November 18th,2003

[Jamie 3:26]

This is the day I never thought I would really want to see to even think of.Today is the last day I will call myself a dj.I am giving this shit up for good.With some of the shit that has occurred to me in the last month,what happened this past weekend and then today was the kicker.Thanks to everyone who has supported me over the years.

I am dead serious,so please do not come up here with those pleas of don't quit.This is no ploy for attention or sympathy....I am done.

[ November 18, 2003, 08:24 PM: Message edited by: Big Sexy ]

[Huey P. Freeman]

Originally posted by Big Sexy:
This is the day I never thought I would really want to see ot even think of.Today is the lasy day I will call myself a dj.I am giving this shit up for good.Thanks to everyone who has supported me over the years. Bro that date is a year ago.

[AD]

WTH???

[Rainless]

2002 graemlins/conf44.gif

[Huey P. Freeman]

Originally posted by Big Sexy:
This is the day I never thought I would really want to see ot even think of.Today is the lasy day I will call myself a dj.I am giving this shit up for good.Thanks to everyone who has supported me over the years. Why?

[Jamie 3:26]

Damn,all ya'll could do is read the damn date?That's what the hell is wrong sometimes on this spot.Folks gotta dig and shit.

I am done spinning records.No,I am not selling shit.I was starting to lose faith in this shit and what occurred today was the last straw.

[AD]

Well, what the hell happened? Spill your guts.

[Huey P. Freeman]

Originally posted by Big Sexy:
Damn,all ya'll could do is read the damn date?That's what the hell is wrong sometimes on this spot.Folks gotta dig and shit.

I am done spinning records.No,I am not selling shit.I was starting to lose faith in this shit and what occurred today was the last straw. What happened bro? Maybe you just need to vent. Sometimes that helps.

[Erob the One]

Damn - I still hope I can hit you up for a CD in the future!

Erob

[daniel]

was it the russian chicks at R&S?

[simon b]

This weekend you were make plaster fall from the ceiling now this?

[Larissa J.]

Originally posted by Big Sexy:
This is the day I never thought I would really want to see to even think of.Today is the last day I will call myself a dj.I am giving this shit up for good.With some of the shit that has occurred to me in the last month,what happened this past weekend and then today was the kicker.Thanks to everyone who has supported me over the years.

I am dead serious,so please do not come up here with those pleas of don't quit.This is no ploy for attention or sympathy....I am done.

[Larissa J.]

Originally posted by Big Sexy:
This is the day I never thought I would really want to see to even think of.Today is the last day I will call myself a dj.I am giving this shit up for good.With some of the shit that has occurred to me in the last month,what happened this past weekend and then today was the kicker.Thanks to everyone who has supported me over the years.

I am dead serious,so please do not come up here with those pleas of don't quit.This is no ploy
for attention or sympathy....I am done. What the hell are you talking about? I hope that it does not have anything to do about the post on last week's party? Unfortunately, I wasn't there, however you are one of the reasons I continue to support these parties in Chicago. You're genuine and real. If you quit, you give the haters something to really talk about. By the way, clean out your pms.

Peace,

Dancing is the root of my passion.

[Jamie 3:26]

This is it in a nutshell.I am giving this shit up,due to me needing to get my life on track.I need to focus,why focus on something that is not meant to be at this time?

I am concentrating on going to school in Jan.I was going to chill anyways,but I have been going thru some shit in my life.

My wife lost her job ealier this year.Right after that,my grandfather died,while I was in Miami.I became the sole bread winner and it has taken a toll on me.I need to focus to better my life,playing records and everything else that comes along with it,is a major disraction.

My car gets broken into twice in 1 month.I have had my entire cd collection stolen from me.These were not just plain cd's,but cd's of my hottest shit.Original rare early house shit to my personal edits,which a good chunk of my personal time went into.3.5 years worth of shit...gone.I had a bag of records taken.

I am not in the financial position to purchase music in bulk anymore.The loss of that bag and cd case has really drained it out of me.

I am having a stressful time,having to relocate back to the city.There has been nothing but bullshit,since we moved back here.The wierd thing is I wanted to be near my people.Yet,I have messed up shit happen to me that did not happen when I was in the burbs.It will fuck with your head.

I am on a mission,because I can not get to the next level in life I want to be,with my current situation.

