Help me understand this..... [Archive]

MYOR

05-27-2003, 02:32 PM

Here is something that always gets me fired up..

My hobby is dancing..
so yes I go out mostly every weekend and dance. But guy friends or guys in general tell me that the reason they never approach me is because they see me as "too much of a party girl."

I try to explain that while some people like bowling or shooting pool and go every week, I like dancing... What do I need to do stay home and twittle my thumb...

Can some of you help me understand this.. Cuz I really don't get it...

I guess I will be single forever graemlins/conf44.gif

Dr. Freud

05-27-2003, 02:34 PM

Thats a lame excuse... "too much of a party girl."

BS... the guys who say that to you are insecure morons.

Austin/Dallas

05-27-2003, 02:44 PM

People like you are rare now days with the stamina to and love of the ritual sway..

Must be something else..

Are you like not giving anyone attention when you are in your groove.. Tuneing people out and being non-sociable will make people guess about you...

Maybe just there way of trying to get you to slow down and give a little attention

richierich

05-27-2003, 02:45 PM

It goes back to insecurities on their part.. maybe they think that you are gonna meet someone at the party and forget about them.. I don't understand it because you can meet someone anywhere ie; grocery store, library, work wherever. Some men are old fashioned and don't want what would be considered a loose woman, party girl they see them as just a piece of ass or don't want to tell their folks they met you at a party.... not my views but still a reality. Guys a lot of time don't take party girls serious.. like only men are supposed to have a good time.... good question. What gets me is some men actually meet a girl on the party scene but when they start really digging her they don't want her to go out as much or at all... to each his/her own. I'm not gonna say negative things about people that feel this way because obviously it is an area of concern or you wouldn't have posted it.

[ May 27, 2003, 04:06 PM: Message edited by: richierich ]

Ken1015

05-27-2003, 02:46 PM

Most men don't want a woman who can do things better than them so if you're with a party crowd and and you party harder than the men, they'll be intimidated. You need to balance this effect by wearing skimpy clothing and putting out no later than the first date. That'll keep 'em coming. Pun intended.

drilla

05-27-2003, 02:48 PM

you must define "dancing" for them and they will hopefully understand.

MYOR

05-27-2003, 02:52 PM

Originally posted by Austin/Dallas:
People like you are rare now days with the stamina to and love of the ritual sway..

Must be something else..

Are you like not giving anyone attention when you are in your groove.. Tuneing people out and being non-sociable will make people guess about you...

Maybe just there way of trying to get you to slow down and give a little attention Actually when I'm dancing I really don't like talking to anyone... I'm there to dance not talk on the dance floor...

Pete Nice

05-27-2003, 02:59 PM

screw them all. party girl=slut. i don't mean that towards you, but that's how a lot of guys think. they woudn't trust a woman who was always out especially at a club dancing with other drunk a** fools. stay single and save the drama for their mama's....

Koffy Brown

05-27-2003, 03:02 PM

I explain things to my friends like...I don't go clubbing I am far too old for that...meaning I don't dress up and go sit around trying to be "whatever"...when I go out to a club the main objective is to dance....I go dancing....I go to sweat and lose my mind....and if you ain't with that then screw you...

have you ever invited any of your friends out dancing...

MYOR

05-27-2003, 03:07 PM

Originally posted by square root:
screw them all. party girl=slut. i don't mean that towards you, but that's how a lot of guys think. they woudn't trust a woman who was always out especially at a club dancing with other drunk a** fools. stay single and save the drama for their mama's.... You know I stopped talking to my friends boyfriend b/c of that... and what really pissed me off is that he said.. If your going out to a club it must mean you want to pick up some guy.. Being a slut himself he thinks every one is like that... I told him that I can understand alot of that mentality becuase he goes to hip/hop clubs and latin clubs... where mostly guys and girls are there to pick up... but that when I go out I really just go to dance... and that for some reason the HOUSE atmosphere is different... that most of the people think like me... Yes it would be a bonus if you meet someone but mostly everyone is there just to dance. that he needed to go w/us so he can understand what I mean... My friend also tried to explain this to him and he just refused to believe it... I didn't talk to him for months and still barely talk to him..

nev m

05-27-2003, 03:08 PM

I guess I will be single forever graemlins/conf44.gif [/QB][/QUOTE]

I doubt it! Someone will dance into your life. and forever it will be a sunset!! smile.gif

Jamie 3:26

05-27-2003, 03:12 PM

There are idiots in the world everywhere.You do not need to explain what you are into to lames.Some folks will not get it.

I see who the heads are when I play and when I go out.I just like to watch the sistas who are into it do their thang.I see how a lame can ruin a good groove for them.

I just say do ya thang and when you meet that someone who is into the same thing you are into....sparks will fly for sure.

M3taPhsX

05-27-2003, 03:23 PM

Going out and dancing is kewl if that is really what you love to do. Yet, I understand what these guy are talking about. I find girls who are out partying/clubbing all the time, always need to be up in the mix. They crave attention and feel as though they have to know everyone and their mom. These girls are often promisicous too. Not saying this is you but this is the impression that we get.

Jamie 3:26

05-27-2003, 03:28 PM

Met a whatever the hell,ya still must be young.I know for a fact that if a woman is going to house functions to dance all nite,she ain't loose.

If it's a lounge,tavern,hip-hop spot,she may be a loose booty.I managed a club for 2 years.I know some insides on these dudes,who really think they know it all.There are some ladies who go to party to dance and just have a good time.If we see them all of the time,we think they are searching.Sometimes they are right,most of the time they are wrong.

Closed minded thinking will make one look like a fool....

MYOR

05-27-2003, 03:28 PM

Originally posted by Ashaki:
I explain things to my friends like...I don't go clubbing I am far too old for that...meaning I don't dress up and go sit around trying to be "whatever"...when I go out to a club the main objective is to dance....I go dancing....I go to sweat and lose my mind....and if you ain't with that then screw you...

have you ever invited any of your friends out dancing... That what I tell them I simply go out to dance.....
My thing now is if you want to take the time to know me then do so but don't assume... I guess I will have to stick to the people that just love to dance like me... graemlins/bighug.gif

drilla

05-27-2003, 03:32 PM

Originally posted by JAMIE 3:26:

Closed minded thinking will make one look like a fool.... i think this is the general problem here....

that cat (MYOR friend's boy) does not understand that people like to dance, to dance....not to pick up dudes/girls.

richierich

05-27-2003, 03:38 PM

This thread has made me think about my own views. I rarely "hit" on girls at a party.. I really don't know why... dancing, having fun I don't know but there is this girl that I been diggin' for years and she's cool but her actions at the club are not what I would want my lady to be doing. Since I met her at a club I shouldn't expect her to be anything but what she is. I don't consider her a slut at all. Sometimes though there can be too many outsiders in your business when both parties are on the same scene. People start drama just because. It depends on the individuals but most girls that i've been involved with didn't even like House so we partied at seperate places but I didn't have any insecurity issues and neither did she. So I might be a person who actually has double standards. I'm not saying that I wouldn't want my lady going out clubbing but when it's the same scene things can get weird at times. I've seen it. A lot of couples don't party together but that doesnt mean that they can't be together.

