Treat me the way you want to be treated....

[BHouse]

Question??? You meet a beautiful, attractive, intelligent woman/man at a club. Hit if off like you are old friends... Talk on the phone at least 10x a day, email each other, so on and so forth... Then you make plans to see each other again... They meet you at the club with a couple of their friends...You all sit at the same table.... You buy a few drinks and asks him/her to dance and they decline saying they didn't like the song playing... So after awhile of sitting at the table enjoying the conversation you go to the bathroom only to return to find them on the dance floor... You don't say anything because hell you just met this person but the only reason you are at the club this night is to be with them... Would you be upset...?

[ December 08, 2003, 10:45 AM: Message edited by: BHouse ]

[richierich]

No not upset but that's tacky on their part..they should've had the courtesy to give you the first dance. I mean Damn!!!! Or maybe she wanted you to just come meet her on the dancefloor.

[ December 08, 2003, 10:40 AM: Message edited by: richierich ]

[i.be.me]

Originally posted by BHouse:
Question??? You meet a beautiful, attractive, intelligent woman/man at a club. Hit if off like you are old friends... Talk on the phone at least 10x a day, email each other, so on and so forth... Then you make plans to see each other again... Meet this person at the club. Buy a few drinks and asks him/her to dance and they decline saying they didn't like the song playing... So after awhile of sitting at the table enjoying the conversation you go the bathroom only to return to find them on the dance floor... You don't say anything because hell you just met this person but the only reason you are at the club this night is to be with them... Would you be upset...? same song?

if yes, no need getting upset, but definitely need to try to have open honest converstation with the person about what's up...

[Jamie 3:26]

I would not take a person I met at the club,back to a damn club.Mistake No. 3.....Sang it George..

[BHouse]

What if the person did not want to go to dinner or a movie and it was their suggestion in the first place???

[richierich]

Originally posted by Jamie 3:26:
I would not take a person I met at the club,back to a damn club.Mistake No. 3.....Sang it George.. Yeah no shit Jaimie..if ya already met her previously....at a club that would be the last place I'd want to go to..it's not an ideal place for a DATE..JMO
Peace

[richierich]

Originally posted by BHouse:
What if the person did not want to go to dinner or a movie and it was their suggestion in the first place??? I'd guess that she just likes to party and that's what you gotta learn r to deal with. Keep the dates and the parties seperate.

[i.be.me]

Originally posted by richierich:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by Jamie 3:26:
I would not take a person I met at the club,back to a damn club.Mistake No. 3.....Sang it George.. Yeah no shit Jaimie..if ya already met her previously....at a club that would be the last place I'd want to go to..it's not an ideal place for a DATE..JMO
Peace </font>[/QUOTE]were you officially on a date?

don't take it personally BHouse. you said you don't know the person very well yet, so there may be things that explain what happen.

she may have been feeling scared or shy. can't know what happened while you were in the bathroom... maybe her friends told her to stop acting silly, get out there and dance - and she was hoping you would come out and join her...

that's just one scenario

[i.be.me]

Originally posted by richierich:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by Jamie 3:26:
I would not take a person I met at the club,back to a damn club.Mistake No. 3.....Sang it George.. Yeah no shit Jaimie..if ya already met her previously....at a club that would be the last place I'd want to go to..it's not an ideal place for a DATE..JMO
Peace </font>[/QUOTE]were you officially on a date?

don't take it personally BHouse. you said you don't know the person very well yet, so there may be things that explain what happen.

she may have been feeling scared or shy. can't know what happened while you were in the bathroom... maybe her friends told her to stop acting silly, get out there and dance - and she was hoping you would come out and join her...

that's just one scenerio

[mhd]

who doesn't want to go to dinner or a movie? don't sweat it, and don't over-react

[DJ RON C]

I wouldn't sweat it...their actions will tell you how interested they are in you. If they want to stay casual even though you are giving them signs and making moves-then I would keep it casual too. graemlins/cool_shades.gif

[Mack-Williams]

Sounds like she wants a friend for now.

[BHouse]

You know what... Normally I wouldn't even trip over anything like this... I treat people the way I expect to be treated... I know what kind of women frequent the clubs. Not all women are like this, but damn have some respect for the person you are with if not yourself...