I can admit that I wasted many chances and I can not afford to do it any longer.
Like I said before,I am not looking for pity,I am looking for a way out.A way to be confortable.If I have to sacrifice playing records to get there,I will do WHATEVER it takes to better myself,so I will never ever have to go backwards in life.

I;m not trying to rant and bitch,but life has gotten in my ass and I do not ignore signs and the signs are plain.I have to change some shit and be real.

Playing records ain't gonna better me now.......out.

[mhd]

stay up brother

[JoeB]

respect brother and i wish you the best in all your future endeavors.

[MyNia]

graemlins/bighug.gif overstood.

[Light Skinted Wif Good Hur]

Handle ya bidness and when ya get on track, you'll be back! http://deephousepage.com/smilies/djmixing.gif

[Bold Soul]

Keep ya head up!

http://www.boldsoul.com/images/houseisdead.jpg

[Huey P. Freeman]

Why does bad shit happen to good people? I know this sounds cliche as hell but try and keep your head up bro. Good luck with your school. Your physical and mental well being should be priority.

[djLesCole]

Hey man, best of luck to you. I can understand your decision, but hope that your situation turns itself around soon. God Bless!

[simon b]

Jamie, I feel you. I'm in a similar situation right now, and I cannot even begin to imagine how much worse I would feel without my outlet - music. It's in you and always will be. Do what you have to do now, but someday I hope you will find your way back to what it is that is truely meaningful for you.

[Savoir-Faire]

Jamie, you should be commended for knowing the reality of your situation and respected for making the motion in what you feel is the right direction...

I wish you much success brother.
graemlins/thumbsup.gif

[Erika R.]

Originally posted by Big Sexy:

I am on a mission,because I can not get to the next level in life I want to be,with my current situation. Hey Big, sorry to hear about your misfortunes, we all go through troubled times in our lives, and of course, everyone's situation is different. But no matter what, stay on that mission you mentioned above. V-Rod and I are behind in you in whatever you choose to do. You and your wife are good people and I will pray for you guys graemlins/bighug.gif !

Erika

[BHouse]

Yo... I don't know you... Never met you... But I truly feel you... and my heart goes out to you... I am sure you will make it, for the simple fact you are willing to sacrifice the one thing you love... GOD BLESS...

Brandonn

[AK]

Jamie, I'm very sorry to hear about your records and CDs getting stolen. That is absolutely foul. Anyone who would do that, knowing your time and financial and emotional investment, is complete scum and dishonors all of us.

Your focus on your personal and family life is very mature and should be commended. I think being the best husband, the best father...the best man we can be, should come before all else. But don't say you're giving it up for good. You are very talented and I can assure you the passion and desire won't go away, whether or not you can responsibly make it your life's work. So take care of business and come on back, bro.

Alan

[And]

Hi there Mirror ...
I can relate [with my own set of challenges] to what you're going through. I also know it's sometimes hard to accept good wishes when you're staring all the crap in the face all the time. What really does help me is looking at all the shit (as you are doing), as nothing more than a sign changes are to be made. All the best to you however you wish to proceed. I hope you find inspiration and find your peace.
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[ November 18, 2003, 10:49 PM: Message edited by: 6 23 ]

[DJ George Bates]

Jamie...

What's up man ?....I agree totally with AK's post to you...Man , the talent you have for this is unreal and I've heard you play live and believe it's part of your soul....

You may be back one day...maybe not. but the music will always be in you ....

For someone to steal records and cd's from you is truly foul....no doubt.

Sorry to hear of all the things life has thrown you... truly you;ve been tested..

Good luck man.. wherever life leads you, all the best.

[imported_Gman]

Jamie,

Sorry for your recent misfortunes. Alan said it all. Focus on yourself and your family. Listen to your gut feelings. If deep down something is telling you to stop Djing and spend the time, money and energy making your life better then for gods sake do so. I stopped djing in 1996 and it turned out to be a very good decision for me ;)

-G

[Tony Cano]

Jamie:

Again, sorry to hear of your misfortune. I can certainly understand you being upset at this time.
If you reconsider and need some music to get you going, I'd be willing to share some music with you on cd as I am sure others would be willing to help too. just say the word.

career-wise, you've made some excellent points too. i wish you lots of luck in whatever you decide to do.