Jamie 3:26

05-27-2003, 03:40 PM

Originally posted by richierich:
This thread has made me think about my own views. I rarely "hit" on girls at a party.. I really don't know why... dancing, having fun I don't know but there is this girl that I been diggin' for years and she's cool but her actions at the club are not what I would want my lady to be doing. Since I met her at a club I shouldn't expect her to be anything but what she is. I don't consider her a slut at all. Sometimes though there can be too many outsiders in your business when both parties are on the same scene. People start drama just because. It depends on the individuals but most girls that i've been involved with didn't even like House so we partied at seperate places but I didn't have any insecurity issues and neither did she. So I might be a person who actually has double standards. I'm not saying that I wouldn't want my lady going out clubbing but when it's the same scene things can get weird at times. I've seen it. A lot of couples don't party together but that doesnt mean that they can't be together. Well,I didn't mean to hug her bruh...

Oak Pk, IL's Best Bedroom DJ, serge

05-27-2003, 03:42 PM

My mom told me never to get serious with women that one meets at night clubs.

I disobeyed, and got played like a sucka (and vice versa) quite a few times.

Mother knows best (in this case).

My suggestion: Get involved in community organizations, school organizations, or anything that has to do with the bettering of the human condition.

You could meet a socially conscious and intelligent person there who likes to dance, and can stop the world from going to hell in a handbasket, together.

[ May 27, 2003, 04:44 PM: Message edited by: serge ]

M3taPhsX

05-27-2003, 03:44 PM

Originally posted by JAMIE 3:26:
Met a whatever the hell,ya still must be young.I know for a fact that if a woman is going to house functions to dance all nite,she ain't loose.

If it's a lounge,tavern,hip-hop spot,she may be a loose booty.I managed a club for 2 years.I know some insides on these dudes,who really think they know it all.There are some ladies who go to party to dance and just have a good time.If we see them all of the time,we think they are searching.Sometimes they are right,most of the time they are wrong.

Closed minded thinking will make one look like a fool.... It's M3taPhysX and I'm 30. I believe MYOR and what she is saying, I have no reason not to but she is a very small minority of girls who like to club just to dance. You can't honestly believe this is the norm.

richierich

05-27-2003, 03:45 PM

Originally posted by JAMIE 3:26:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by richierich:
This thread has made me think about my own views. I rarely "hit" on girls at a party.. I really don't know why... dancing, having fun I don't know but there is this girl that I been diggin' for years and she's cool but her actions at the club are not what I would want my lady to be doing. Since I met her at a club I shouldn't expect her to be anything but what she is. I don't consider her a slut at all. Sometimes though there can be too many outsiders in your business when both parties are on the same scene. People start drama just because. It depends on the individuals but most girls that i've been involved with didn't even like House so we partied at seperate places but I didn't have any insecurity issues and neither did she. So I might be a person who actually has double standards. I'm not saying that I wouldn't want my lady going out clubbing but when it's the same scene things can get weird at times. I've seen it. A lot of couples don't party together but that doesnt mean that they can't be together. Well,I didn't mean to hug her bruh... [/QUOTE]Stuff like that wouldn't be an issue..... she's popular and cool.... why wouldn't someone want to give her a hug. Like I said I need to work on my own issues and I might be trippin' but I dont want to try to change a person to siut my own needs. It aint right but you hit it and her on the head.

MYOR

05-27-2003, 03:47 PM

Damn have to leave.. but I will definitly catch up with this thread tomorrow...

Night thank you for your input...

Leslie

05-27-2003, 03:54 PM

Originally posted by M3taPhsX:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by JAMIE 3:26:
Met a whatever the hell,ya still must be young.I know for a fact that if a woman is going to house functions to dance all nite,she ain't loose.

If it's a lounge,tavern,hip-hop spot,she may be a loose booty.I managed a club for 2 years.I know some insides on these dudes,who really think they know it all.There are some ladies who go to party to dance and just have a good time.If we see them all of the time,we think they are searching.Sometimes they are right,most of the time they are wrong.

Closed minded thinking will make one look like a fool.... It's M3taPhysX and I'm 30. I believe MYOR and what she is saying, I have no reason not to but she is a very small minority of girls who like to club just to dance. You can't honestly believe this is the norm. [/QUOTE]The fact that you think this of the majority of the women who go to clubs (any club for that matter) shows what you think of women. In essence you said that the majority of women who go to clubs are hoes, you've managed to offened all the women on this board by making that statement. Care to clean it up any?

kara

05-27-2003, 03:57 PM

they're intimidated by you?

Jamie 3:26

05-27-2003, 03:58 PM

Brother Rich,that would be asking for big trouble.She is mad cool,but she knows a lot of folks.Not saying you couldn't give it a try,but you know too many folks in the scene and even if you were not doin' anything,some folks would make it their bizness to get in ya'lls stuff.We are supposed to be adults right?

Maybe it could be a double standard.Yet,I can see this from both sides.Intersting brother...

drilla

05-27-2003, 03:59 PM

Originally posted by kara:
they're intimidated by you? is this something you have experience with?

richierich

05-27-2003, 04:04 PM

Originally posted by JAMIE 3:26:
Brother Rich,that would be asking for big trouble.She is mad cool,but she knows a lot of folks.Not saying you couldn't give it a try,but you know too many folks in the scene and even if you were not doin' anything,some folks would make it their bizness to get in ya'lls stuff.We are supposed to be adults right?

Maybe it could be a double standard.Yet,I can see this from both sides.Intersting brother... Man I been wrestling with that issue since I've known her. I actually backed off at THE B-Side Cafe and just decided that we should just be friends but when I see her the old feelings come back. Like I said sometimes some of her actions are a turn-off but hell .. who's perfect? But the fact that we are both widely known on the scene would probably be an issue. If it were different scenes there wouldn't be an issue. Again it depends on the individuals. I would kinda not want to be constantly running into my ex - girlfriends at parties and seeing them with potential mates. I know this sounds weird but I don't... and I aint dropping off the scene for anyone.. so maybe I should just stick to the way things are.