[Jamie 3:26]

Originally posted by BHouse:
You know what... Normally I wouldn't even trip over anything like this... I treat people the way I expect to be treated... I know what kind of women frequent the clubs. Not all women are like this, but damn have some respect for the person you are with if not yourself... Sounds like she was getting buck wild on the dancefloor with some other dude...just waited on you to roll out for a sec.

[JoeB]

Originally posted by Jamie 3:26:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by BHouse:
You know what... Normally I wouldn't even trip over anything like this... I treat people the way I expect to be treated... I know what kind of women frequent the clubs. Not all women are like this, but damn have some respect for the person you are with if not yourself... Sounds like she was getting buck wild on the dancefloor with some other dude...just waited on you to roll out for a sec. </font>[/QUOTE]graemlins/rofl.gif graemlins/rofl.gif

[BHouse]

http://images.rottentomatoes.com/images/movie/gallery/10000888/FridayAfterNext-photo_02.jpg

Pimp down... Pimp down...

[Mack-Williams]

Originally posted by BHouse:
http://images.rottentomatoes.com/images/movie/gallery/10000888/FridayAfterNext-photo_02.jpg

Pimp down... Pimp down... You need to re-watch American Pimp.

[BHouse]

Originally posted by Mack-Williams:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by BHouse:
http://images.rottentomatoes.com/images/movie/gallery/10000888/FridayAfterNext-photo_02.jpg

Pimp down... Pimp down... You need to re-watch American Pimp. </font>[/QUOTE]graemlins/lol.gif Slackin' on my Mackin' huh??? It ain't know big thing, just caught me off guard thats all...

[Bold Soul]

6,387,709,006 muthafukas on the planet, most of them women.

With numbers like these, how can you not take this shit with a grain of salt.

[MYOR]

Seems like you two had different agenda.. You were on a date and she was just meeting friend..

[richierich]

Next time just go to the dancefloor..lift her up and carry her out the door to your car and take her away from the club..caveman style.. :D

P.S. Have a damn good alternative plan once you get her into the car..No not sex!!!

[ December 08, 2003, 11:48 AM: Message edited by: richierich ]

[Bold Soul]

Originally posted by MYOR:
Seems like you two had different agenda.. You were on a date and she was just meeting friend.. Yea. This one has the stink of the "guyfriend" all over it. Next time, state your intentions up front.

Q - do women appreciate when a man just "brings it", meaning makes his intentions crystal clear?

[Austin/Dallas]

I just watched this last night
"LUCK BE A LADY"

They call you Lady Luck.
But there is room for doubt
At times you have a very unladylike way of running out
You're this a date with me
The pickings have been lush
And yet before this evening is over you might give me the brush
You might forget your manners
You might refuse to stay and
So the best that I can to is pray.
Luck be a lady tonight
Luck be a lady tonight
Luck if you've ever been a lady to begin with
Luck be a lady tonight.
Luck let a gentleman see
How nice a dame you can be
I've seen the way you've treated other guys you've been with
Luck be a lady with me.
A lady doesn't leave her escort It isn't fair, it isn't nice
A lady doesn't wander all over the room
And blow on some other guy's dice.
So let's keep the party polite
Never get out of my sight
Stick with me baby,
I'm the fellow you came in with
Luck be a lady
Luck be a lady
Luck be a lady tonight.
Luck be a lady tonight.
Luck be a lady tonight.
Luck, if you've ever been a lady to begin with
Luck be a lady tonight.
Luck let a gentleman see
Luck let a gentleman see
How nice a dame you can be How nice a dame you can be
I know the way you've treated other guys you've been with
Luck me a lady, a lady, be a lady with me.
Luck be a lady with me
A Lady wouldn't flirt with strangers
She'd have a heart, she'd have a soul
A lady wouldn't make little snake eyes at me
When I've got my life on this roll.
Roll 'em, roll 'em, roll 'em, snake eyes
Roll 'em, roll 'em, roll 'em!
So let's keep the party polite
Let's keep the party polite
Never get out of my sight
Never get out of my sight.
Stick here, baby, stick here, baby.
Stick with me, baby, I'm the fellow you came in with
Luck be a lady
Luck be a lady
Luck be a lady tonight.
Coming out, coming out, coming out
Right!

[MYOR]

Originally posted by Danny Gardner:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by MYOR:
Seems like you two had different agenda.. You were on a date and she was just meeting friend.. Yea. This one has the stink of the "guyfriend" all over it. Next time, state your intentions up front.

Q - do women appreciate when a man just "brings it", meaning makes his intentions crystal clear? </font>[/QUOTE]I do. I don't like leading people on..

