Is it really true ladies?

[Soul abyss]

What type of guys are woman feeling right now?
Is it the ever so popular thug? It seems like every woman that I have met lately says the they like nice guys but there with the exact opposite.
I want to know what type guys are the real ladies feeling right now. I mean the House ladies because it seems that there more mature then the rest. graemlins/conf44.gif

[DISKOQUEEN99]

A girl who wants a thug either just likes it rough or is caught up in the "bling bling" and wants to go shopping. I can't be with you if you look like you're going to get shot at. Me, I go for the intellects. You don't have to be an Einstein, but you can't be the type that watches grass grow. Must not have anger management issues either. If he's a DJ, kool. Gainfully employed.

[JMJ]

Originally posted by DISKOQUEEN99:
A girl who wants a thug either just likes it rough or is caught up in the "bling bling" and wants to go shopping. I can't be with you if you look like you're going to get shot at. Me, I go for the intellects. You don't have to be an Einstein, but you can't be the type that watches grass grow. Must not have anger management issues either. If he's a DJ, kool. Gainfully employed. Hello.......JMJ smile.gif

[MYOR]

If you can't speak right(and most thugs can't) then you are not boyfriend material..

What up mama... how is u doing? graemlins/puke.gif
Just the thought of that makes me cringe

[Soul abyss]

Yeah but how do you know one when you see one and do you approach him?

[Soul abyss]

So then I guess my real question is what do woman want, honestly.

[imported_Chr_stopher]

I guess that would count on the woman u are asking..

c-

[JMJ]

Originally posted by Christopher L. Aquilo:
I guess that would count on the woman u are asking..

c- count = depend. Your welcome in advance.....JMJ

[Leslie]

Originally posted by Soul abyss:
So then I guess my real question is what do woman want, honestly. Women want different things at diffent times, there is no one specific thing.

[Mack-Williams]

Every girl wants different things and they like different things.

[MYOR]

Originally posted by Leslie:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by Soul abyss:
So then I guess my real question is what do woman want, honestly. Women want different things at diffent times, there is no one specific thing. </font>[/QUOTE]Well speaking for myself, I NEVER have or think will EVER want a thug...

[Discogoddess]

Originally posted by Soul abyss:
So then I guess my real question is what do woman want, honestly. The answer to that question is as varied as women themselves, love! If I can attempt to answer your question in the most general sense, though, I think most women with some kind of sense want to feel appreciated, special and loved. We want continuous reminders that our beloved loves and wants us. Women tend to want someone to partner with, not anyone to lord over them, or someone who is a doormat whom we can lord over.

We notice the smallest of gestures (and go crazy for little thoughtful things) and the most casual of comments (this can be a good and bad thing).
Women also are talkers, sharers and nurturers, so we want to express ourselves, and want someone who will do the same in turn.

I think a lot (not all) of men sometimes get it twisted and assume that women are some monolith who all want same things and think, feel and act the same ways. So, if some women want men to spend money on them all the time, if if some women are attracted to "bad boys," if if some women do mean and spiteful things, then we all must be that way. That's a shame.

[Soul abyss]

So is that what woman mean when they say " Men just don't understand" ?
So is it when guys need different things at different times we are a*@holes?

[Pete Nice]

every woman needs a little thug love graemlins/spanka.gif

think of it this way. a man wants a suzy homemaker in the kitchen and a debbie does dallas in the bed.

a woman wants a tommy thug to lay it down right, who will hold her at night.

i know this is an over generalaztion, but i've seen too many times.

[dennis f]

thugs appeal to the same principle we have except it's been reversed for them!! Remember fellas you want a lady in public but a whore in the bedroom...well for them it's they want a thug in public but they want a smooth lover in the bedroom!!haha! Just playin ladies...here's a short list of some of things they want...from a trusted source...ladies please feel free to add or adjust

1. someone who's appreciative
2. someone who's trustworthy
3. someone who's a good listener
4. someone who doesn't try fix her problems when listening
5. someone who's gentlemanly
6. someone who dresses decently(ratty tshirts..nope)
7. someone who's got nice hands(a manicure every once in a while does wonders...)
8. someone who's not jealous
9. someone who doesn't cater to her every need at every waking moment(she doesn't want a groveler)
10. SOMEONE NORMAL (I don't know too many who've got 1 through 9!!!)

from the source yall....wifey

[JoeB]

Originally posted by JMJ:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by Christopher L. Aquilo:
I guess that would count on the woman u are asking..

c- count = depend. Your welcome in advance.....JMJ </font>[/QUOTE]"you're"

[upliftdisco365]

Originally posted by MYOR:
If you can't speak right(and most thugs can't) then you are not boyfriend material..

