View Full Version : When someone says "We can be friends" do you feel..
richierich
08-25-2003, 11:21 AM
like you've been rejected or do you take is an an opportunity to actually get to know that person better? As opposed to being that persons' lover?
I've got female friends that are more intimate with me as afriend than they are to their own man. I get to hear everything.. I mean everything. They feel so comfortable with me that sometimes they make that mistake of saying "Girl" when they are talking to me. And the friendships have lasted longer than the men that they have met. Can you be friends just friends with a person that you are attracted to???? My last post of the day I swear!!
Hahaha ... You're touching on something else I often think about. When/If someone says to me let's just be friends, I look at them like: "You think you're worth it or up to it?! It might just be easier to **** and let the relationship die a swift death. With friendship you're in it for the long haul. icon_rofl.gif
Querck
08-25-2003, 11:43 AM
Originally posted by richierich:
Can you be friends just friends with a person that you are attracted to???? A very serious question actually. I have a male friend who has told me that there is no way he can be friends with a woman he's attracted to. I argued with him, but he was very resolute. I definitely feel like it can be hard depending on the situation, but I prefer to stay friends no matter what--even when I know that nothing more will ever happen. Hey, you can't always get what you want.
jurren
08-25-2003, 11:51 AM
Originally posted by dannyboy:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by richierich:
Can you be friends just friends with a person that you are attracted to???? A very serious question actually. I have a male friend who has told me that there is no way he can be friends with a woman he's attracted to. I argued with him, but he was very resolute. I definitely feel like it can be hard depending on the situation, but I prefer to stay friends no matter what--even when I know that nothing more will ever happen. Hey, you can't always get what you want. </font>[/QUOTE]isn't it in that movie 'when harry met sally' that billy cristel [sp?] at one point states "man and woman can never just become friends, because at some point the man will always want to have sex with that woman."
as much as i would like to say that i feel that that's not true, looking at myself i know it's true... i know quite a few very atractive women, and i want to have sex with all of them [not necessarly all at once though]
on the other hand i don't think that that means that i can't be friends with any of them, it has worked out so far.
jurren
Originally posted by richierich:
like you've been rejected or do you take is an an opportunity to actually get to know that person better? As opposed to being that persons' lover?
I've got female friends that are more intimate with me as afriend than they are to their own man. I get to hear everything.. I mean everything. They feel so comfortable with me that sometimes they make that mistake of saying "Girl" when they are talking to me. Geez, I wonder why?? Have a great week......JMJ ;)
TonyB
08-25-2003, 12:53 PM
Yeah Rich,
Men and women can be 'just friends'. Like you, I too have female friends that are very open with me regarding the intimate details of their lives. In turn, I am able to get a female perspective from them when neccessary. I have a couple of female friends that I party with (as my lady isn't quite into the scene, but has no problems with me going out with any of my friends, male or female). I've always had a pretty equal share of male and female friends. However, I was never one of those guys that always hung out with the boys. While most of my male counterparts were doing the male bonding thing, I was the guy hanging out with his female friend(s) and getting first-hand knowledge on their girlfriends or other females relatives that I might have been interested in. It's always worked out fine for me!
GROOVE VICTIM
08-25-2003, 02:06 PM
Gee Willikers, did anyone learn from watching "When Harry Met Sally"?
:rolleyes:
jurren
08-25-2003, 02:13 PM
Originally posted by GROOVE VICTIM:
Gee Willikers, did anyone learn from watching "When Harry Met Sally"? well yeah!
not as much as i learned from austtin powers though :D
richierich
08-25-2003, 02:21 PM
When she says "we can be friends" ask her if she's got a sister graemlins/rofl.gif
Dee-Dee Sheridan
08-25-2003, 02:22 PM
Richard baby, where are you coming up with these topics? Are you looking in magazines & saying "Hey that's a good one I guess I'll post this on dhp?" graemlins/rofl.gif
richierich
08-25-2003, 02:25 PM
Originally posted by Dee-Dee Sheridan:
Richard baby, where are you coming up with these topics? Are you looking in magazines & saying "Hey that's a good one I guess I'll post this on dhp?" graemlins/rofl.gif Naw baby after years of drug abuse my mind is just a wondering mess. I look in the mirror and still try to figure out who's that lookin' at me and why. Okay how's this: what's your favorite song? Define House? Who's the best DJ? Can I spin at your party? Who's the best producer? Why 12 inches instead of 13 graemlins/rofl.gif
[ August 25, 2003, 03:30 PM: Message edited by: richierich ]
graemlins/rofl.gif Keep 'em coming RR.