[ May 27, 2003, 05:09 PM: Message edited by: richierich ]

M3taPhsX

05-27-2003, 04:04 PM

Originally posted by Leslie:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by M3taPhsX:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by JAMIE 3:26:
Met a whatever the hell,ya still must be young.I know for a fact that if a woman is going to house functions to dance all nite,she ain't loose.

If it's a lounge,tavern,hip-hop spot,she may be a loose booty.I managed a club for 2 years.I know some insides on these dudes,who really think they know it all.There are some ladies who go to party to dance and just have a good time.If we see them all of the time,we think they are searching.Sometimes they are right,most of the time they are wrong.

Closed minded thinking will make one look like a fool.... It's M3taPhysX and I'm 30. I believe MYOR and what she is saying, I have no reason not to but she is a very small minority of girls who like to club just to dance. You can't honestly believe this is the norm. [/QUOTE]The fact that you think this of the majority of the women who go to clubs (any club for that matter) shows what you think of women. In essence you said that the majority of women who go to clubs are hoes, you've managed to offened all the women on this board by making that statement. Care to clean it up any? [/QUOTE]It's not women who go to clubs. Everyone has to go out sometime and have some fun. We are talking about the women who are up in the clubs all the time, party ALL the time. And no they are all hoes but girls should have a little more dignity than being bar flies.

Jamie 3:26

05-27-2003, 04:06 PM

Man Rich,she is known all over.Even Pervis Spann knows her ass.... graemlins/rofl.gif

Oak Pk, IL's Best Bedroom DJ, serge

05-27-2003, 04:06 PM

People go to clubs for 3 reasons:

Dance
Drink
Meet a potential mate.

Most folks (men & women) have a few drinks to get some liquid courage to get on the dance floor and get their groove on (hopefully with somebody good looking and who can dance).

Of all the aforementioned reasons, drinking is the one that ruins the chance of meeting of somebody viable and honest to start a relationship. Most folks are half drunk when they hook up, and are talking up whatever talents or interest they have.

Here's another suggestion: Go to the library or an art gallery showing, and hook up with an intellectual that enjoys art and culture, like you do, and maybe you can save American culture, literature and arts from homegenization and extinction.

M3taPhsX

05-27-2003, 04:08 PM

Originally posted by serge:
People go to clubs for 3 reasons:

Dance
Drink
Meet a potential mate.

Most folks (men & women) have a few drinks to get some liquid courage to get on the dance floor and get their groove on (hopefully with somebody good looking and who can dance).

Of all the aforementioned reasons, drinking is the one that ruins the chance of meeting of somebody viable and honest to start a relationship. Most folks are half drunk when they hook up, and are talking up whatever talents or interest they have.

Here's another suggestion: Go to the library or an art gallery showing, and hook up with an intellectual that enjoys art and culture, like you do, and maybe you can save American culture, literature and arts from homegenization and extinction. w3rd

Discogoddess

05-27-2003, 04:11 PM

I met my husband at a club, so I don't agree with a previous statement that meeting your mate at the club is necessarily bad/doesn't work out. However, the trippy part was that once he stopped going out with me, boyfriend-then-fiance-then-hubby wasn't thrilled that I still wanted to kick it (used the typical "I trust you, but I know how dudes are" line). Ummm, hello? You knew I was a househead who liked to dance like a crazy person from the git-go! Thankfully, we have grown from that place, and I go out dancing much more often...without him (cuz he still doesn't want to go).

Generally, I find that when people start giving you reasons/excuses as to why they don't do something (i.e., they won't holla atcha cuz you're a "party girl"), they are LAMES projecting their dumb azz ish onto you...you don't need 'em anyway. And, as for the "loose booty" assumptions some men make about women who like to dance/get their party on...I guess it takes one to know one, huh? :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

Leslie

05-27-2003, 04:13 PM

Originally posted by M3taPhsX:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by Leslie:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by M3taPhsX:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by JAMIE 3:26:
Met a whatever the hell,ya still must be young.I know for a fact that if a woman is going to house functions to dance all nite,she ain't loose.

If it's a lounge,tavern,hip-hop spot,she may be a loose booty.I managed a club for 2 years.I know some insides on these dudes,who really think they know it all.There are some ladies who go to party to dance and just have a good time.If we see them all of the time,we think they are searching.Sometimes they are right,most of the time they are wrong.

Closed minded thinking will make one look like a fool.... It's M3taPhysX and I'm 30. I believe MYOR and what she is saying, I have no reason not to but she is a very small minority of girls who like to club just to dance. You can't honestly believe this is the norm. [/QUOTE]The fact that you think this of the majority of the women who go to clubs (any club for that matter) shows what you think of women. In essence you said that the majority of women who go to clubs are hoes, you've managed to offened all the women on this board by making that statement. Care to clean it up any? [/QUOTE]It's not women who go to clubs. Everyone has to go out sometime and have some fun. We are talking about the women who are up in the clubs all the time, party ALL the time. And no they are all hoes but girls should have a little more dignity than being bar flies. [/QUOTE]Oh I get it...because she supports her local House party and favorite dj's or what have you she is definitely up to no good by being there every week.

And

05-27-2003, 04:13 PM

Originally posted by M3taPhsX:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by Leslie:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by M3taPhsX:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by JAMIE 3:26:
Met a whatever the hell,ya still must be young.I know for a fact that if a woman is going to house functions to dance all nite,she ain't loose.

If it's a lounge,tavern,hip-hop spot,she may be a loose booty.I managed a club for 2 years.I know some insides on these dudes,who really think they know it all.There are some ladies who go to party to dance and just have a good time.If we see them all of the time,we think they are searching.Sometimes they are right,most of the time they are wrong.

Closed minded thinking will make one look like a fool.... It's M3taPhysX and I'm 30. I believe MYOR and what she is saying, I have no reason not to but she is a very small minority of girls who like to club just to dance. You can't honestly believe this is the norm. [/QUOTE]The fact that you think this of the majority of the women who go to clubs (any club for that matter) shows what you think of women. In essence you said that the majority of women who go to clubs are hoes, you've managed to offened all the women on this board by making that statement. Care to clean it up any? [/QUOTE]It's not women who go to clubs. Everyone has to go out sometime and have some fun. We are talking about the women who are up in the clubs all the time, party ALL the time. And no they are all hoes but girls should have a little more dignity than being bar flies. [/QUOTE]Just to be clear what do you consider ALL the time partying? Every other night? 3 times a week, 4? and if you're seeing these women or girls partying all the time, does that mean you also should have more dignity than being a barfly?