What up mama... how is u doing? graemlins/puke.gif
Just the thought of that makes me cringe YES. I LIK WOMENS THAT TAKL GOOD TWO. I FIND THAT A LAT OF WOMENS ARE INTIMATED BY MY GUD TALKKIN. SO WARE YOU LIVE AT?

[mhd]

Originally posted by MYOR:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by Leslie:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by Soul abyss:
So then I guess my real question is what do woman want, honestly. Women want different things at diffent times, there is no one specific thing. </font>[/QUOTE]Well speaking for myself, I NEVER have or think will EVER want a thug... </font>[/QUOTE]maybe you haven't met the right one

[richierich]

She'll let you know when the time comes.

[MYOR]

Originally posted by upliftdisco365:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by MYOR:
If you can't speak right(and most thugs can't) then you are not boyfriend material..

What up mama... how is u doing? graemlins/puke.gif
Just the thought of that makes me cringe YES. I LIK WOMENS THAT TAKL GOOD TWO. I FIND THAT A LAT OF WOMENS ARE INTIMATED BY MY GUD TALKKIN. SO WARE YOU LIVE AT? </font>[/QUOTE]icon_rofl.gif graemlins/spanka.gif graemlins/spanka.gif

[NubianSista]

Originally posted by dennis f:
thugs appeal to the same principle we have except it's been reversed for them!! Remember fellas you want a lady in public but a whore in the bedroom...well for them it's they want a thug in public but they want a smooth lover in the bedroom!!haha! Just playin ladies...here's a short list of some of things they want...from a trusted source...ladies please feel free to add or adjust

1. someone who's appreciative
2. someone who's trustworthy
3. someone who's a good listener
4. someone who doesn't try fix her problems when listening
5. someone who's gentlemanly
6. someone who dresses decently(ratty tshirts..nope)
7. someone who's got nice hands(a manicure every once in a while does wonders...)
8. someone who's not jealous
9. someone who doesn't cater to her every need at every waking moment(she doesn't want a groveler)
10. SOMEONE NORMAL (I don't know too many who've got 1 through 9!!!)

from the source yall....wifey Yes! My Guy fits that description :D

[Koffy Brown]

I think I'm very specific about what I want in a mate and that could be although I date, I try to only date those with the potential of being more than just a boyfriend...so some of my specifics are...in no particular order:

A man that loves himself…trust me this is sooo obvious
A man that is involved in his community
A fun person
Self-sufficient
Intelligent
Culturally aware
Aware of world happenings
A man that wants to travel the world
A man that does not want more kids
A man with style
A man that is open minded about life and trying new things
A man that is caring
A man that is appreciative
A man that loves sex just as much as I do
A man with a sense of humor
A man who is motivated and ambitious
Excellent hygiene
Prefer college education but it is not a necessity

[Martin Red]

stong but/and/ gentle

"but/and"

words that may be placed to confuse the male ?

or is that both a male and female thing in the modern world ?

a lot of people want the world on a stick nowadays with chocolate spinkles

[ August 22, 2003, 01:48 PM: Message edited by: Martin Red ]

[MYOR]

Originally posted by mhd:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by MYOR:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by Leslie:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by Soul abyss:
So then I guess my real question is what do woman want, honestly. Women want different things at diffent times, there is no one specific thing. </font>[/QUOTE]Well speaking for myself, I NEVER have or think will EVER want a thug... </font>[/QUOTE]maybe you haven't met the right one </font>[/QUOTE]http://deephousepage.com/smilies/scratchchin.gif If I have to be careful about how you're going to speak or act in public.. Then, I don't think so...

[mhd]

Originally posted by MYOR:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by mhd:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by MYOR:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by Leslie:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by Soul abyss:
So then I guess my real question is what do woman want, honestly. Women want different things at diffent times, there is no one specific thing. </font>[/QUOTE]Well speaking for myself, I NEVER have or think will EVER want a thug... </font>[/QUOTE]maybe you haven't met the right one </font>[/QUOTE]http://deephousepage.com/smilies/scratchchin.gif If I have to be careful about how you're going to speak or act in public.. Then, I don't think so... </font>[/QUOTE]ever heard of code-switching?

[Leslie]

Originally posted by MYOR:
[maybe you haven't met the right one [/qb]http://deephousepage.com/smilies/scratchchin.gif If I have to be careful about how you're going to speak or act in public.. Then, I don't think so... [/QB][/QUOTE]


Thugs come in many packages....

[Leslie]

Originally posted by mhd:
]ever heard of code-switching? [/QB][/QUOTE]


graemlins/rofl.gif Haha - the corporate thug....don't know what hitcha... graemlins/rofl.gif

[DISKOQUEEN99]

I'm sitting here just laughing to myself thinking about Bobby Brown singing with Ja Rule (at least somebody gave him a gig)-some song about thug lovin'-I don't consider Bobby a thug, but he must be giving Whitney some thug loving and she apparently loves it. And then there's Nivea engaged to L'il Wayne-some people like it like that. Not to say thugs don't have a loving side, but with that comes a ruthless side. My opinion, being with a thug=Russian Roulette.

