Did I miss something? Does turning around while dancing=dudes on your azz? [Archive]

Discogoddess

05-19-2003, 04:07 PM

Yall:

Help me out...I know I've been away from the party scene for a while, but is it now common practice for dudes to "jack" your booty simply because you turn around (back to them) while dancing? I was always under the impression that the two of you had to be vibing previously, while dancing face-to-face, before a dude had "permission" to get all up on the behind.

The "premature booty-jacking" happened while I danced with two different guys on Saturday. Even after I said to one "too close, please back up," and "I'm not used to/comfortable with guys other than my husband touching me like that" to the other, they kept it up. I stopped turning around (which is something I do when I'm feeling the music/want to do a different dance step, and not about my dance partner at ALL) after a while, which sucked.

Your thoughts, please...

richierich

05-19-2003, 04:10 PM

It used to be common practice. Dance floor lurkers will always be at the party. They wont know that you don't want to jack like that unless you make it clear. Girls with flat asses need not worry. One time at The Power Plant this girl actually pushed me up on her friend because I was dancing too far back off of her. Go figure!! One other time at The Sidecar a girl that I knew and was dancing with backed it up and was grinding so hard that it actually hurt.. I was like Damn!!!! what is she trying to do?

[ May 20, 2003, 08:18 AM: Message edited by: richierich ]

Discogoddess

05-19-2003, 04:14 PM

@Richierich: see, I used to encounter this from time to time back in the day, but most of the time, when a guy was jacking my booty, it was because it was a mutually agreed upon thing (i.e., we were feeling each other/the music/vibe)Back then, most of the unwanted booty jackers (sounds like a gay porno film title, huh?) chilled after the first warning.

LOL @ "girls with flat asses need not worry"...I wouldn't know what that's like...like a lot of sistas, been carrying this thing around with me since age 10 or so!

[ May 19, 2003, 05:16 PM: Message edited by: Discogoddess ]

DJCA

05-19-2003, 04:22 PM

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This is tooooooo funny.

Premature Booty Jacking use to be the only reason so-called "Straight men" use to come to the clubs.
They use to think that the finest women were at these clubs and our "freedom of Body" dance style was like an open invitation for "Dry Humping".

I guess some things never change.

I use to have to get real rude with some of these"Dance-floor booty rapist". Then I started dancing with many of my close gay male friends around me, This seemed to run off the "booty mongers". Then I would start having my signifigant other do it (respectfully). But the easiest and funniest way was to just slip away from the floor when they were not paying attention and looking at their expressions when they realized they were dancing with each other.

05-19-2003, 04:25 PM

....ha ha, considering your affliction, I'd be all up on U.

Among other problems, this is one that I am not
working on changing!.....Considering that I cant dance, I wont even try to dance with a sista if I aint behind her(period)....

Aint no problem to me!

SHEIK YERBOUTI

05-19-2003, 04:27 PM

"Booty Jackers" (Insert wah-wah guitar dominated porno music here)...

I can honestly say that I don't do that unless the signal is given, ie a woman will push-up as it were. She keeps her distance, I keep mine unless the gap is closed. 'Nuff said.

Do I get my 'nice guy' cookie now? :D

Discogoddess

05-19-2003, 04:29 PM

LMBAO @"booty mongers"!!!!!!! graemlins/rofl.gif graemlins/rofl.gif graemlins/rofl.gif graemlins/rofl.gif graemlins/rofl.gif graemlins/rofl.gif

If that doesn't sound like a male gay porn title, I don't know what does!!!!

Actually, I hung with my hubby and his crew back in the day because they were the "safe" guys my sister and I would dance with, without fear of forced booty-jacking. Of course, I did mess around and let my then-friend, now hubby get up on it...then we messed around and got married! ;)

Discogoddess

05-19-2003, 04:31 PM

*Feeding toomuchtv his "nice guy" cookie*

But you know what? Nice guys can be booty-jackers, too, given the right situation... smile.gif

And thank you for "waiting for the signal"...that's all I ask for.

SHEIK YERBOUTI

05-19-2003, 04:34 PM

"munch, munch, munch... "

TASTY! ;)

DJCA

05-19-2003, 04:36 PM

Oh how true! sometimes the "Niceguy" can be the worst Booty Monger of them all because, we do'nt expect it!
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Have you ever experienced this? "The Booty Monger Hard-on,hit you in the A** suprize"?

Now that is just NASTY, It DESERVES the TOTAL SNAP-OFF
FROM US SISTERS!