Leslie

05-27-2003, 04:20 PM

richierich

05-27-2003, 04:26 PM

This is an interesting thread.. I hope tempers don't flare but when people are being truthful about their feelings disagreeing can turn ugly. I hope that I am not offending peeps by my opinions because they are only my opinions. But say you meet someone at a club... and you kick it for a minute and then you stop. Now they are with someone else now you gotta keep running into that person on a regular..if your feelings and emotions are not in check things can get ugly in public.

drilla

05-27-2003, 04:26 PM

Originally posted by Leslie:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by M3taPhsX:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by Leslie:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by M3taPhsX:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by JAMIE 3:26:
Met a whatever the hell,ya still must be young.I know for a fact that if a woman is going to house functions to dance all nite,she ain't loose.

If it's a lounge,tavern,hip-hop spot,she may be a loose booty.I managed a club for 2 years.I know some insides on these dudes,who really think they know it all.There are some ladies who go to party to dance and just have a good time.If we see them all of the time,we think they are searching.Sometimes they are right,most of the time they are wrong.

Closed minded thinking will make one look like a fool.... It's M3taPhysX and I'm 30. I believe MYOR and what she is saying, I have no reason not to but she is a very small minority of girls who like to club just to dance. You can't honestly believe this is the norm. [/QUOTE]The fact that you think this of the majority of the women who go to clubs (any club for that matter) shows what you think of women. In essence you said that the majority of women who go to clubs are hoes, you've managed to offened all the women on this board by making that statement. Care to clean it up any? [/QUOTE]It's not women who go to clubs. Everyone has to go out sometime and have some fun. We are talking about the women who are up in the clubs all the time, party ALL the time. And no they are all hoes but girls should have a little more dignity than being bar flies. [/QUOTE]Oh I get it...because she supports her local House party and favorite dj's or what have you she is definitely up to no good by being there every week. [/QUOTE]leslie = bar slut

Discogoddess

05-27-2003, 04:29 PM

Originally posted by richierich:
This is an interesting thread.. I hope tempers don't flare but when people are being truthful about their feelings disagreeing can turn ugly. I hope that I am not offending peeps by my opinions because they are only my opinions. But say you meet someone at a club... and you kick it for a minute and then you stop. Now they are with someone else now you gotta keep running into that person on a regular..if your feelings and emotions are not in check things can get ugly in public. But, that is true if you date/are involved with anyone with whom you share a common interest or space (i.e., house of worship, school, work, favorite restaurant/lounge/mall/bowling alley/museum/library). Why do you feel that the party scene is a special case?

[ May 27, 2003, 05:30 PM: Message edited by: Discogoddess ]

drilla

05-27-2003, 04:31 PM

Originally posted by richierich:
This is an interesting thread.. I hope tempers don't flare but when people are being truthful about their feelings disagreeing can turn ugly. I hope that I am not offending peeps by my opinions because they are only my opinions. But say you meet someone at a club... and you kick it for a minute and then you stop. Now they are with someone else now you gotta keep running into that person on a regular..if your feelings and emotions are not in check things can get ugly in public. totally man.

but, for real...i dont think anyone should ever use this as a reason for not acting upon a feeling of attraction.

you never know...it could be the one...

Bold Soul

05-27-2003, 04:40 PM

These loops of logic about what makes a person this, that and the third are really ways in which one insulates themselves from their fears. Every person with a judgement about "women who club" felt a twinge of fear when attempting to relate to the question - admit it.

Get to know that fear - understand it deeper - in the mirror.

MYOR - understand your want. That is your only responsibility. You cannot accommodate for the fears of others and be honest at the same time.

M3taPhsX

05-27-2003, 04:42 PM

This must be a culture clash here. I am an American east Indian. In our culture, respectable girls don't out partying all the time.

And

05-27-2003, 04:46 PM

What falls within respectable limits for you culturally?

Bold Soul

05-27-2003, 04:50 PM

Originally posted by M3taPhsX:
This must be a culture clash here. I am an American east Indian. In our culture, respectable girls don't out partying all the time. In American culture, respectable girls are those who are able to appear as if they the rules of men.

[ May 27, 2003, 05:55 PM: Message edited by: Bold Soul ]

liL Ray

05-27-2003, 04:51 PM

Originally posted by M3taPhsX:
[QUOTE] It's not women who go to clubs. Everyone has to go out sometime and have some fun. We are talking about the women who are up in the clubs all the time, party ALL the time. And no they are all hoes but girls should have a little more dignity than being bar flies. I can't believe he wasn't burned at the stake and his balls removed and used as pingpong balls in the next table tennis match for this comment. Either the ladies on DHP are slipping or they haven't caught up to this topic and this comment yet.

Prepared thyself for the can 'o whoop ass coming your way M3taPhsX....the wrath will be upon you....just hang in there...welcome(again) to the DHP!!!

drilla

05-27-2003, 04:51 PM

Originally posted by M3taPhsX:
This must be a culture clash here. I am an American east Indian. In our culture, respectable girls don't out partying all the time. this is the deep house page, son. it is it's own culture and none at the same time.

what about the dudes?...are they respected if they go out alot?

liL Ray

05-27-2003, 04:54 PM

Originally posted by M3taPhsX:
This must be a culture clash here. I am an American east Indian. In our culture, respectable girls don't out partying all the time. Man, you need to quit while you still have your balls...hahahaha....again, be prepared, that sound you hear is the can of whoop ass being open....don't look over here, I'm staying out of this. graemlins/bolt.gif

liL Ray

05-27-2003, 04:55 PM

Originally posted by matthew j:
[QUOTE]
what about the dudes?...are they respected if they go out alot? If you know what's good for you, you wouldn't answer that....matthew is setting you up...just a little advice.

drilla

05-27-2003, 04:56 PM

Originally posted by liL Ray:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by matthew j:

what about the dudes?...are they respected if they go out alot? If you know what's good for you, you wouldn't answer that....matthew is setting you up...just a little advice. damn you for ruining my fun!

liL Ray

05-27-2003, 04:58 PM

Originally posted by matthew j:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by liL Ray:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by matthew j:

what about the dudes?...are they respected if they go out alot? If you know what's good for you, you wouldn't answer that....matthew is setting you up...just a little advice. damn you for ruining my fun! [/QUOTE]just looking out for the newbie...call it the nicer, gentler, liL Ray...it too shall pass.

drilla

05-27-2003, 05:01 PM

hahah at your new persona.

i actually thought about writing an apology to all the people ive pissed off on this board and in cyber land in general.

yeah, it didnt happen yet...

maybe someday.

Bold Soul

05-27-2003, 05:05 PM

Well, we have some illusions at work in this conversation.

One does not want to be serious about a woman who "hangs out in the clubs all the time"...