[richierich]

Define Thug??

[mhd]

Originally posted by Leslie:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by mhd:
]ever heard of code-switching? </font>[/QUOTE]graemlins/rofl.gif Haha - the corporate thug....don't know what hitcha... graemlins/rofl.gif [/QB][/QUOTE]

you know what i'm saying, trying to cover all bases

[MYOR]

Originally posted by richierich:
Define Thug?? Yes please because I only have one view of what a thug is..... But it seems we have Thugs version a, b, c, d etc.... graemlins/conf44.gif

[MYOR]

Originally posted by mhd:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by Leslie:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by mhd:
]ever heard of code-switching? </font>[/QUOTE]graemlins/rofl.gif Haha - the corporate thug....don't know what hitcha... graemlins/rofl.gif </font>[/QUOTE]you know what i'm saying, trying to cover all bases [/QB][/QUOTE]

If you can switch it up then to me you are not a thug...

[mhd]

Originally posted by MYOR:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by mhd:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by Leslie:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by mhd:
]ever heard of code-switching? </font>[/QUOTE]graemlins/rofl.gif Haha - the corporate thug....don't know what hitcha... graemlins/rofl.gif </font>[/QUOTE]you know what i'm saying, trying to cover all bases </font>[/QUOTE]If you can switch it up then to me you are not a thug... [/QB][/QUOTE]

to you...
its all good, there are new experiences for all of us, hopefully

[MYOR]

Originally posted by mhd:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by MYOR:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by mhd:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by Leslie:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by mhd:
]ever heard of code-switching? </font>[/QUOTE]graemlins/rofl.gif Haha - the corporate thug....don't know what hitcha... graemlins/rofl.gif </font>[/QUOTE]you know what i'm saying, trying to cover all bases </font>[/QUOTE]If you can switch it up then to me you are not a thug... </font>[/QUOTE]to you...
its all good, there are new experiences for all of us, hopefully [/QB][/QUOTE]

Again if you can't speak correctly to me(not slang or thuggish all the time) it won't work.. Once in a while fukking around is ok.. All the time... NO

I would not date someone with the hopes of changing him... AIGHT :D

[ August 22, 2003, 02:07 PM: Message edited by: MYOR ]

[mhd]

let me put it like this, command of language is a skill like any other, the depth and content of the ideas expressed is not dependent on anything but the depth and content of the individual

[richierich]

Originally posted by mhd:
let me put it like this, command of language is a skill like any other, the depth and content of the ideas expressed is not dependent on anything but the depth and content of the individual That's deep.

[And]

Right now I'll settle for a sandwich.

[Koffy Brown]

Originally posted by 6 23:
Right now I'll settle for a sandwich. I am so not settling for anything these days...

[And]

Originally posted by AshakiMzuri:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by 6 23:
Right now I'll settle for a sandwich. I am so not settling for anything these days... </font>[/QUOTE]Once I have options, I'll be sure to rise to this admirable status. icon_rofl.gif

[JMJ]

Originally posted by AshakiMzuri:
I think I'm very specific about what I want in a mate and that could be although I date, I try to only date those with the potential of being more than just a boyfriend...so some of my specifics are...in no particular order:

A man that loves himself…trust me this is sooo obvious
A man that is involved in his community
A fun person
Self-sufficient
Intelligent
Culturally aware
Aware of world happenings
A man that wants to travel the world
A man that does not want more kids
A man with style
A man that is open minded about life and trying new things
A man that is caring
A man that is appreciative
A man that loves sex just as much as I do
A man with a sense of humor
A man who is motivated and ambitious
Excellent hygiene
Prefer college education but it is not a necessity Hello......JMJ graemlins/remybussi.gif

[JMJ]

Originally posted by JoeB:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by JMJ:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by Christopher L. Aquilo:
I guess that would count on the woman u are asking..

c- count = depend. Your welcome in advance.....JMJ </font>[/QUOTE]"you're" </font>[/QUOTE]Damn. Twice today!!.....JMJ :(

[MYOR]

Originally posted by JMJ:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by AshakiMzuri:
I think I'm very specific about what I want in a mate and that could be although I date, I try to only date those with the potential of being more than just a boyfriend...so some of my specifics are...in no particular order:

A man that loves himself…trust me this is sooo obvious
A man that is involved in his community
A fun person
Self-sufficient
Intelligent
Culturally aware
Aware of world happenings
A man that wants to travel the world
A man that does not want more kids
A man with style
A man that is open minded about life and trying new things
A man that is caring
A man that is appreciative
A man that loves sex just as much as I do
A man with a sense of humor
A man who is motivated and ambitious
Excellent hygiene
Prefer college education but it is not a necessity Hello......JMJ graemlins/remybussi.gif </font>[/QUOTE]I'm too sexy for my self, too sexy for my self.. icon_rofl.gif