SHEIK YERBOUTI

05-19-2003, 04:41 PM

True dat dere, but at least I am polite 'bout it.

"Excuse me miss, but am I allowed to feel on your booty? Then let the mongerin' begin!!!" ;)

05-19-2003, 04:41 PM

Ya know Ta---DJCA, that last comment did it!

.....I am getting off line for what I might type....

2121

05-19-2003, 04:58 PM

what's the best way to tell a guy to leave you alone?

DJCA

05-19-2003, 05:02 PM

HEY!
LEAVE ME ALONE!
Thats the best way to tell him

And

05-19-2003, 05:13 PM

Discogoddess, perhaps you'd be interested in this anti booty jack device. Chuckles ;)
http://www.autobarn.com/images/miva/winner/ac7000.jpg

[ May 19, 2003, 06:16 PM: Message edited by: 6 23 ]

DJ RON C

05-19-2003, 06:02 PM

I think the best way for a woman to get away from the premature booty jack is the patented "accidental nut crunch". When the unwanted jacker makes his move simply kick your leg back quickly a couple of times. Once he sees the foot flying he will back off, unless he is too stupid and hangs on until it connects.

Another way is the "oops, was that your foot?" stomping tecnique. That one always works as well. graemlins/thumbsup.gif graemlins/cool_shades.gif

DJCA

05-19-2003, 06:20 PM

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YOU ARE TOOOO FUNNY!!!!

DJ RON C

05-19-2003, 06:33 PM

hey, I've seen some sistas do some crucial moves to keep the brothers at bay. I've seen the nut crunch, the foot stomp, the knee to the cradle move, face slappin' and even a foot sweep during my party experience. That is why you should never approach without permission. Otherwise you better have and a good HMO. graemlins/cool_shades.gif

DJCA

05-19-2003, 06:37 PM

I know
I Have done the "Nut Crunch" myself before,
Had to use it several times at the MusicBox&and at the Powerplant.

The accidental foot stomp was manditory to have under your belt when you were at The Playground and Mendel! ;)

(Im)poster

05-19-2003, 06:39 PM

Originally posted by DJ RON C:
I think the best way for a woman to get away from the premature booty jack is the patented "accidental nut crunch". When the unwanted jacker makes his move simply kick your leg back quickly a couple of times. I prefer a half turn with a few purposeful get-off-my-ass knee lifts. Never fails. :D

DJCA

05-19-2003, 07:00 PM

I think the best way for a woman to get away from the premature booty jack is the patented "accidental nut crunch". When the unwanted jacker makes his move simply kick your leg back quickly a couple of times. [/QUOTE]I prefer a half turn with a few purposeful get-off-my-ass knee lifts. Never fails. :D [/QB][/QUOTE]
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Tooooooooo Funny!

Hey (IM)POSTER
PM me
DJCA

DJ George Bates

05-19-2003, 07:17 PM

That's funny !!

My wife only dances with me and I with her.. unless it's a mutually agreed on friend.

that way the " booty jackers " icon_rofl.gif
can't mess with her and they will get the hint that she is taken...if all fails she warns...then i warn..'nuff said !

Pete Nice

05-19-2003, 07:21 PM

this seems to be the norm. girl dancing turns, maybe smiles, keeps on dancin'. guy sees this, thinks he's in and bum rushes the show. you can always tell him to back up or get f**ked up AR15firing.gif that's why you got security.

[ May 19, 2003, 08:21 PM: Message edited by: square root ]

Discogoddess

05-19-2003, 08:05 PM

Originally posted by DJCA:
...Have you ever experienced this? "The Booty Monger Hard-on,hit you in the A** suprize"?

Now that is just NASTY, It DESERVES the TOTAL SNAP-OFF FROM US SISTERS! Oh chile, yes, but not recently, thank God! That is some nassy azz isht and makes me feel uncomfortable as hell (well, 'cept for with my honeyhubby). It's like, DAMN! Have some *ick control, maine!!!!! And I will be trying the accidental nut crunch the very next time some booty monger wants to get cute.

@6 23: icon_rofl.gif graemlins/rofl.gif graemlins/rofl.gif graemlins/rofl.gif icon_rofl.gif @ the "anti booty jacking device"

@DJChex: that's all good that you and your wife only dance with each other, or "pre-approved" friends, but honeyhubby hasn't been wanting to come out with me lately, so what's a girl to do? Hold up the walls all night....nuh uh! If I'm not out with my pre-approved male friends, I just start dancing with myself, or my girls, and booty jackers disguising themselves as regular dudes slowly roll up on me... :D

Thanks, yall, for the laughs...I lub u!