...so one chooses a woman who "hangs out in the clubs all the time" and attempts to change said woman's behavior...

...said woman who "hangs out in the club all the time" has embraced the dynamics and habits of that lifestyle and, while earnest in attempts to conform to what the man wants (because she's afraid she'll never meet someone, get married, have children - all the things a woman is supposed to do, you understand), eventually returns to "hanging out in clubs all the time"...

...this man, whose expectations for said woman are incompatible with her personality, finds himself heartbroken by every hug, every dance, every conversation by a male stranger and therefore tortures himself by wishing said woman who "hangs out in clubs all the time" would just be different...

...said man and woman break up...

...said man says she is the "cunt" he had to let go because she "hanged out in clubs all the time"....

...he has this conversation with all his boys, who "hang out in clubs all the time"...

...while they "hang out in the club"...

AND I WARN MY DAUGHTERS ABOUT YOU FOOLISH MUTHAFUKAS EVERY DAY!!!

drilla

05-27-2003, 05:06 PM

metaphysics,

let me cut to the chase since ray ****ed my shit up.

your culture's views are so assbackwards n reference to their unequal views between men and women and going out (partying) and such...

im surprised your culture still exists in this day and age with those views.

as always, believe what you wish.

And

05-27-2003, 05:06 PM

icon_rofl.gif @ Boldsoul

[ May 27, 2003, 06:07 PM: Message edited by: 6 23 ]

liL Ray

05-27-2003, 05:17 PM

Originally posted by Bold Soul:
Well, we have some illusions at work in this conversation.

One does not want to be serious about a woman who "hangs out in the clubs all the time"...

...so one chooses a woman who "hangs out in the clubs all the time" and attempts to change said woman's behavior...

...said woman who "hangs out in the club all the time" has embraced the dynamics and habits of that lifestyle and, while earnest in attempts to conform to what the man wants (because she's afraid she'll never meet someone, get married, have children - all the things a woman is supposed to do, you understand), eventually returns to "hanging out in clubs all the time"...

...this man, whose expectations for said woman are incompatible with her personality, finds himself heartbroken by every hug, every dance, every conversation by a male stranger and therefore tortures himself by wishing said woman who "hangs out in clubs all the time" would just be different...

...said man and woman break up...

...said man says she is the "cunt" he had to let go because she "hanged out in clubs all the time"....

...he has this conversation with all his boys, who "hang out in clubs all the time"...

...while they "hang out in the club"...

AND I WARN MY DAUGHTERS ABOUT YOU FOOLISH MUTHAFUKAS EVERY DAY!!! SPEAK THE TRUTH, muu****er....SPEAK IT!!! This is so ****ing true.....I will read everything that Bold Soul put on this board from this day forth because he knows the truth.... hail.gif hail.gif

Jamie 3:26

05-27-2003, 05:40 PM

I had to log on to this to see where it has gone.Boy,my mans is lucky Ms.Rickey ain't here.

To put it ever so lightly.....my mans has issues.

Like I always tell cats,don't say or make demands that you don't want flipped back at cha.

What if you did the same thing and partied all of the time?You would be considered a slimy bastard by some ladies I know.You may not be a slimy bastard,but you hang out in clubs all the ttime,you have to be looking for somethin'?

Men can be hoes too.We just don't get pregnant.

I guess I have really matured.

Bold Soul

05-27-2003, 05:50 PM

Yall, my 8th grader just went through the same ridiculous shit.

The former Mrs. Bold Soul doesn't allow dating as of yet, but meeting up with a partner at the 8th grade dance was okay according to Mr. Bold Soul so, discretion being the better part of valor, have a good time...

Bold Soul Offspring #1 is having issue after issue with her 13 year old accompaniment because he can't handle her dancing with one of her friends and he wants her to sit with him and only him. She comes out of the bathroom to his pleading, begging face about how he wants her to be his and only his, he loves her and he will cry if she doesn't say yes.

Bold Soul Offspring #1 is so much like her Daddy that you would think Bold Soul was in the stirrups back in the day, if you dig what I'm saying - so Shorty Need Much got the heave ho and Baby Bold Soul had a good time for the rest of the dance without him.

Needless to say, for the rest of the party, Goofy First Date, 13 ****IN' YEARS OLD, complains to all of my daughter's friends that she has way too many boys as buddies and that she played him.

Thirteen years old, this kid. Thirteen years old and he already has enough fear in him to want to control the actions of a 14 year old and condemn her if she doesn't conform to his vision of an ideal mate.

If I ever meet his mother and father, I'm going to...on second thought, I hope I never meet his mother and father.

Dolemite73

05-27-2003, 05:55 PM

Originally posted by Bold Soul:
Yall, my 8th grader just went through the same ridiculous shit.

The former Mrs. Bold Soul doesn't allow dating as of yet, but meeting up with a partner at the 8th grade dance was okay according to Mr. Bold Soul so, discretion being the better part of valor, have a good time...

Bold Soul Offspring #1 is having issue after issue with her 13 year old accompaniment because he can't handle her dancing with one of her friends and he wants her to sit with him and only him. She comes out of the bathroom to his pleading, begging face about how he wants her to be his and only his, he loves her and he will cry if she doesn't say yes.

Bold Soul Offspring #1 is so much like her Daddy that you would think Bold Soul was in the stirrups back in the day, if you dig what I'm saying - so Shorty Need Much got the heave ho and Baby Bold Soul had a good time for the rest of the dance without him.

Needless to say, for the rest of the party, Goofy First Date, 13 ****IN' YEARS OLD, complains to all of my daughter's friends that she has way too many boys as buddies and that she played him.

Thirteen years old, this kid. Thirteen years old and he already has enough fear in him to want to control the actions of a 14 year old and condemn her if she doesn't conform to his vision of an ideal mate.

If I ever meet his mother and father, I'm going to...on second thought, I hope I never meet his mother and father. Bold Soul...you are the ****in man.....this is some funny shit

Dolemite73

05-27-2003, 05:56 PM

Originally posted by Dolemite73:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by Bold Soul:
Yall, my 8th grader just went through the same ridiculous shit.

The former Mrs. Bold Soul doesn't allow dating as of yet, but meeting up with a partner at the 8th grade dance was okay according to Mr. Bold Soul so, discretion being the better part of valor, have a good time...

Bold Soul Offspring #1 is having issue after issue with her 13 year old accompaniment because he can't handle her dancing with one of her friends and he wants her to sit with him and only him. She comes out of the bathroom to his pleading, begging face about how he wants her to be his and only his, he loves her and he will cry if she doesn't say yes.

