How do you let go..? How does anyone let go of the one they love?

[V-ROD]

How do you let go of a loved one?

In anticipation of a loved one that you know, you’re about to lose, how do you let go? I'm not ready... we're not ready to let go!!! My wife and I are going to loose one of our own. Her mother, my mother in-law.

This woman, only stood for love... love for her fellow brother, sister, Father, Mother, daughter's, son, cousins and grandchildren and everyone else in between! How do you let go of such a GREAT person? She had so much love for everyone that there's too much love left over for the one's who don't deserve it!!!

It's my opinion, that such a GREAT person doesn't deserve death or any kind of suffering as her last moments of her life! A person like that should deserve longevity!

Unfortunately, she has come to a point where being able to give more love to her family and friends has come to an end. Although she has not passed, she is already missed.

I am going to miss this wonderful woman. She has soooo much more to offer...

At this moment, the love of my life is going thru the heartbreak of enduring her mother's pain. I am there with her. Her Pain is my pain and all I can do is only give her love and support. I wish I could give her more than that! I wish I could take away her pain.

Erika, is so strong, so full of love for her mother and her family that I amazed of her strength to move forward with her mother’s wishes.



At this point right now, all I can do is convey her words about her mother in her Blog on Myspace.


Please read…


I’ll Always Love My Momma....
Current mood: sorrow


...She’s my baby girl.
This song has more meaning to me now that my Mom is coming close to the end of her journey here on earth. I know that she will start a new journey where she will not suffer and will be at peace with God.
Words can't express what my family and I are going through right now, but the memories of the good times and the bad that I have of my Mom are enough to fill my heart up with joy than that of sorrow.
My mom loved music, the arts, dancing and keeping up with the times. I considered her very hip.... more so than me! She was a giving, loving person that never asked for much but to be loved. She turned sixty last month and you couldn't tell. She was always vibrant, always laughing, always down to earth.
I'm glad I got to tell her that I loved her and was always there to talk "about nothing".
I always said that when I grow up, I want to be like my Mom. In some ways I picked up traits from her, but I never can be like her.... she is and always will be a "one of a kind, loving, outstanding lady".
I Love You Mom.... my shining star.

[MYOR]

On my last month of being pregnant we found out my Mamita(the lady that raised me from 40day old till the age of five along with 3 of my siblings) got very sick.. My mom, sis and brother went to DR. She seemed to have gotten better.. Four days before giving birth I see my cousin acting all wierd.. I told her she needs to come clean. But they were worried b/c of my state.. She finally caved. Told me she had passed away.. At that particular moment I didnt shed a tear b/c I knew she was in pain.. I was saddened by the fact that she would never meet my son. That's when it hit me but at the same time I was releaved b/c she was no longer suffering.. I would love her to be here but not in that state.. I prefer her to be at peace.. And She is forever in my heart as my mother.. Who along with my Uncle(Papi) took in 4kids for 5yrs to help my mother.

So you ask how do you let some on go.. I say that if they she is suffering how can you not let them go..(not that its up to us) and be thankful for all the beautiful moments that they gave you.

Love her cherish her remember her..


Sorry to hear about this Vrod and Erika...

[housewithme]

How do you let go of a loved one?

In anticipation of a loved one that you know, you’re about to lose, how do you let go? I'm not ready... we're not ready to let go!!! My wife and I are going to loose one of our own. Her mother, my mother in-law.

This woman, only stood for love... love for her fellow brother, sister, Father, Mother, daughter's, son, cousins and grandchildren and everyone else in between! How do you let go of such a GREAT person? She had so much love for everyone that there's too much love left over for the one's who don't deserve it!!!

It's my opinion, that such a GREAT person doesn't deserve death or any kind of suffering as her last moments of her life! A person like that should deserve longevity!

Unfortunately, she has come to a point where being able to give more love to her family and friends has come to an end. Although she has not passed, she is already missed.

I am going to miss this wonderful woman. She has soooo much more to offer...

At this moment, the love of my life is going thru the heartbreak of enduring her mother's pain. I am there with her. Her Pain is my pain and all I can do is only give her love and support. I wish I could give her more than that! I wish I could take away her pain.

Erika, is so strong, so full of love for her mother and her family that I amazed of her strength to move forward with her mother’s wishes.



At this point right now, all I can do is convey her words about her mother in her Blog on Myspace.


Please read…


I’ll Always Love My Momma....
Current mood: sorrow


...She’s my baby girl.
This song has more meaning to me now that my Mom is coming close to the end of her journey here on earth. I know that she will start a new journey where she will not suffer and will be at peace with God.
Words can't express what my family and I are going through right now, but the memories of the good times and the bad that I have of my Mom are enough to fill my heart up with joy than that of sorrow.
My mom loved music, the arts, dancing and keeping up with the times. I considered her very hip.... more so than me! She was a giving, loving person that never asked for much but to be loved. She turned sixty last month and you couldn't tell. She was always vibrant, always laughing, always down to earth.
I'm glad I got to tell her that I loved her and was always there to talk "about nothing".
I always said that when I grow up, I want to be like my Mom. In some ways I picked up traits from her, but I never can be like her.... she is and always will be a "one of a kind, loving, outstanding lady".
I Love You Mom.... my shining star.