[ May 19, 2003, 09:11 PM: Message edited by: Discogoddess ]

Red D

05-20-2003, 12:52 AM

I DO wanna see all of this when I'm in Detroit Discogodess graemlins/rofl.gif

Mind you, I'm one of those Europeans that was described in the thread 'Why Europeans can't dance'... I get my groove on, but it's a bit of a stiff-not-too-good-in-the-rhythm groove... Over here in Europe dancing to house and disco in Clubs is almost exclusively dancing with yourself, and dancing = moving to the music. The advantage is that you don't need a lot of space and even packed dancefloors can be fun.

But I've wanted to see some real jacking for years now, so give it to me! icon_rofl.gif

RD

Shalewa

05-20-2003, 07:15 AM

Dancefloor culture on the East Coast is a bit different from the culture in the Midwest. Brothers out there are WAY more aggressive physically and verbally when you are dancing. It was actually sort of intimidating to me to have big dudes getting right up in my space talking trash and trying to push up when I visited Chicago the first few times. I am several steps of comfort away from dressing in my normal Shelter gear out there for fear that a riot might break out... Out here most regulars know better than to creep up and can read the signals in a few well placed knee lifts and back up if they come in too close. The harder cases might find my foot an inch or so from the end of their noses or my dust as I move to another part of the floor. On crowded floors with no easy alternative spaces I will stop dancing and say something to a guy or dance perpendicular to him an throw out an elbow if he tries to realign himself with my booty. I should teach a defensive dancing course...

JMJ

05-20-2003, 07:23 AM

Originally posted by 2121:
what's the best way to tell a guy to leave you alone? If telling them verbally doesn't make them back off, a loud, nasty fart should do the trick. Guys will then give you all the space you need. Next question.....JMJ

Koffy Brown

05-20-2003, 07:27 AM

graemlins/rofl.gif @ dry humping and premature booty jacking,
accidental nut crunch :D

[ May 20, 2003, 08:32 AM: Message edited by: Ashaki ]

05-20-2003, 07:29 AM

(What tha...)....sorta laughing....

I aint that way, I am, but really dough.....

When me and my buddy hit that Dragon Lounge on Evergreen, we peep, do a little talking, and if the sista is gonna dance that way, way-cool!....if not, she's dancing with him while I am off to another its simple.

Dont get me wrong I've been pushed off many of times, but once is all it takes, so watch them elbows and knees......if you got esteem you just go on to the next one.....easy and drama free...

House its different, I am jumping around alone.

lola desire

05-20-2003, 07:36 AM

Originally posted by Discogoddess:
Yall:

Help me out...I know I've been away from the party scene for a while, but is it now common practice for dudes to "jack" your booty simply because you turn around (back to them) while dancing? I was always under the impression that the two of you had to be vibing previously, while dancing face-to-face, before a dude had "permission" to get all up on the behind.

The "premature booty-jacking" happened while I danced with two different guys on Saturday. Even after I said to one "too close, please back up," and "I'm not used to/comfortable with guys other than my husband touching me like that" to the other, they kept it up. I stopped turning around (which is something I do when I'm feeling the music/want to do a different dance step, and not about my dance partner at ALL) after a while, which sucked.

Your thoughts, please... yes, things have changed. folks tend to be less conciderate and decent about people they meet in the club / on the dancefloor. although it's an unfortunate trend, there are still some reasonable folks out there. in the meantime, here is a tip:

instead of turning completely around, try dancing perpendicular to the imprompto dance partner / would-be offender, then do the new dance step you want to try. this relative position sends the message: i'm not really trying to dance with you. while you do the step, try to make a little space around yourself by raising your arms out in front of you, kinda ballet style, as if you were holding a large ball. this is a typical chicago deep house posture indicating "watch out now, i'm bout to snap".

if this effort fails, just get "wisked away by the crowd".

good luck and happy dancing

lola desire

05-20-2003, 07:40 AM

Originally posted by Shalewa:
...or dance perpendicular to him an throw out an elbow if he tries to realign himself with my booty. I should teach a defensive dancing course... word, sis. would have seconded this had i seen it before i responded.

Fletch

05-20-2003, 03:49 PM

I will show a sista the respect she deserves, but I will say this:

I anyone has to resort to elbows, knees and farts to back someone up, particularly the first go round, then that person DOES NOT belong on the dance floor (at least should not be dancin
with anyone)!!!!!