Bold Soul Offspring #1 is so much like her Daddy that you would think Bold Soul was in the stirrups back in the day, if you dig what I'm saying - so Shorty Need Much got the heave ho and Baby Bold Soul had a good time for the rest of the dance without him.

Needless to say, for the rest of the party, Goofy First Date, 13 ****IN' YEARS OLD, complains to all of my daughter's friends that she has way too many boys as buddies and that she played him.

Thirteen years old, this kid. Thirteen years old and he already has enough fear in him to want to control the actions of a 14 year old and condemn her if she doesn't conform to his vision of an ideal mate.

If I ever meet his mother and father, I'm going to...on second thought, I hope I never meet his mother and father. Bold Soul...you are the ****in man.....this is some funny shit [/QUOTE]Since when cant we cuss on the board? Must have happened while I was gone graemlins/jpshakehead.gif

liL Ray

05-27-2003, 05:59 PM

Originally posted by Dolemite73:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by Dolemite73:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by Bold Soul:
Yall, my 8th grader just went through the same ridiculous shit.

The former Mrs. Bold Soul doesn't allow dating as of yet, but meeting up with a partner at the 8th grade dance was okay according to Mr. Bold Soul so, discretion being the better part of valor, have a good time...

Bold Soul Offspring #1 is having issue after issue with her 13 year old accompaniment because he can't handle her dancing with one of her friends and he wants her to sit with him and only him. She comes out of the bathroom to his pleading, begging face about how he wants her to be his and only his, he loves her and he will cry if she doesn't say yes.

Bold Soul Offspring #1 is so much like her Daddy that you would think Bold Soul was in the stirrups back in the day, if you dig what I'm saying - so Shorty Need Much got the heave ho and Baby Bold Soul had a good time for the rest of the dance without him.

Needless to say, for the rest of the party, Goofy First Date, 13 ****IN' YEARS OLD, complains to all of my daughter's friends that she has way too many boys as buddies and that she played him.

Thirteen years old, this kid. Thirteen years old and he already has enough fear in him to want to control the actions of a 14 year old and condemn her if she doesn't conform to his vision of an ideal mate.

If I ever meet his mother and father, I'm going to...on second thought, I hope I never meet his mother and father. Bold Soul...you are the ****in man.....this is some funny shit [/QUOTE]Since when cant we cuss on the board? Must have happened while I was gone graemlins/jpshakehead.gif [/QUOTE]Just that one word...kinda cool seeing the asteriks.

Oh, Bold Soul, I continue(not personally) to see the above story happen to 30+ crowd also....

Bold Soul

05-27-2003, 06:05 PM

Originally posted by liL Ray:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by Dolemite73:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by Dolemite73:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by Bold Soul:
Yall, my 8th grader just went through the same ridiculous shit.

The former Mrs. Bold Soul doesn't allow dating as of yet, but meeting up with a partner at the 8th grade dance was okay according to Mr. Bold Soul so, discretion being the better part of valor, have a good time...

Bold Soul Offspring #1 is having issue after issue with her 13 year old accompaniment because he can't handle her dancing with one of her friends and he wants her to sit with him and only him. She comes out of the bathroom to his pleading, begging face about how he wants her to be his and only his, he loves her and he will cry if she doesn't say yes.

Bold Soul Offspring #1 is so much like her Daddy that you would think Bold Soul was in the stirrups back in the day, if you dig what I'm saying - so Shorty Need Much got the heave ho and Baby Bold Soul had a good time for the rest of the dance without him.

Needless to say, for the rest of the party, Goofy First Date, 13 ****IN' YEARS OLD, complains to all of my daughter's friends that she has way too many boys as buddies and that she played him.

Thirteen years old, this kid. Thirteen years old and he already has enough fear in him to want to control the actions of a 14 year old and condemn her if she doesn't conform to his vision of an ideal mate.

If I ever meet his mother and father, I'm going to...on second thought, I hope I never meet his mother and father. Bold Soul...you are the ****in man.....this is some funny shit [/QUOTE]Since when cant we cuss on the board? Must have happened while I was gone graemlins/jpshakehead.gif [/QUOTE]Just that one word...kinda cool seeing the asteriks.

Oh, Bold Soul, I continue(not personally) to see the above story happen to 30+ crowd also.... [/QUOTE]That girls mature faster than boys is a myth - obviously developed by men that want to partake in young girls without feeling guilty.

First thing I told my daughter when she began to find boys attractive -

"When little girls are playing with Barbie, little boys are staying up late at night watching Cinemax. You have been warned."

MyNia

05-27-2003, 06:08 PM

Respectable girls don't party alot? What kind of garbage is that!!!! In order for a guy to know a woman is in the club 4 nights a week he has to be out just as often. Does that mean he is not a respectable man? If a man isn't secure with his mate going out then he needs to cut his losses, save his nagging, and be out. What is the purpose of trying to put your sh*t off on someone else. If someone isn't secure leave 'em.

Dolemite73

05-27-2003, 06:23 PM

Get him Mynia!! Get him good!!

Bold Soul

05-27-2003, 06:28 PM

Anyone going to the Witch Trials tonight?

[ May 27, 2003, 07:37 PM: Message edited by: Bold Soul ]

Leslie

05-27-2003, 07:37 PM

Originally posted by M3taPhsX:
This must be a culture clash here. I am an American east Indian. In our culture, respectable girls don't out partying all the time. Oh no he didn't??? This folks is your melting pot - you come to this country to have a better life (basically for the men), but still choose to oppress your women. Meanwhile yo behind is up in the club lusting after anything that moves....but I get it as a man you can chase tail and its okay, your ass is still respectable.

Bold Soul

05-27-2003, 07:52 PM

Originally posted by Leslie:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by M3taPhsX:
This must be a culture clash here. I am an American east Indian. In our culture, respectable girls don't out partying all the time. Oh no he didn't??? This folks is your melting pot - you come to this country to have a better life (basically for the men), but still choose to oppress your women. Meanwhile yo behind is up in the club lusting after anything that moves....but I get it as a man you can chase tail and its okay, your ass is still respectable. [/QUOTE]Who was the fool that got Leslie started? http://deephousepage.com/smilies/conf45.gif

"Moe, Larry...cheese!"

liL Ray

05-27-2003, 07:57 PM

I'mma stay out of it...

[ May 27, 2003, 09:31 PM: Message edited by: liL Ray ]

Discogoddess

05-27-2003, 08:43 PM

Nothing more to contribute, just crackin the fugg up @ Bold Soul's "Shorty Need Much" descriptor graemlins/rofl.gif graemlins/rofl.gif graemlins/rofl.gif

...Sounds like Native American name of a lot of supposedly grown azz men!

