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MusicFilter

07-28-2003, 11:36 AM

Just because there were some fine women there doesn't mean they were going to dance or dance with the "trainspotters".

Some of the parties I attend I swear people come there to show off their shit! I hate to see a woman sit or stand there all night lookin' good, rejectin' brothas all night.

What you waitin' on honey? VIPs? There are NBA players coming to this party! graemlins/spanka.gif

Then when they dance with you they are only good for about 3 songs unless the DJ is inconsistent.

You know there is no such word in the dictionary as trainspotting. Can someone give me the true meaning and where it came from.

Oh one of my favorite movies of all time is

TRAINSPOTTING

VEESTER

07-28-2003, 11:37 AM

Hells naw! I just looked at the topic and I thought, "I bet that's Rich" and soon as I looked who posted it and what do ya know, Richie Rich! What up pimp!?

Bill Blake

07-28-2003, 11:47 AM

Originally posted by chgodj3:
Just because there were some fine women there doesn't mean they were going to dance or dance with the "trainspotters".

Some of the parties I attend I swear people come there to show off their shit! I hate to see a woman sit or stand there all night lookin' good, rejectin' brothas all night.

What you waitin' on honey? VIPs? There are NBA players coming to this party! graemlins/spanka.gif

Then when they dance with you they are only good for about 3 songs unless the DJ is inconsistent.

You know there is no such word in the dictionary as trainspotting. Can someone give me the true meaning and where it came from.

Oh one of my favorite movies of all time is

TRAINSPOTTING Yea my girlfriend and her friends decide to go out without the boys for a night of dancing and when you and your monkey friends decide they need to be dancing with yall and they are "rejectin' brothas all night"...you and your 'boys' are gonna hate them?

Give me a ****ing break.

richierich

07-28-2003, 11:47 AM

Originally posted by Jamie Lennox:
What makes you think the women werent quite happy with the men talking amongst themselves and leaving them alone? Because on more than one occassion they have told me so. They will be like "Richard what the **** is up with the men up in here"? At more than a couple of parties at that. I don't know about anywhere else but believe it or not Some women come to get with men, dance with men , talk to men..what have you. And these lames wanna just talk shit when there aint no women and when you get women up in the joint you've got cats standing around doing NOTHING... what are y'all scared or what? I see why a lot of girls go to HIP-HOP and R&B clubs .. the men give them ATTENTION.

[ July 28, 2003, 12:50 PM: Message edited by: richierich ]

Bill Blake

07-28-2003, 11:50 AM

Originally posted by richierich:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by Jamie Lennox:
What makes you think the women werent quite happy with the men talking amongst themselves and leaving them alone? Because on more than one occassion they have told me so. They will be like "Richard what the **** is up with the men up in here"? At more than a couple of parties at that. I don't know about antwhere else but believe it or not Some women come to get with men, dance with men , talk to men..what have you. And these lames wanna just talk shit when there aint no women and when you get women up in the joint you've got goofies standing around doind NOTHING... what are y'all scared or what? I see why a lot of girls go to HIP-HOP and R&B clubs .. the men give them ATTENTION. [/QUOTE]And SOME women come to dance and not be botherd.

Would you know the difference?

richierich

07-28-2003, 11:54 AM

Originally posted by Jamie Lennox:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by richierich:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by Jamie Lennox:
What makes you think the women werent quite happy with the men talking amongst themselves and leaving them alone? Because on more than one occassion they have told me so. They will be like "Richard what the **** is up with the men up in here"? At more than a couple of parties at that. I don't know about antwhere else but believe it or not Some women come to get with men, dance with men , talk to men..what have you. And these lames wanna just talk shit when there aint no women and when you get women up in the joint you've got goofies standing around doind NOTHING... what are y'all scared or what? I see why a lot of girls go to HIP-HOP and R&B clubs .. the men give them ATTENTION. [/QUOTE]And SOME women come to dance and not be botherd.

Would you know the difference? [/QUOTE]I guess noone would know if the guys didn't get up off their asses and socialize with women...What..you got something AGAINST men talking, socializing ,dancing with WOMEN. You damn real I know the difference...please.ya might as well be at a gay bar. Some women want guys to ask them to dance and it aint happening.. ya know like normal shit.

[ July 28, 2003, 12:57 PM: Message edited by: richierich ]

Bill Blake

07-28-2003, 12:00 PM

Really?

Maybe you should look at this post by 6: 23 again.

Originally posted by 6 23:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by Jamie Lennox:
What makes you think the women werent quite happy with the men talking amongst themselves and leaving them alone? :applause: [/QUOTE]

AgentDoubleA

07-28-2003, 12:13 PM

One cat at T.S. that I will give props to was the European cat which was dancing by himself (up in front of the stage). Later in the evening he was accompanied by females that he DID NOT ask to dance.

richierich

07-28-2003, 12:13 PM

Originally posted by Jamie Lennox:
Really?