Remember, fartin' doesn't only affect the person being backed up!!!!!!

Skip Intro

05-20-2003, 03:59 PM

Originally posted by Discogoddess:
Yall:

The "premature booty-jacking" happened while I danced with two different guys on Saturday. Even after I said to one "too close, please back up," and "I'm not used to/comfortable with guys other than my husband touching me like that" to the other, they kept it up. I stopped turning around (which is something I do when I'm feeling the music/want to do a different dance step, and not about my dance partner at ALL) after a while, which sucked.

Your thoughts, please... What a lady! I'm sure you're husband would be proud.

Discogoddess

05-20-2003, 04:21 PM

Originally posted by einnod23:
...Remember, fartin' doesn't only affect the person being backed up!!!!!! You ain't nevah lied! Farting on the dance floor is an offense that should result in tarring and feathering, or something else really painful. Especially on a very crowded dance floor, where there's no escape!

Discogoddess

05-20-2003, 04:23 PM

Originally posted by Mykhal:
What a lady! I'm sure you're husband would be proud. *Blushing*

Awww shucks...thanks. Don't mind kicking on the dance floor with other fellas, but my honey is always front and center in my mind/heart. Signing off now to go be mushy by myself...

Bobby

05-20-2003, 04:24 PM

"booty jacking"?? interesting phrase :rolleyes:

Discogoddess

05-20-2003, 04:26 PM

@my sisters Lola and Shalewa: Thanx for the additional tips! Yeah, maybe we need some dancefloor etiquette and defensive dance classes up in here!

I know this is naive, but I always thought that house/disco parties were a bit exempt from some of the silliness that goes on. You know, all of us getting lifted off the same vibe, house music being a soul/body/mind thing, etc. Guess that don't stop the booty-jacking/tryna holla show, though, huh? :D

Jay Rags

05-21-2003, 09:38 AM

Ladies it's women who pull the "turn-around" move and want the guy up on her that is causing this. I myself got tricked into this by a flirting female at this years WMC. Check it.

I'm dancing by myself facing the dj booth where Louie Vega and Kenny Dope are playing. All of a sudden over a course of about 3 minuts, a nice looking woman appeared in front of me with her butt facing me and sort of close. Since I was not back in Baltimore I was a little apprehensive about gettin' all up on her like that, but she was dancing real sexy and up close. It wasn't even that crowded where I was. She kept looking around like "where is this fool at". So finally I stepped up to her(and it only took a half step). She turns around looking at me like I invaded her space! I just moved over a little because, afterall she was the one that put her *ss all in my zone.

But I just want to tell you ladies that there are some guys left out here who will at least wait for some sort of dance floor signal before trying the ignorant dry hump thing.

Plus I just wanted to hear "Cerca de mi" anyway.

05-21-2003, 09:41 AM

immature men are everywhere - you just gotta let them know and they'll eventually get it...

Austin/Dallas

05-21-2003, 09:43 AM

Everyone has not learned the art of Jackin on the dance floor..Some exploit it to make it orgie dancing instead of an art of getting down like a sequence swimmer.

lola desire

05-21-2003, 09:47 AM

for some reason lots of people don't realize that in the similarly dramatic worlds of dancing and dating, mutual interest is key.

Alanda Marquette from DiscoLadyLand

05-21-2003, 10:03 AM

This is the reason I used to dance around. If I dance in one spot without turning, the guy would dance around to the back of me. I guess it's the guys way of getting to know you without getting to know you graemlins/rofl.gif

MusicFilter

05-21-2003, 10:49 AM

Oh my GOD! graemlins/cussing.gif What have we come to when you can't rub up on a woman on the dance floor. Isn't that one of the best things about House Music. Back in the day we referred to "jackin'" as "sex on the dance floor" you let yourself go, all your inhibitions. Now that we are married, in our 30s and older we tend to get "uptight".

Now don't get me wrong, if you don't want a guy advance towards the rear, don't back that thing up. Most guys don't mean any harm and if you are like me and from the old skool, you might have the occasion of putting you hands around her waist or around her shoulders. It's all in good fun. And as I read before, it all depends on what you've got back there and how you use it.

My GOD, can't we all just JACK?! mad1.gif

Alanda Marquette from DiscoLadyLand

05-21-2003, 10:57 AM

Originally posted by chgodj3:
Oh my GOD! graemlins/cussing.gif What have we come to when you can't rub up on a woman on the dance floor. Isn't that one of the best things about House Music. Back in the day we referred to "jackin'" as "sex on the dance floor" you let yourself go, all your inhibitions. Now that we are married, in our 30s and older we tend to get "uptight".