I am sorry to hear about the imminent passing of your loved one. My mother was a diabetic and got sicker b/c of the complications. Ultimately one Friday, she fell ill, but stayed home & unbeknownst to the family, slept through a massive heart attack. By Monday, she was rushed into the OR, but the damage to her heart muscle was so extensive there was nothing they could do. I knew my mother hated hospitals & had only been hospitalized 1 other time in my life for which I stayed at that time. By me being the eldest, I stayed in the hospital the entire time my mother was there. She was the 3rd of of 12 children & the 1st to go. I notified all of my family of her status & prognosis. Everyone came to the hospital & all of the decisions made were made as a family. To shorten a sad story, she had to be reintubated and never regained consciousness. Because my mother passed away on the ward that she had worked on for over 17 years, I was allowed to stay with her.

I knew that the physicians who cared for her did all they could to help my mom because not only was she their patient but she was also their beloved coworker and I wouldn't have had it any other way. I laid there all nite holding her hand, rubbing her hand on my face remembering how she felt and now in my private moments, when I close my eyes I can feel my mom. You will never forget your loved one, they will always be in your heart. I really can't tell you what you should do b/c you know your loved one better than anyone, but I could never leave my mother alone in a hospital knowing that she didn't like being an inpatient. I stayed with her until the heart machine went flat. It was what I had to do and didn't think twice about it.

My sister under me took it the hardest, it took us 45 minutes to get her out of the room after my mom passed, but she, too, helped me. I guess you can say I was spoiled growing up & so one day I was crying, crying like if I cried hard enough she would come back. My sister knows me and the most comforting thing she has ever said to me was, Rita crying is not going to bring mama back. It may sound strange, but we used to cry for what we wanted and we would most of the time get it, however her saying that to me helped me because I knew that she wasn't coming back. It's been just over three years and in the first year you go through a really bad time. While we didn't go through grief counseling, understand that there are several stages of grief and you will go through them.

Denial (this isn't happening to me!)
Anger (why is this happening to me?)
Bargaining (I promise I'll be a better person if...)
Depression (I don't care anymore)
Acceptance (I'm ready for whatever comes)

In the final analysis, you'll go through intermittent bouts of sadness sometimes around special times during the year for which you may not even immediately be able to attribute the sadness. I still go through this but then I try to remember what time of the year it is and can resolve it satisfactorily with a smile, oh well, if you need, see a grief counselor. I wish you well.

[Alanda Marquette from DiscoLadyLand]

It's hard to let go of a loved one. My mother has been dead for over 25 years now and I still miss her. However, I carry the lessons, love and learning from her as if she hasn't gone anywhere. Loving your children and giving the piece of her carries the love she has/had. She isn't here physically but the memories last a lifetime. Thanks to technology, we can see videos of our loved ones, hear their voices and smile. I don't have none of that but I do have a picture and one thing that reminds me of her, it's a smell of hers that I have in a purse, don't know how it got there considering I got this purse 20 odd years after her death. But this purse smells just like my mother and I won't give it to anyone.

Just know that no more suffering is a better place for her.

['Magic' Juan]

My heart goes out to you and your family, V. Really sorry to hear about your loss.

-M J

[Jamie 3:26]

V,my sympathies to you and Erica,during this rough time.

Just be the rock she needs.

This is gonna be a rough ride,but just be there for her.

Give her a big hug from me.

[Erika R.]

This week has been very difficult for us. My mom suffered kidney failure and her body is slowly but surely shutting down.

Her vitals are strong, in the sense that her heart is still going strong. She's in a coma, non-responsive. She's getting oxygen ( she suffered from sleep apenia as well for years that we, she porbably didn't know about). After the kidney failure and other things that have arised from that, there isn't anymore that the hospital can do for her.

Her wishes were not to be resesitated and she didn't want to be hooked on machines that would keep her alive if she was too far gone. This hard, but I am granting her wishes.

I will be speaking with a counselor regarding hospice care for her, to give her comfort until the day she passes away.

VROD has been mentioning to me that he wanted to put this up on DHP, but I just blew off only because this is a music site. But through the years, we have come to know some of you as friends and some as family.

For me to deal with this right now is to write down my feelings and to share with the world of how awesome I think my is. I will try to get my family together to go to counseling because my mom was our rock and when the time comes that our rock turns to dust.....I know we will need words of encouragement and strength to carry on, just the way my mother would've wanted.

Again, thank you for your thoughts and prayers.

Erika and family

[KBig]

This week has been very difficult for us. My mom suffered kidney failure and her body is slowly but surely shutting down.

Her vitals are strong, in the sense that her heart is still going strong. She's in a coma, non-responsive. She's getting oxygen ( she suffered from sleep apenia as well for years that we, she porbably didn't know about). After the kidney failure and other things that have arised from that, there isn't anymore that the hospital can do for her.