[SEAN SOUNDS]

I agree with Gman. Put yourself and your life first before any of this. There are many bad apples out here waiting to see you fail and this is just another example. I had to step back myself to deal with things that should have been more important to me.

So do what you need to do first and make this second priority in your life. This shit will always be here for you when or if you return.

Peace my friend.

[ November 18, 2003, 11:18 PM: Message edited by: SEAN SOUNDS ]

[Glenn UndergroundChicago's Very Own]

NI**a Please we wont let you give up, so i'll let you play with your self 4 now. graemlins/nono.gif

[DJ Timmy Richardson]

Yo..Sorry to hear all if that. Maybe they happened for a reason(Focus). I'm sure once all the pieces of the puzzle fall together, you'll be right back into this thing we all love.

[And]

Originally posted by GU aka CVO:
NI**a Please we wont let you give up, so i'll let you play with your self 4 now. graemlins/nono.gif graemlins/rofl.gif Perfect!

[Glenn UndergroundChicago's Very Own]

Originally posted by GU aka CVO:
NI**a Please we wont let you give up, so i'll let you play with your self 4 now. graemlins/nono.gif Just in case though i did read the whole post, i just saw give up, so get through what every it is and i aint let you give up, just like in the begining you did not let me.

[AD]

Sorry to hear about what you're going through, Jamie. Stay strong and do what you gotta do to take care of business.

[Rudy Jordan]

My brotha, much love and respect to you for doing what you gotta do. I hate to hear that foul shit happened to you, but I know you will come back strong.

You can always hit me on the PM if you need anything.

Peace

[däp]

Originally posted by AK:
Jamie, I'm very sorry to hear about your records and CDs getting stolen. That is absolutely foul. Anyone who would do that, knowing your time and financial and emotional investment, is complete scum and dishonors all of us.

Your focus on your personal and family life is very mature and should be commended. I think being the best husband, the best father...the best man we can be, should come before all else. But don't say you're giving it up for good. You are very talented and I can assure you the passion and desire won't go away, whether or not you can responsibly make it your life's work. So take care of business and come on back, bro.

Alan i wasn't going to post anything but this (above) says it all. i have always taken care of home first and i recommend nothing less for you. you may find that you're happier musically when things are going well in the other parts of your life. yes, music can be an escape but you can only be on the run for so long.

i think that once things settle down, your music will come back around. take your time. the music will be here. no one can live your life but you. call me any time.

[DJ Keith Porter]

Originally posted by AK:
Jamie, I'm very sorry to hear about your records and CDs getting stolen. That is absolutely foul. Anyone who would do that, knowing your time and financial and emotional investment, is complete scum and dishonors all of us.

Your focus on your personal and family life is very mature and should be commended. I think being the best husband, the best father...the best man we can be, should come before all else. But don't say you're giving it up for good. You are very talented and I can assure you the passion and desire won't go away, whether or not you can responsibly make it your life's work. So take care of business and come on back, bro.

Alan Exactly!
Take care of business and when its time you'll be back bringing down ceilings.
Like Tony Cano said, I am sorry to hear about your lost and when you're ready I will have more stuff to share with you.
I support your mission all the way. Take your time, do it right and you'll be back in no time!
graemlins/respekt.gif
Always your friend
Keith Porter (PorterHouse)

[ November 19, 2003, 07:47 AM: Message edited by: DJ Keith Porter ]

[Brut by Faberge]

Hey big SExy/Jamie 3:26,

This sucks! :(

But if it is good for you, then so be it! I hope that nothing but the best comes to you from now on as you do what's best for yourself and your family...good luck in school, too. I expect straight A's graemlins/bighug.gif

(also, I hope they find who stole your music and http://deephousepage.com/smilies/greenchainsaw.gif)

[ruse]

Hi Jamie, I hope your decision brings you peace and happiness, and I am sorry that it was borne out of those particular circumstances. Maybe you should consider a change of environment? In a place like Chicago, with so many talented artists and DJs, your skills may have gone unnoticed. But somewhere else, people would definitely appreciate what you know about and what you have done for house music.
Ruse

p.s.- are you still good for a song ID every now and then?