[Pete Nice]

hey bhouse,
don't even sweat it. it is what it is. it most likely means nothing. you're just seen as a friend. go have a graemlins/all_coholic.gif and get over it.

[i.be.me]

Originally posted by BHouse:
You know what... Normally I wouldn't even trip over anything like this... I treat people the way I expect to be treated... I know what kind of women frequent the clubs. Not all women are like this, but damn have some respect for the person you are with if not yourself... good rule, but an even better rule is to treat people the way THEY want to be treated (not the way you want to be treated) because it may be very different. takes a bit more time, attention, and intention to do this...

i'm not saying you did anything wrong - sorry for the bruise - better luck next time

i'm just curious, what kind of women frequent clubs? graemlins/conf44.gif

[mhd]

Originally posted by i.be.me:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by BHouse:
You know what... Normally I wouldn't even trip over anything like this... I treat people the way I expect to be treated... I know what kind of women frequent the clubs. Not all women are like this, but damn have some respect for the person you are with if not yourself... good rule, but an even better rule is to treat people the way THEY want to be treated (not the way you want to be treated) because it may be very different. takes a bit more time, attention, and intention to do this...

i'm not saying you did anything wrong - sorry for the bruise - better luck next time

i'm just curious, what kind of women frequent clubs? graemlins/conf44.gif </font>[/QUOTE]humans, usually

[BHouse]

Women that are not looking for a relationship, but just there to have a good time...

[ngeso]

taking someone out on a date to a club, and expecting him or her to only focus on you for the night should not be ALL of your 'game'. get into him/her enjoying a great night out - he/she will see you enjoying yourself in your own right, and you will potentially grow in his/her eyes. at the point where you overeact because you're excited and assuming things - and things don't turn out the way your Plan A was laid out, which was your only plan - you will become tense, and he/she will sense your tension.

look at it from a 'gain' point of view. take a breather, enjoy some time to study him/her from the side, meet and interact with some other people who are there yourself, get on the floor and have a f*cking great time! truss me, he/she seeing you having a great time and being natural will have you grow in his/her eyes.

relax. be gracious. be generous. be humourous. be intelligent. be eloquent. be funny. be a genuinely fun person. plain BE. because you and i and him/her and everybody else that night know perfectly what it is all about ON THE NIGHT! you pressure, you lose,...

...you stay YOU, and you might just get a step further...

guidance, my friend. ngeso.

[BHouse]

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[richierich]

Originally posted by ngeso:
taking someone out on a date to a club, and expecting him or her to only focus on you for the night should not be ALL of your 'game'. get into him/her enjoying a great night out - he/she will see you enjoying yourself in your own right, and you will potentially grow in his/her eyes. at the point where you overeact because you're excited and assuming things - and things don't turn out the way your Plan A was laid out, which was your only plan - you will become tense, and he/she will sense your tension.

look at it from a 'gain' point of view. take a breather, enjoy some time to study him/her from the side, meet and interact with some other people who are there yourself, get on the floor and have a f*cking great time! truss me, he/she seeing you having a great time and being natural will have you grow in his/her eyes.

relax. be gracious. be generous. be humourous. be intelligent. be eloquent. be funny. be a genuinely fun person. plain BE. because you and i and him/her and everybody else that night know perfectly what it is all about ON THE NIGHT! you pressure, you lose,...

...you stay YOU, and you might just get a step further...

guidance, my friend. ngeso. You're my new hero..

[DISKOQUEEN99]

Originally posted by BHouse:
You buy a few drinks and asks him/her to dance and they decline saying they didn't like the song playing... So after awhile of sitting at the table enjoying the conversation you go to the bathroom only to return to find them on the dance floor... Two questions.

1&gt; Had the song changed? If yes, maybe it was just as she said; she didn't like the song. New song on, she's dancing.

2&gt; How long were you in the bathroom? Perhaps you were in there long enough for the song to have changed. Maybe you BTaking too long. ;)

Or maybe it's just that you were a designated drink buyer for the night. Did you feel used at all? Maybe you B2Generous.

[ December 08, 2003, 08:56 PM: Message edited by: DISKOQUEEN99 ]

[Erika R.]

Originally posted by Jamie 3:26:
I would not take a person I met at the club,back to a damn club. Mistake No. 3.....Sang it George.. http://80music.about.com/library/postcards/images/culturecard.jpg