[JMJ]

Originally posted by MYOR:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by JMJ:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by AshakiMzuri:
I think I'm very specific about what I want in a mate and that could be although I date, I try to only date those with the potential of being more than just a boyfriend...so some of my specifics are...in no particular order:

A man that loves himself…trust me this is sooo obvious
A man that is involved in his community
A fun person
Self-sufficient
Intelligent
Culturally aware
Aware of world happenings
A man that wants to travel the world
A man that does not want more kids
A man with style
A man that is open minded about life and trying new things
A man that is caring
A man that is appreciative
A man that loves sex just as much as I do
A man with a sense of humor
A man who is motivated and ambitious
Excellent hygiene
Prefer college education but it is not a necessity Hello......JMJ graemlins/remybussi.gif </font>[/QUOTE]I'm too sexy for my self, too sexy for my self.. icon_rofl.gif </font>[/QUOTE]It's not easy being me (right)......JMJ icon_rofl.gif

[Koffy Brown]

Originally posted by 6 23:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by AshakiMzuri:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by 6 23:
Right now I'll settle for a sandwich. I am so not settling for anything these days... </font>[/QUOTE]Once I have options, I'll be sure to rise to this admirable status. icon_rofl.gif </font>[/QUOTE]LOL...HURRY PLEASE graemlins/rofl.gif

[Bobby L]

Originally posted by mhd:
let me put it like this, command of language is a skill like any other, the depth and content of the ideas expressed is not dependent on anything but the depth and content of the individual this might be the single best post of the week... dead on point mhd. listen to what the person is saying/expressing, not necessarily how they are saying it. I'll admit though, command of the language is a MAJOR plus.

Bobby

[And]

Originally posted by AshakiMzuri:
LOL...HURRY PLEASE graemlins/rofl.gif Drat! ... Is it showing that much?

http://life.csu.edu.au/~lbenton/images/cartoon/funnyface.gif

-

"Controool ... Now I'm all grown up, controoool!"

graemlins/rofl.gif

[Huey P. Freeman]

Originally posted by JMJ:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by Christopher L. Aquilo:
I guess that would count on the woman u are asking..

c- count = depend. Your welcome in advance.....JMJ </font>[/QUOTE]You are= you're. You're welcome in advance.....Eargasm graemlins/rofl.gif

[ August 22, 2003, 04:14 PM: Message edited by: Eargasm ]

[JMJ]

Originally posted by Eargasm:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by JMJ:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by Christopher L. Aquilo:
I guess that would count on the woman u are asking..

c- count = depend. Your welcome in advance.....JMJ </font>[/QUOTE]You are= you're. You're welcome in advance.....Eargasm graemlins/rofl.gif </font>[/QUOTE]As in YOU'RE LATE. Joe B corrected me an hour ago......JMJ graemlins/tongueout.gif

[Ronnie Ron]

Originally posted by DISKOQUEEN99:
A girl who wants a thug either just likes it rough or is caught up in the "bling bling" and wants to go shopping. I can't be with you if you look like you're going to get shot at. Me, I go for the intellects. You don't have to be an Einstein, but you can't be the type that watches grass grow. Must not have anger management issues either. If he's a DJ, kool. Gainfully employed. graemlins/1luvu.gif Now thats a woman!!!

R-R

[MsAlayneous]

I want nothing to do with thug mentality.. (from what Ive seen in my experience it is stuck in negativity) and I am looking for positivity in a persons basic philosophy.. despite the badtimes you may have had to go through or are still going through. I was able to rise above and I need my man to also. I want a man who's trying to make his way through this world, with this world (maybe even trying to make it a better world)..not acting out (ala adolescence mentality) -all thugged out and trying to own (buy)his woman to prove he is a man. grow up.
I want aman with substance and maturity. He must be as old and as young as I am. mature but still having fun. able to take care of himself and not forget the kindness in his heart as well. someone who has come through the other side of hardtimes and chose a path of integrity to walk through this life.
oh yeah, and no sex hangups..he has to truly enjoy being a man and loving a woman. :D know how to turn up the heat when we are alone and be sexy as hell. make me feel like all the woman I am. graemlins/1luvu.gif
what? am i asking too much? graemlins/cool_shades.gif

[(Im)poster]

I think it took a lot of years with a well-read, intelligent thug to make me appreciate nice men. I have a nice man now and I am happy with him.

[Wild i]

There are many, many specifics of taste, but overall, I think women have consistently wanted the same thing. A man who will take care of her, but not necessarily financially. Women want a man who makes them feel safe. I think that's at least some of the attraction to thugs. It's also part of the reason for the money thing. Women need to feel safe from poverty as well. Whether this is nature or nurture is completely debatable.