[MusicFilter]

Jamie keep your head up. I've been through about the same things you have. I've had my car stolen a couple times. One time they took master copies of some of the best work both Lee Collins and I put together (this was on tape back in the day). I've been through death, marriage, divorce, baby mama drama and a few occassions of unemployement. I've had records stolen and have lost friends.

And I'm still standing!

If you were meant to be in this game you will always be in this game. Don't let adversity get you down. There are enough people in this game to help you get back in. If there is anything I can do including locating some tracks for you let me know.

I recommend listening to the first track on Nuyorican Soul - It's alright, I feel it!

That song may has well been written by me because that's how I feel about music. The word music could easily be substituted by the word GOD because they both have brought me through some rough times.

Check it out and hit me up bruh!

[Jamie 3:26]

I feel much better today.I'm still hurt and upset by what has happened to me.I am still going to concentrate on getting my life in order.I will not be playing out for a while,hell I only do it once a month anyways.

This just could not have happened at a worse time.I am really struggling,I barely can afford to buy a few records a month and then to lose shit,just hurts.

I placed some calls to some of my homies in the hood,because I have a general idea who the guys are who are hitting up cars at the metra parking lot.I do not want to do anything to them,I just want my shit back.Last nite,I had to call used records shops and let them know about my shit being stolen and to look out.

Right now,I'm pretty depressed and just want to get past this shit.I still am not going to play out for a long time.I'm tired and need to clear my mind.

I thank everyone for being concerned and being genuine with me.

Word of advice...do not keep shit in your car you can not replace.

[DLow]

Jamie, sorry to hear about those unfortunate circumstances. I know things can be rough, because I'm catching it right now myself. My wife was also out of work for a year and has only been back in the work force for a couple of months. I feel you on the financial problems.

Best of luck in whatever you pursue, be it music, school, etc. I'm keeping the faith that these burdens will be lifted from you and you can continue to happily proceed with your life.

Keep the faith.

Peace -- Derrick

[Leslie]

That which don't kill ya, only makes you stronger. graemlins/thumbsup.gif You're good people at heart so your ray of light is only around the corner....

[alex zen]

good luck in school man and get that music back.

[the crackhouse]

Jamie,
your decisions to take care of your home business and future are good and we won't discuss them.
But I think you shouldn't feel guilty of being a music lover and a dj, cause from what you said, it has nothing to do with your actual troubles.

Get a lil' rest and act for your future, but don't try to ignore your soul, asking for music for soooo many years.

You'll feed your soul later, but don't say your stop is definitive. Don't get corrupted by what is hapenning to you.
You did'nt ask for shit to fall on you, so fix the problems and when you'll feel that you have built a secured life for you and your family, you'll get back to your thing.

We don't want a sad Jamie who stopped his passion because of stealers and car breakings... Take your time but don't stop ! It's not you.

Last words : I think you have the maturity, the brains and the balls to take your life to a better environment. Don't get loose, go for the better as you said !

Bravo for taking these decisions.

[Mocambo]

Sometimes a little distance is needed.

[Germain]

Originally posted by Big Sexy:
This is it in a nutshell.I am giving this shit up,due to me needing to get my life on track.I need to focus,why focus on something that is not meant to be at this time?

I am concentrating on going to school in Jan.I was going to chill anyways,but I have been going thru some shit in my life.

My wife lost her job ealier this year.Right after that,my grandfather died,while I was in Miami.I became the sole bread winner and it has taken a toll on me.I need to focus to better my life,playing records and everything else that comes along with it,is a major disraction.

My car gets broken into twice in 1 month.I have had my entire cd collection stolen from me.These were not just plain cd's,but cd's of my hottest shit.Original rare early house shit to my personal edits,which a good chunk of my personal time went into.3.5 years worth of shit...gone.I had a bag of records taken.

I am not in the financial position to purchase music in bulk anymore.The loss of that bag and cd case has really drained it out of me.

I am having a stressful time,having to relocate back to the city.There has been nothing but bullshit,since we moved back here.The wierd thing is I wanted to be near my people.Yet,I have messed up shit happen to me that did not happen when I was in the burbs.It will fuck with your head.

I am on a mission,because I can not get to the next level in life I want to be,with my current situation.