Her wishes were not to be resesitated and she didn't want to be hooked on machines that would keep her alive if she was too far gone. This hard, but I am granting her wishes.

I will be speaking with a counselor regarding hospice care for her, to give her comfort until the day she passes away.

VROD has been mentioning to me that he wanted to put this up on DHP, but I just blew off only because this is a music site. But through the years, we have come to know some of you as friends and some as family.

For me to deal with this right now is to write down my feelings and to share with the world of how awesome I think my is. I will try to get my family together to go to counseling because my mom was our rock and when the time comes that our rock turns to dust.....I know we will need words of encouragement and strength to carry on, just the way my mother would've wanted.

Again, thank you for your thoughts and prayers.

Erika and family


My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Sending you strength and resolve for this difficult journey.

Hetep.

[Alanda Marquette from DiscoLadyLand]

This week has been very difficult for us. My mom suffered kidney failure and her body is slowly but surely shutting down.

Her vitals are strong, in the sense that her heart is still going strong. She's in a coma, non-responsive. She's getting oxygen ( she suffered from sleep apenia as well for years that we, she porbably didn't know about). After the kidney failure and other things that have arised from that, there isn't anymore that the hospital can do for her.

Her wishes were not to be resesitated and she didn't want to be hooked on machines that would keep her alive if she was too far gone. This hard, but I am granting her wishes.

I will be speaking with a counselor regarding hospice care for her, to give her comfort until the day she passes away.

VROD has been mentioning to me that he wanted to put this up on DHP, but I just blew off only because this is a music site. But through the years, we have come to know some of you as friends and some as family.

For me to deal with this right now is to write down my feelings and to share with the world of how awesome I think my is. I will try to get my family together to go to counseling because my mom was our rock and when the time comes that our rock turns to dust.....I know we will need words of encouragement and strength to carry on, just the way my mother would've wanted.

Again, thank you for your thoughts and prayers.

Erika and family

I will be praying for you and your family. My mother and brother went through the same thing. Kidney failure ain't no joke. There is nothing impossible, prepare for the worse but Hope for the best. Only she has the will to go on or give up.

You are in my prayers

[Mizzmeme]

I just woke up V and im in tears. My heart goes out to you and your family. The man up stairs will take care of her now. Its all good. You were blessed to have her n your life. If you need anything yell;)

[V-ROD]

I regret to say that she has passed away just a few minutes ago. I had just dropped off Erika at the hospital about 15-20 minutes ago and she just missed her passing by a minute.

My family and I would like to thank you for your kind words of encouragment. We really do appreciate it!

Sometimes within these past few days, I thought about keeping this private and within the family, but since we know some of you, "I" thought it would be OK to seek some kind of comfort from you all. I just wanted to say on behalf (sp?) of my wife that it helped.

Once again thanks for your concern.


Vince & Erika Rodriguez

[Discogoddess]

Erika and Vince,

Please accept my condolences. Peace be with you and the rest of the family.

[KragShot]

You just do the best you can.

You remember all of the joy they brought you in life and you hold on to those memories.

Part of living is living with the eventual loss of somebody you care for. You just hold on and hang on to your love.

Man, I'm sorry for both Erika and you, V.

B.

[ProvocativeElement]

Your family is in my thoughts, meditations and prayers during this difficult time.

[islandlover]

So sorry to hear this. Condolences to the entire family during this time.

[jojaujae3]

Condolences to you and yours from the D'Vine 1 Family. :biggrinangel:

[Chuck P]

Sorry to hear of this, my condolences to you all, prayers headed your way...

[housewithme]

My condolences to you & your family, my dear.

[Andrew Osborne]

Well, I don't know you but my heart goes out to you both.

[racerx]

Rest In Peace.....

[LaNegraLoca]

My deepest sympathy to you and your family ... peace and love!

[LEONARD REMIX RROY]

Condolences only go so far as of us because we are family. I can't do a lot from Iraq but if you need anything call Red asap.

[Angeet654]

My condolences to you and your wife. I can only imagine what you guys are going through but stay strong and you will pull through. Writing things down and sharing your thoughts sometimes is therapeutic. You guys now have an Angel to watch over you and take care of you.

[MYOR]

my condolences..

[DJ Celeste Alexander]

My deepest condolences go out to you and your wife V-Rod. Let me know if there is ANYTHING Easy & I can do.
My prayers are with you both.

[ClubMantra]

Death is never easy. You have to go on and take care of the living. My father died when I was 5 (I loved my dad) and it took me most of my adult life to get over it, leaving me rather bitter just to mention it. His birthday is in June (Father's Day month). Then one day when I was 33, my dad appeared in my room and told me it was time to let it go. It felt like a weight had been lifted off my chest. All that time I was suffering, only if I had just let it go. Daily, I'm preparing for that time when my mom will no longer be in my life. She's a tough old bird and she's holding on.

[Erika R.]

Again, thank you all for your prayers, condolences and stories that you shared with us during this difficult time we are going through.

Erika and VROD.