DJ George Bates

05-27-2003, 08:45 PM

I was almost going to lurk this one .... but what the heck ! My 2 cents....

I used to dance with my wife all the time when we were just friends...partied quite a few times during the week.had a ball too!

When we got together , I wasn't partying to much anymore...Hell, i did good to go out once per month. While she still enjoyed dancing...I was basically an insecure guy who tried to change someone who i cared about deeply.. what's worse is what i tried to change was something that grew us together ! Stupid huh ?

This caused too many problems for us for a minute till i realized , if she loves me.. she's not ****ing around with somebody when her and her girlfriends go out... When i'm out , i'm trying to hear new music....scout new spots..it's business and fun. I don't **** around on my wife and i realized she derved the same trust....

I went thru the whole " a woman in a club " shit and thats what it was... bull shit ! it's about trust of who you're with.

True enough Lord knows I don't want to run into someone she " knew " in the past and if we were to ever split up, i wouldn't want to see her new friend and her...

For me tho..it was all male insecurity....My 2 cents !

Oak Pk, IL's Best Bedroom DJ, serge

05-27-2003, 09:53 PM

Originally posted by Leslie:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by serge:
People go to clubs for 3 reasons:

Dance
Drink
Meet a potential mate.

Most folks (men & women) have a few drinks to get some liquid courage to get on the dance floor and get their groove on (hopefully with somebody good looking and who can dance).

Of all the aforementioned reasons, drinking is the one that ruins the chance of meeting of somebody viable and honest to start a relationship. Most folks are half drunk when they hook up, and are talking up whatever talents or interest they have.

Here's another suggestion: Go to the library or an art gallery showing, and hook up with an intellectual that enjoys art and culture, like you do, and maybe you can save American culture, literature and arts from homegenization and extinction. I know you think this sounds good - but its actually very narrow minded. Give people a little more credit - cause trust me, there are plenty of losers in the places you described above - especially of the male species. There are PLENTY of intellecutual jerks that roam the streets, galleries, and libraries of every city. [/QUOTE]Agreed, Leslie. Lotsa self absorbed snobs out there, female and male. Shit, I can be snobbish at times. :rolleyes:

I do give people credit. I believe DHP folks are the exception from the norm. We are a small minority of geek..oops, I mean folks who are into clubbing solely for the music and dancing.

Despite this, I know it sounds narrow minded, but dancing, drinking and hooking up are the reasons why folk most other folks go out clubbing in the first place.

And to think I got this narrow minded advice from a woman: my mother!

And she ain't the only woman who's told me this.

Bottomline, it's like the song goes:
"Everybody plays the fool".

When we can stop playing the fool, things will start turning out alright.

nev m

05-28-2003, 01:40 AM

Originally posted by serge:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by Leslie:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by serge:
People go to clubs for 3 reasons:

Dance
Drink
Meet a potential mate.

Most folks (men & women) have a few drinks to get some liquid courage to get on the dance floor and get their groove on (hopefully with somebody good looking and who can dance).

Of all the aforementioned reasons, drinking is the one that ruins the chance of meeting of somebody viable and honest to start a relationship. Most folks are half drunk when they hook up, and are talking up whatever talents or interest they have.

Here's another suggestion: Go to the library or an art gallery showing, and hook up with an intellectual that enjoys art and culture, like you do, and maybe you can save American culture, literature and arts from homegenization and extinction. I know you think this sounds good - but its actually very narrow minded. Give people a little more credit - cause trust me, there are plenty of losers in the places you described above - especially of the male species. There are PLENTY of intellecutual jerks that roam the streets, galleries, and libraries of every city. [/QUOTE]Agreed, Leslie. Lotsa self absorbed snobs out there, female and male. Shit, I can be snobbish at times. :rolleyes:

I do give people credit. I believe DHP folks are the exception from the norm. We are a small minority of geek..oops, I mean folks who are into clubbing solely for the music and dancing.

Despite this, I know it sounds narrow minded, but dancing, drinking and hooking up are the reasons why folk most other folks go out clubbing in the first place.

And to think I got this narrow minded advice from a woman: my mother!

And she ain't the only woman who's told me this.

Bottomline, it's like the song goes:
"Everybody plays the fool".

When we can stop playing the fool, things will start turning out alright. [/QUOTE]Good last word! (But I bet it ain't!!)

Bold Soul

05-28-2003, 01:41 AM

Originally posted by djchex2002:
I was almost going to lurk this one .... but what the heck ! My 2 cents....

I used to dance with my wife all the time when we were just friends...partied quite a few times during the week.had a ball too!

When we got together , I wasn't partying to much anymore...Hell, i did good to go out once per month. While she still enjoyed dancing...I was basically an insecure guy who tried to change someone who i cared about deeply.. what's worse is what i tried to change was something that grew us together ! Stupid huh ?

This caused too many problems for us for a minute till i realized , if she loves me.. she's not ****ing around with somebody when her and her girlfriends go out... When i'm out , i'm trying to hear new music....scout new spots..it's business and fun. I don't **** around on my wife and i realized she derved the same trust....

I went thru the whole " a woman in a club " shit and thats what it was... bull shit ! it's about trust of who you're with.

True enough Lord knows I don't want to run into someone she " knew " in the past and if we were to ever split up, i wouldn't want to see her new friend and her...

For me tho..it was all male insecurity....My 2 cents ! Such courage! Thank you for sharing! smile.gif

DJ George Bates

05-28-2003, 02:36 AM

thanx...just the truth .

MYOR

05-28-2003, 08:28 AM

Originally posted by M3taPhsX:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by Leslie:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by M3taPhsX:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by JAMIE 3:26:
Met a whatever the hell,ya still must be young.I know for a fact that if a woman is going to house functions to dance all nite,she ain't loose.

If it's a lounge,tavern,hip-hop spot,she may be a loose booty.I managed a club for 2 years.I know some insides on these dudes,who really think they know it all.There are some ladies who go to party to dance and just have a good time.If we see them all of the time,we think they are searching.Sometimes they are right,most of the time they are wrong.