Maybe you should look at this post by 6: 23 again.

<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by 6 23:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by Jamie Lennox:
What makes you think the women werent quite happy with the men talking amongst themselves and leaving them alone? :applause: [/QUOTE][/QUOTE]One woman on the DHP and what I am talking about are night and day. Most of the HOUSE community are not on DHP so keep that one. I'm talking about what I have experienced. I don't know maybe were talking about different kinds of parties. I'm talking about parties were women WANT to dance with the guys. I'm talking about parties were women WANT to talk to the guys. What kinda parties are YOU talking about. Ya wouldnt know if they did or didn't if alls ya gonna do is stand in the corner either Talking about how fine they are or about some damn records..please peeps too advanced to socialaize with the OPPOSITE SEX AT A PARTY OR WHAT..... maybe this is some new shit.

[ July 28, 2003, 02:05 PM: Message edited by: richierich ]

Leslie

07-28-2003, 12:16 PM

Richie you ain't never told a lie a day in your life brotha!

Bill Blake

07-28-2003, 12:19 PM

Originally posted by richierich:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by Jamie Lennox:
Really?

Maybe you should look at this post by 6: 23 again.

<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by 6 23:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by Jamie Lennox:
What makes you think the women werent quite happy with the men talking amongst themselves and leaving them alone? :applause: [/QUOTE][/QUOTE]One woman on the DHP and what I am talking about are night and day. Most of the HOUSE community are not on DHP so keep that one. I'm talking about what I have experienced. I don't know maybe were talking about different kinds of parties. I'm talking about parties were women WANT to dance with the guys. I'm talking about parties were women WANT to talk to the guys. What kinda parties are YOU talking about. [/QUOTE]No there may be A GUY at a party that a woman wants to 'talk to' and that is no garuntee that the guy is you or the barage others that do approach her and if THAT guy doesnt what the **** business is it of yours?

And you have no statistical proof that most women that go to parties are 'dhp or not' (what ever that means) or really want 'guys' (in general approach them).

And this isnt about any parties its about two things for me.

1. That a great deal of the sex and women posts that you do post show an EXTREME lack of understanding of the opposite sex.

2. That they imply a degree of sexism and certanly a lack of respect.

richierich

07-28-2003, 12:25 PM

Jaimie I aint about to get into a pissing contest with you about what I SEE on the Chicago House scene. AS for the proof... the proof is me hearing it and seeing it. This is nothing new I'm not talking about someone being obnoxiuos and unruley and sexism ... DUDE cut it!!!!Bottom Line GUYS GET UP OFF OF YOUR ASSES AND KICK IT WITH THE LADIES ..YOU CAN SEE YOUR HOMIES LATER. Those that don't wanna talk to them.. don't say shit when they leave and don't come back..

[ July 28, 2003, 01:36 PM: Message edited by: richierich ]

Koffy Brown

07-28-2003, 12:25 PM

I agree with RichieRich..there is nothing wrong with asking a woman to dance, if she wants to be bothered she'll dance if she doesn't she won't...but you will never know if you don't ask...there is absolutely nothing wrong with a little socializing...because a man speaks to me or we have small conversation does not mean that he wants to take me home with him...we may or may not have something in common beyond the music...but it takes communication in order to find out...some women still prefer that men make the first move...I don't know, I just like to talk so a nice gentleman approaching me and some socializing does not bother me at all...

Peace

Koffy Brown

07-28-2003, 12:27 PM

Originally posted by Leslie:
Richie you ain't never told a lie a day in your life brotha! -------><------ :D

richierich

07-28-2003, 12:28 PM

Leslie, Ashaki.. what is Really going on with SOME of these brothers? Is it because they feel that they are too cool to approach a woman or what? I didn't say stick your hand up her dress and grab her..or tell her what you wanna do to her (Some girls might be open to that I don't know) we're talking about basic socializing between the sexes. Man you'd think guys don't like girls anymore.

[ July 28, 2003, 01:34 PM: Message edited by: richierich ]

Leslie

07-28-2003, 12:28 PM

Originally posted by AshakiMzuri:
I agree with RichieRich..there is nothing wrong with asking a woman to dance, if she wants to be bothered she'll dance if she doesn't she won't...but you will never know if you don't ask...there is absolutely nothing wrong with a little socializing...because a man speaks to me or we have small conversation does not mean that he wants to take me home with him...we may or may not have something in common beyond the music...but it takes communication in order to find out...some women still prefer that men make the first move...I don't know, I just like to talk so a nice gentleman approaching me and some socializing does not bother me at all...

Peace Why is this so basic and people don't get it? graemlins/conf44.gif

richierich

07-28-2003, 12:39 PM

And Jaimie there are quite a few women that I know that think that I am very respectful(a couple on this board in fact). What YOU think about MY UNDERSTANDING of women means.........
You just worry about yours.