Now don't get me wrong, if you don't want a guy advance towards the rear, don't back that thing up. Most guys don't mean any harm and if you are like me and from the old skool, you might have the occasion of putting you hands around her waist or around her shoulders. It's all in good fun. And as I read before, it all depends on what you've got back there and how you use it.

My GOD, can't we all just JACK?! mad1.gif There is nothing wrong with dancing close/jacking but there are some that are only interested in pumping on the derierre (sp?) There is nothing wrong with the occassional arm here hand there but respectfully.

Now proceed to jack with caution folks ;)

Discogoddess

05-21-2003, 11:00 AM

@chgodj3: I can understand where you're coming from, but if a woman tells you, politely, to please back up off her, and you don't, then that's just foul. Dancing with abandon is one thing (which I appreciate), but tryna jack someone, then step to them, when they've already said "chill" isn't cool at all.

Speaking of dancing with abandon, that's the damn problem! When women do it, guys sometimes see it as a signal to move in for the kill (my hubby was chuckling about this just this morning). But guys get to do dance and cut loose, and no one disturbs their groove...NO FAIR!

richierich

05-21-2003, 11:02 AM

richierich

05-21-2003, 11:03 AM

Koffy Brown

05-21-2003, 11:06 AM

formerly known as kenspank

05-21-2003, 01:24 PM

even as a teenager, i couldn't just jack anyone i saw. i'd probably have gotten my feelings hurt. and why would you want to jack somebody who doesn't want to jack with you (aka someone who doens't want to be with you when the disco night is over).

as a cardinal rule, i used to check out if a couple were really feelin each other. i'd stay away. if they girl wasn't feelin the dude, i'd step in offer her a way out.

however, other folks don't necessarily think like me. like this one time when lola and i were out. we had been dancing all over each other for like 3 hours. some dude rolls up behind her and starts to approach her boodie. now, i don't like sharing and i don't like sloppy ass seconds, so before he got too close i gently brushed him out of the way.

somehow i had hurt his feelings. he said i treated him like a bitch. i try talking to him for about 5 minutes. our discourse was about how lola and i were married and we hadn't extended him an invitation to get up on her boodie like that. he was still mad. his justficiation for his behavior was that we were at a club and anything goes at the club. i was like "phuck that". he got up in my face. his lips were grazing my lips as he tried to intimidate me. meanwhile, i was up there with like 9 other people. we had all just came from my brother's wedding. i tried to intimidate him by calling up some other folks to get my back. he wasn't phased. i analyzed the stituation and decided the best thing to do was to restrain so he didn't hurt my loved ones and he didn't hurt himself. i pinched his windpipe and pin his limbs down on the ground with my body. i was so fed up with him that it took all of my self control to not rip his phucking head out of his phucking body.

my wife isn't just a piece of ass....she's part of my family. and i come from a long line of people who have beat up and shot people on behalf of the family.

the main problem was that there were plenty of single women at the club who weren't dancing with anyone else. the dude could have easily found someone who would have jacked with him voluntarily. but he, like most dudes, decided to make it hard on themselves and not get with someone who really likes them.....he wanted to mess with us.

all this over some dry humping? what the phuck? do what yo mamma told you and simply show some common courtesy and decency.

MusicFilter

05-21-2003, 03:09 PM

Originally posted by Discogoddess:
@chgodj3: I can understand where you're coming from, but if a woman tells you, politely, to please back up off her, and you don't, then that's just foul. Dancing with abandon is one thing (which I appreciate), but tryna jack someone, then step to them, when they've already said "chill" isn't cool at all.

Speaking of dancing with abandon, that's the damn problem! When women do it, guys sometimes see it as a signal to move in for the kill (my hubby was chuckling about this just this morning). But guys get to do dance and cut loose, and no one disturbs their groove...NO FAIR! It's all about fun! If you are not feeling everyone's groove and they are groovin' too hard, exit the dance floor, or do as roman's do. It's not forever and you may have made brothaman's night by letting him rub up on you, Isn't that how women get free drinks at the club? icon_rofl.gif

I've heard women complain that men stand around in packs and watch them dance with each other. I hate to see women dance with each other when men are standing there mad1.gif Especially if I'm spinning.