I can admit that I wasted many chances and I can not afford to do it any longer.
Like I said before,I am not looking for pity,I am looking for a way out.A way to be confortable.If I have to sacrifice playing records to get there,I will do WHATEVER it takes to better myself,so I will never ever have to go backwards in life.

I;m not trying to rant and bitch,but life has gotten in my ass and I do not ignore signs and the signs are plain.I have to change some shit and be real.

Playing records ain't gonna better me now.......out. Yea right!!!! If ya serious, you will be back after being gone for a minute just like me. You can't just erase what is part of you no matter what's on life's agenda!

[Germain]

Sometimes you take life frustrations out on someone you love but she will be waiting for you.

[Larissa J.]

Originally posted by Big Sexy:
This is it in a nutshell.I am giving this shit up,due to me needing to get my life on track.I need to focus,why focus on something that is not meant to be at this time?

I am concentrating on going to school in Jan.I was going to chill anyways,but I have been going thru some shit in my life.

My wife lost her job ealier this year.Right after that,my grandfather died,while I was in Miami.I became the sole bread winner and it has taken a toll on me.I need to focus to better my life,playing records and everything else that comes along with it,is a major disraction.

My car gets broken into twice in 1 month.I have had my entire cd collection stolen from me.These were not just plain cd's,but cd's of my hottest shit.Original rare early house shit to my personal edits,which a good chunk of my personal time went into.3.5 years worth of shit...gone.I had a bag of records taken.

I am not in the financial position to purchase music in bulk anymore.The loss of that bag and cd case has really drained it out of me.

I am having a stressful time,having to relocate back to the city.There has been nothing but bullshit,since we moved back here.The wierd thing is I wanted to be near my people.Yet,I have messed up shit happen to me that did not happen when I was in the burbs.It will fuck with your head.

I am on a mission,because I can not get to the next level in life I want to be,with my current situation.

I can admit that I wasted many chances and I can not afford to do it any longer.
Like I said before,I am not looking for pity,I am looking for a way out.A way to be confortable.If I have to sacrifice playing records to get there,I will do WHATEVER it takes to better myself,so I will never ever have to go backwards in life.

I;m not trying to rant and bitch,but life has gotten in my ass and I do not ignore signs and the signs are plain.I have to change some shit and be real.

Playing records ain't gonna better me now.......out. Enough said...............
Good luck and wish you and your wife the best,

[Elbert Phillips]

Let the dust (emotions) settle then make a decision. Hopefully, whatever was stolen will be recovered and more, don't let lowlives defeat you. There must be a reasonable way for you to provide for your home and spend balanced time doing what you obviously enjoy-that's what adult life is about (I guess-I'm still trying to get it right); we're all trying to find it.

[ November 19, 2003, 11:25 AM: Message edited by: EL ]

[däp]

Originally posted by EL:
Let the dust (emotions) settle then make a decision. Hopefully, whatever was stolen will be recovered and more, don't let lowlives defeat you. There must be a reasonable way for you to provide for your home and spend balanced time doing what you obviously enjoy-that's what adult life is about (I guess-I'm still trying to get it right); we're all trying to find it. so true

[DJ George Bates]

word....

Lord knows I'm trying to figure it out !

Again... whatever you decide to do....I wish you the best in it...

I do believe once things settle down ...you'll look this way again..

I probably don't have alot of the older shit you had but if something is recent, I can hit you with some cd's if you like...

peace.

[Alanda Marquette from DiscoLadyLand]

[ November 19, 2003, 01:13 PM: Message edited by: DiscoLady ]

[djdarryl]

Originally posted by mynia:
graemlins/bighug.gif overstood. Sound familiar?

[E-Phi]

If you need anything at all, just holla. The scene will be here until you're ready to return (not if, but when ;) ). Until then more power to you in your endeavors.