Dee-Dee Sheridan
08-25-2003, 02:28 PM
Originally posted by richierich:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by Dee-Dee Sheridan:
Richard baby, where are you coming up with these topics? Are you looking in magazines & saying "Hey that's a good one I guess I'll post this on dhp?" graemlins/rofl.gif Naw baby after years of drug abuse my mind is just a wondering mess. I look in the mirror and still try to figure out who's that lookin' at me and why. </font>[/QUOTE]Cassandra said you were getting your topics from Ebony & Jet magazines graemlins/rofl.gif icon_rofl.gif
I still luv you pooh :D
richierich
08-25-2003, 02:32 PM
Originally posted by Dee-Dee Sheridan:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by richierich:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by Dee-Dee Sheridan:
Richard baby, where are you coming up with these topics? Are you looking in magazines & saying "Hey that's a good one I guess I'll post this on dhp?" graemlins/rofl.gif Naw baby after years of drug abuse my mind is just a wondering mess. I look in the mirror and still try to figure out who's that lookin' at me and why. </font>[/QUOTE]Cassandra said you were getting your topics from Ebony & Jet magazines graemlins/rofl.gif icon_rofl.gif
I still luv you pooh :D </font>[/QUOTE]They still make Jet? People still buy that? Oh that's right...the girl in the middle!
DOTSmusic
08-25-2003, 02:32 PM
being friends is just fine with me.
I usually feel rejected when those words are spoken to me. When women say these words they usually mean don't call me, I can't see you, and I'm not calling you.. :(
Dee-Dee Sheridan
08-25-2003, 02:34 PM
My momma buys them all the time :D icon_rofl.gif
Nuthin' worse than being stuck in friendland. That ish is wack! http://deephousepage.com/smilies/smokin.gif
richierich
08-25-2003, 02:55 PM
But dig this they're JUST friends but then they act funny when you bring another female around...But being friends with a girl that is bi-sexual aint all bad either it has it's benefits.
[ August 25, 2003, 04:05 PM: Message edited by: richierich ]
MusicFilter
08-25-2003, 04:21 PM
I get that "girl" thing all the time. It just means that they really relate to what you are talking about and to you as a person.
That "we can be friends" shit is for the birds.
1. It should happen without saying.
2. It's harder being my friend than what I really want from you, so why bother?
3. Women use that as a catch-all for the people they have no plans on sleeping with. That "friends" line is usually proceeded by rejection.
4. What is their definition of friend? If you look closely, you'll find out that the person who wants to be your friend has no real concept of what it means to be a friend.
Hey does anybody remember this line as a kid...
Are you my friend?
Then open your booty and let me in!!! icon_rofl.gif
Originally posted by chgodj3:
I get that "girl" thing all the time. It just means that they really relate to what you are talking about and to you as a person.
That "we can be friends" shit is for the birds.
1. It should happen without saying.
2. It's harder being my friend than what I really want from you, so why bother?
3. Women use that as a catch-all for the people they have no plans on sleeping with. That "friends" line is usually proceeded by rejection.
4. What is their definition of friend? If you look closely, you'll find out that the person who wants to be your friend has no real concept of what it means to be a friend.
Hey does anybody remember this line as a kid...
Are you my friend?
Then open your booty and let me in!!! icon_rofl.gif Wow dude ... you always manage to do it (at least in a number of responses I've read from you) ... That is: have me going wtf's he on about? having a good idea what you're saying and following, being offended by some category you've listed off in your post. By the time I get through all the emotions, I forget the question ... as has just happened ... hence my response ... :sigh:
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