I remember a woman jacked me for 2 hours straight by the time we finished we were both soakin' wet, her hair was through and my cologne and deodorant was gone, but we had the most sexual, intense and invigorating dancing experience I ever had, and I didn't even get the digits. graemlins/thumbsup.gif DAM THOSE WERE THE GOOD OLE DAYS!!! RONNIE BEAT THE BOX THAT NIGHT!!!

BOY DO I MISS JACKIN' LIKE THAT graemlins/cool_shades.gif

richierich

05-21-2003, 03:13 PM

Oh My God .. I can't ever forget the shit that use to go on at The Box on the dancefloor.. those were some low parties. I remember the shit that went on after they put everybody out... Damn talk about Caligula.. please!!

Jamie 3:26

05-21-2003, 03:15 PM

Hey good ol buddy Ken.I wasn't dancin' with yo ol' lady.I swear.... graemlins/all_coholic.gif

Alanda Marquette from DiscoLadyLand

05-21-2003, 03:20 PM

Originally posted by richierich:
Oh My God .. I can't ever forget the shit that use to go on at The Box on the dancefloor.. those were some low parties. I remember the shit that went on after they put everybody out... Damn talk about Caligula.. please!! So what were you doing there? graemlins/rofl.gif

I'd remember going into the bathrooms at the box and seeing alot of goings on after some booty jacking :eek: I'd remember seeing some of the freaky sneaky going on the dancefloor too. I remember seeing this girl being screwed from the back with her skirt up and her breast hanging out of her top. It looked as though they were dancing with the strobe lights going so no one would notice but they did put on quite a show :eek: Talking about voyeurism (sp)

05-21-2003, 03:29 PM

Although, I am guilty of this in my younger years graemlins/grinyes.gif I realized that when a girl turns around with her ass facing you she either is showing you her ass, or is just feeling the music, but you can tell right away which vibe she is giving.

A women knows just by looking at the guys if she wants to jack with him or not. So that there is no confusion on the dance floor she should not give off the wrong vibe to him otherwise we men will be all up in the ass like a bike seat! graemlins/grinyes.gif

Sometimes when the dance floor is so packed the guy may be pushed into the girl without any intentions of jacking...

Discogoddess

05-21-2003, 03:35 PM

Originally posted by chgodj3:
It's all about fun! If you are not feeling everyone's groove and they are groovin' too hard, exit the dance floor, or do as roman's do. It's not forever and you may have made brothaman's night by letting him rub up on you, Isn't that how women get free drinks at the club? icon_rofl.gif

I've heard women complain that men stand around in packs and watch them dance with each other. I hate to see women dance with each other when men are standing there mad1.gif Especially if I'm spinning.

I remember a woman jacked me for 2 hours straight by the time we finished we were both soakin' wet, her hair was through and my cologne and deodorant was gone, but we had the most sexual, intense and invigorating dancing experience I ever had, and I didn't even get the digits. graemlins/thumbsup.gif DAM THOSE WERE THE GOOD OLE DAYS!!! RONNIE BEAT THE BOX THAT NIGHT!!!

BOY DO I MISS JACKIN' LIKE THAT graemlins/cool_shades.gif Again, I understand where you're coming from...believe me I do (except for the letting a man rub up on ya to get free drinks part...not even cool)! I used to love truly working it out with a guy who could dance...and if there was an attraction component to our dancing, ALL THE BETTA! Hell, my husband and I used to jack each other something fierce B4 we even expressed our feelings to one another, and still do get loose from time to time.

My point is simply that when a woman isn't feeling a man like that, he doesn't have the right to continue to "get up on it." And, since I'm not single anymore, the very close/rub all up on ya dancing with strangers isn't cool (even if I do think brotha is fine...married folk just don't do certain isht).

SHEIK YERBOUTI

05-21-2003, 03:44 PM

Originally posted by Michael J. Carmona:
Although, I am guilty of this in my younger years graemlins/grinyes.gif I realized that when a girl turns around with her ass facing you she either is showing you her ass, or is just feeling the music, but you can tell right away which vibe she is giving.

A women knows just by looking at the guys if she wants to jack with him or not. So that there is no confusion on the dance floor she should not give off the wrong vibe to him otherwise we men will be all up in the ass like a bike seat! graemlins/grinyes.gif

Sometimes when the dance floor is so packed the guy may be pushed into the girl without any intentions of jacking... To jack, or not to jack: that is the question:
Whether 'tis safer in the mind to suffer
The hurt and shame of getting played out,
Or to catch an elbow or a knee in a sea of dancers
when she feels you're playing her too close... ;)

[ May 21, 2003, 04:46 PM: Message edited by: toomuchtv ]