[TAD]

Originally posted by SAMMYROCK:
This is the day I never thought I would really want to see to even think of.Today is the last day I will call myself a dj.I am giving this shit up for good.is that you sammyrock? http://deephousepage.com/smilies/eye_anim.gif http://deephousepage.com/smilies/eye_anim.gif

[shannoneileen]

Big Sexy...
Sorry that you are dealing with such a stressful situation...
You've recieved a lotta love, concern and good advice here on DHP... I'm just adding my 2 to say,
you'll make it through... though the road seems a little rough right now... The Higher gives you no more than you can handle...
You may end up a little battered and bruised on the other side, but a hell of a lot wiser and stronger than you might think...
Keep doin ya do...
graemlins/respekt.gif
Shannon-

[jurren]

i wish you all the best jamie!

and i think you've made a wise decision to stop dj-ing actively. make sure your love for music never turns into a source of stress. take a step back, and enjoy your music for just what it is: music! that way you'll find joy and relief in it, which will only help you in gaining focus and strength in dealing with the problems you're facing right now.
peace,

jurren

[Supine]

Big Sexy, I don't know you. But I respect you.


Supine

ps. don't be thinking you can loose the music. It will be back.

[J V]

Sorry to hear you're going through it bro, but I can relate. Do what you feel you gotta do and things will come together for you and yours. As far as the music, I believe there is enough love in the community for you to re-aquire at least some of those lost joints.

Holla at your brother if and when you need to.

peace,

jv

graemlins/respekt.gif

[Jamie 3:26]

Originally posted by usgmusic:
Sorry to hear you're going through it bro, but I can relate. Do what you feel you gotta do and things will come together for you and yours. As far as the music, I believe there is enough love in the community for you to re-aquire at least some of those lost joints.

Holla at your brother if and when you need to.

peace,

jv

graemlins/respekt.gif JV,everything you hooked me up with was taken,along with some other shit.They took a bag and took some records out of two crates,along with my cd case,a vacuum cleaner,and some loose change.The bastards even took a roach out of my ashtray.

I'm not done with spinning totally,this was the last straw for now.I'm just going to concentrate on getting some shit tight.I do not need any disractions,due to me not being able to balance everything properly.

[Sensei Melei]

Jamie,

When you get a chance call me at home. Tonight if you can.

Greg

[Rodney Ransom]

Jamie I met you briefly in Miami and you gave me a mixed cd that said big sexy on it. The weird thing is that I was just going to to finally listen to it after all these months. Now I will listen with a little sadness in my heart ,knowing that you might quit this s**t for good.
Listen Im not gonna sit here and try to bullshit you. like your self Iv'e been through some very rough times also. That's the reason why I just found your cd, I had to relocate because of some misfortune in my life. I defenitly respect your decision to chill for a minute, after i hear the cd I will e-mail you with my thoughts. Im sure I will like it . PEACE MOVE AT YOUR OWN PACE AND YOU WILL BE FINE. (MAY THE MOST HIGH GET YOU THROUGH THESE TIMES)...... ;)

[JMJ]

I'm sorry to hear this, Jamie. If you need anything on CD, let me know. I'm here to help.....JMJ :(

['Magic' Juan]

Yo, J .. I hope this is some sort of joke, but if not I wish you the best of luck in all your future endeavors. One day we'll hook up and hopefully that will bring you back around. Later ..

magic_juan graemlins/beerchug.gif

[DJ Rockin' Robin]

Sup, Jamie

I don't know you personally, but I respect what you have contributed to this site, and to the house scene as a whole.

I truly believe that once you get your career going, dear wifey finds work again, and get your other goals on track, your love and enthusiasm for the scene will be restored, refreshed, and renewed 10X over.

You will feel more invigorated than ever! It will be like when you FIRST started this back in the early 80's. Remebemer that FEELING??

The music will be here... Just do you first.


Stay strong, bro!

DJRR

[julian_kelly]

I understand what youre saying 100% bro.

I stopped buying records and spinning for around 7 years...I thought it would kill me, but it didnt. I had to reprioritize. Now 7 years later im slowly gettin back in the groove of things.

Me letting go of some things I loved alowed me to achieve some things I always dreamed of. Im happier and in a better position in life because of it.

You cant always hold onto all things. Sometimes you have to give and let go to get what you need to have in life.

Sacrifice, continually invest in yourself as well as your loved ones and in the end, things will work out swell. I understand and support what youre doing 100%.

peace
julian kelly


Originally posted by Big Sexy:
Playing records ain't gonna better me now.......out.

[MyNia]

Originally posted by djdarryl:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by mynia:
graemlins/bighug.gif overstood. Sound familiar? </font>[/QUOTE]very

[SPG]

Handle your business Big Sexy. Then come back strong! http://deephousepage.com/smilies/fight.gif

SPG