Closed minded thinking will make one look like a fool.... It's M3taPhysX and I'm 30. I believe MYOR and what she is saying, I have no reason not to but she is a very small minority of girls who like to club just to dance. You can't honestly believe this is the norm. [/QUOTE]The fact that you think this of the majority of the women who go to clubs (any club for that matter) shows what you think of women. In essence you said that the majority of women who go to clubs are hoes, you've managed to offened all the women on this board by making that statement. Care to clean it up any? [/QUOTE]It's not women who go to clubs. Everyone has to go out sometime and have some fun. We are talking about the women who are up in the clubs all the time, party ALL the time. And no they are all hoes but girls should have a little more dignity than being bar flies. [/QUOTE]I forget some men just want there "woman" in the kitchen barefoot and pregnant... Why should woman have fun & dance or do anything for that matter... thats just too much... maybe one a year should surfice.... While your at it why don't you just get us blinders so we can see anything around us.. GIVE ME A BREAK... AR15firing.gif

Here is the thing... I am single.. My hobby is dancing... I pay my rent, car, etc.. by myself.. So why should I stop doing what makes ME happy so that a man could be a little more secure... NOT HAPPENING.. See thats one thing I know... Don't sacrifice yourself to make others happy... Just doens't work.. if this means I'll be single all my life so be it...

Shalewa

05-28-2003, 08:45 AM

Originally posted by MYOR:
...if this means I'll be single all my life so be it... Girl,
Keep dancing and keep the faith. You know who you are and what you are about. A right partner will present himself to you. You will know he is right for you because your interest in dancing shared or not will be accepted as naturally as collecting stamps or needlepoint might be.

Oak Pk, IL's Best Bedroom DJ, serge

05-28-2003, 08:45 AM

Originally posted by MYOR:
I forget some men just want there "woman" in the kitchen barefoot and pregnant... Why should woman have fun & dance or do anything for that matter... thats just too much... maybe one a year should surfice.... While your at it why don't you just get us blinders so we can see anything around us.. GIVE ME A BREAK... AR15firing.gif

Here is the thing... I am single.. My hobby is dancing... I pay my rent, car, etc.. by myself.. So why should I stop doing what makes ME happy so that a man could be a little more secure... NOT HAPPENING.. See thats one thing I know... Don't sacrifice yourself to make others happy... Just doens't work.. if this means I'll be single all my life so be it... You just answered your own question, Myor.

Do what you love in this life. This is the key to happiness.

Love involves sacrifice, but if it means sacrificing the things that make you happy, then that ain't love.

And don't look for love, it will find you.

Koffy Brown

05-28-2003, 08:55 AM

I agree Myor...I was getting ready to post that there are some factors to take into consideration...such as marital status and kids...if you are a single woman who has the privy to do what you want when you want then do so...your obligation is to yourself...if dancing every weekend makes you happy then by golly dance girl dance...

M3taPhsX

05-28-2003, 09:09 AM

I know my opinions are controversial with the rest of America. Yes Indian culture is patriachal, and there are some double-standards. You may disagree with it and that is fine. In fact, there are many faults I see it with it. On the other hand, it seems many American women are lacking in morals or values. What ever happened to acting like a lady? The girls of "Girls Gone Wild" aren't my idea of girlfriend material, I don't know about you.

Yes, it's true, the house scene is different. People acutally go out to listen to the music and dance...wow can you believe it? It's not a meat market like going to a hip hop spot or some of the mainstream clubs. I'm surprised by the digs at my culture though. I thought heads were supposed to be opened minded people?

[ May 28, 2003, 12:11 PM: Message edited by: M3taPhsX ]

Shalewa

05-28-2003, 09:26 AM

metaphysics, your posts disprove the notion that "heads" are some breed apart who are specially free from the binds of bias.

imported_Chr_stopher

05-28-2003, 10:35 AM

MYOR

05-28-2003, 10:39 AM

Originally posted by Christopher L. Aquilo:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by MYOR:
Here is something that always gets me fired up..

My hobby is dancing..
so yes I go out mostly every weekend and dance. But guy friends or guys in general tell me that the reason they never approach me is because they see me as "too much of a party girl."

I try to explain that while some people like bowling or shooting pool and go every week, I like dancing... What do I need to do stay home and twittle my thumb...

Can some of you help me understand this.. Cuz I really don't get it...

I guess I will be single forever graemlins/conf44.gif smile.gif [/QUOTE]Hello graemlins/cool_shades.gif

imported_Chr_stopher

05-28-2003, 10:57 AM

MYOR, I sent you a pm

SuzanneT

05-28-2003, 11:09 AM

Originally posted by MYOR:
Here is something that always gets me fired up..

My hobby is dancing..
so yes I go out mostly every weekend and dance. But guy friends or guys in general tell me that the reason they never approach me is because they see me as "too much of a party girl."

I try to explain that while some people like bowling or shooting pool and go every week, I like dancing... What do I need to do stay home and twittle my thumb...

Can some of you help me understand this.. Cuz I really don't get it...

I guess I will be single forever graemlins/conf44.gif I feel ya because I get the same thing and I find it to be people who arent househeadz or people who are in luv w/ the music, usually its people who don't go to dance, they go to clubs because they equate clubbin w/the finding of some ass to take home. Don't give up the dance gurl! just ignore them.

SuzanneT

05-28-2003, 11:17 AM

SuzanneT

05-28-2003, 12:18 PM

Originally posted by M3taPhsX:
I know my opinions are controversial with the rest of America. Yes Indian culture is patriachal, and there are some double-standards. You may disagree with it and that is fine. In fact, there are many faults I see it with it. On the other hand, it seems many American women are lacking in morals or values. What ever happened to acting like a lady? The girls of "Girls Gone Wild" aren't my idea of girlfriend material, I don't know about you.

Yes, it's true, the house scene is different. People acutally go out to listen to the music and dance...wow can you believe it? It's not a meat market like going to a hip hop spot or some of the mainstream clubs. I'm surprised by the digs at my culture though. I thought heads were supposed to be opened minded people? LOL I won't take offense to your statement about "American girls have no morals or values" I will just let that one slide(because you did say "many"), I will say this about Amercian women, they are acting no better or worse than men in the world. I think I saw you post somewhere that you are 30 yrs old, so I would hope you wouldnt be interested in 16-20 yr old drunk ass kids whose parents shouldnt have allowed them to be unchaperoned in public in the 1st place ;)

richierich

05-28-2003, 12:24 PM

Peeps need to stop stereotyping hip-hop and r&b clubs .. like only hoes and thugs listen to hip-hop and go to these clubs. That's like saying that only fags listen to house. You don't want people stereotyping house don't sterotype hip-hop.

(Im)poster

05-28-2003, 08:06 PM

Originally posted by MYOR:
[QUOTE] I guess I will have to stick to the people that just love to dance like me... graemlins/bighug.gif This is your answer, Myor. Try to find a man who is into the music. You know the anthem... "Not everyone understands house music." It's still true today. Only a man who is into this scene would understand that we go out just to hear the music and DANCE -- for hours. My ex could not understand that (part of the reason he's ex!) and used to accuse me of all kinds of madness -- all of it unfounded. I was just dancing. Always dancing.