTE]Naw that aint what I"m sayin'. I really could have worded it better and yes all responses are true whether I agree with them or not. Some can handle this situation better than others obviously. What I was trying to get at was the real genuine emotion of a break up with someone that you truely, deeply care about. I wasn't expecting people to say ,"I'm gonna kill myself or not get over it. I just wanted to cut thru the fronts that people put up to hide their true feelings when they have truely been hurt. People have been killed , shot, stabbed and all kinds of stuff over breakups and for someone to say they don't care just took me as very callous. I just thought that if someone left you that you loved that it would have some kind of affect on a person, that's all.If I loved someone and they left me for whatever reason.. yeah I know I gotta move on but I would also be hurt inside. Not suicidal or anything, but I mean Damn no feelings at all?? No feelings at all???? Oh Well!!
Peace </font>[/QUOTE]Maybe I should have made it a little more simple by saying: Been There Done That! Hurt is hurt no matter what form it's in. Yes, hurt will be there but the numbness takes over, especially when you thought you were with that "special" person many times before. So if it's the first time that you've been hurt then yes, it will be devastating.
lola desire
03-17-2003, 03:58 PM
what should you do?
thank her for the time you spent together. move on. there are plenty of people to meet. she couldn't have been your "soulmate" if she was macked and chose against you. instead of being salty about her leaving, be thankful that you found out now instead of later when it could have been more complex.
transitions are challenging, look for the lesson.
Pete Nice
03-17-2003, 03:58 PM
Originally posted by HouseDiva:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by square root:
i would expect it and buy a bottle of grey goose and celebrate being right..... graemlins/all_coholic.gif see i like your idea the goose gotta fly smile.gif graemlins/all_coholic.gif graemlins/all_coholic.gif graemlins/all_coholic.gif </font>[/QUOTE]yes, the goose is a great co-pilot when it comes to gettin' screwed over. to bad there's no parachute to go with it....
besides there's 1 of 4 things to do in a situation like this:
1.hurt that person as much as you feel you were hurt.
2.grow up and learn from it and hope they're happy.
3.go on an endless amount of benders 'til you can't remember what that person looks like or what there name was and then check into rehab.
4.do all of the above and hope you still have a job after all is said and done. graemlins/thumbsup.gif
Alanda Marquette from DiscoLadyLand
03-17-2003, 04:02 PM
Originally posted by lola desire:
what should you do?
thank her for the time you spent together. move on. there are plenty of people to meet. she couldn't have been your "soulmate" if she was macked and chose against you. instead of being salty about her leaving, be thankful that you found out now instead of later when it could have been more complex.
transitions are challenging, look for the lesson. Bravo Lola. I love your words of wisdom hail.gif
richierich
03-17-2003, 04:12 PM
Originally posted by lola desire:
what should you do?
thank her for the time you spent together. move on. there are plenty of people to meet. she couldn't have been your "soulmate" if she was macked and chose against you. instead of being salty about her leaving, be thankful that you found out now instead of later when it could have been more complex.
transitions are challenging, look for the lesson. Now see, I didn't ask what you should do, I asked how would you feel emotionally inside? Can you tell me that if your man left you, you wouldn't feel anything??
MsAlayneous
03-19-2003, 01:22 AM
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Bold Soul
03-19-2003, 02:20 AM
I would feel guilty for my own lack of self-honesty. I obviously ignored or downplayed signs that something like this could have been there. Why did I fool myself? What did I require from this relationship where illusion was acceptable?
There would be quite a head check in order after something such as this.
(Im)poster
03-19-2003, 07:06 PM
It would probably hurt, but at least I would feel a little better knowing that he obviously needed something I could not give him....
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