[ July 28, 2003, 01:42 PM: Message edited by: richierich ]

Mack-Williams

07-28-2003, 12:42 PM

Well from what I have noticed alot of Guys that hang out at House events in Chi are married. So they probably don't want to get in trouble. You know a little conversating can lead to a whole lot more. Sometimes I will conversate and dance with a women, sometimes I will just chill by myself. It depends on my mood. Sometimes I just want to hear the music.

Leslie

07-28-2003, 12:43 PM

Originally posted by richierich:
Leslie, Ashaki.. what is Really going on with SOME of these brothers? Is it because they feel that they are too cool to approach a woman or what? I didn't say stick your hand up her dress and grab her..or tell her what you wanna do to her (Some girls might be open to that I don't know) we're talking about basic socializing between the sexes. Man you'd think guys don't like girls anymore. Richie its due to a few things in MY OPINION (this ain't gospel just houw I see it). You have a lot of men who for one reason or another were NEVER taught the proper way to approach a woman. Maybe this is due to lack of proper male role models in their lives, could be any reason. You have a proliferation of females who have no idea what it is to be approached respectfuly by a man (same reasoning as above, and any other reason). You have men that are so wussy that they got rejected ONCE never got over it and now refuse to ask another woman to dance as a form of eternal punishment to the first woman who turned them down - grow up and get over it and yourself.

drilla

07-28-2003, 12:51 PM

Originally posted by Leslie:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by richierich:
Leslie, Ashaki.. what is Really going on with SOME of these brothers? Is it because they feel that they are too cool to approach a woman or what? I didn't say stick your hand up her dress and grab her..or tell her what you wanna do to her (Some girls might be open to that I don't know) we're talking about basic socializing between the sexes. Man you'd think guys don't like girls anymore. Richie its due to a few things in MY OPINION (this ain't gospel just houw I see it). You have a lot of men who for one reason or another were NEVER taught the proper way to approach a woman. Maybe this is due to lack of proper male role models in their lives, could be any reason. You have a proliferation of females who have no idea what it is to be approached respectfuly by a man (same reasoning as above, and any other reason). You have men that are so wussy that they got rejected ONCE never got over it and now refuse to ask another woman to dance as a form of eternal punishment to the first woman who turned them down - grow up and get over it and yourself. [/QUOTE]you should give lessons and classes.

of course, i need not attend.

but, you pretty much said it all....

Keith Blackstone

07-28-2003, 12:55 PM

Leslie, you crack me up... graemlins/rofl.gif

BTW, how was the CD?!?!

Leslie

07-28-2003, 01:14 PM

Originally posted by Keith Blackstone:
Leslie, you crack me up... graemlins/rofl.gif

BTW, how was the CD?!?! Keith my cd player died on me and I have not had a chance to replace it. So I have not heard it yet. Again, thanks for hooking me up.

Keith Blackstone

07-28-2003, 01:18 PM

Originally posted by Leslie:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by Keith Blackstone:
Leslie, you crack me up... graemlins/rofl.gif

BTW, how was the CD?!?! Keith my cd player died on me and I have not had a chance to replace it. So I have not heard it yet. Again, thanks for hooking me up. [/QUOTE]You've got 20,000 wanna-be boyfriends on this board, I'm sure they'd be happy to hook you up with new gear ;)

Leslie

07-28-2003, 01:20 PM

Originally posted by Keith Blackstone:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by Leslie:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by Keith Blackstone:
Leslie, you crack me up... graemlins/rofl.gif

BTW, how was the CD?!?! Keith my cd player died on me and I have not had a chance to replace it. So I have not heard it yet. Again, thanks for hooking me up. [/QUOTE]You've got 20,000 wanna-be boyfriends on this board, I'm sure they'd be happy to hook you up with new gear ;) [/QUOTE]Yea that and a bus pass will still get me home - don't believe the hype....

The Donger

07-28-2003, 01:28 PM

I didn't even read the thread, just scanned for pics.

post pics please.

Dee-Dee Sheridan

07-28-2003, 01:40 PM

Originally posted by richierich:
And Jaimie there are quite a few women that I know that think that I am very respectful(a couple on this board in fact). What YOU think about MY UNDERSTANDING of women means.........
You just worry about yours. You know how I feel about cha graemlins/remybussi.gif

I think some men won't approach women unless they're with or seen with the "IN CROWD." That's when you'll have all kinds coming out of the wood works introducing themselves because they wan't to be seen or a part of the "IN CROWD"

Terry James

07-28-2003, 01:48 PM

Ok I know this is gonna sound weird..BUT..

I have never really considered approaching women at "house" functions. Now, I am heterosexual and have been partying for a long time. When I go to stepper sets, I will holla and ask to dance. When I go to R&B or Hip hopish events, I'll holla and ask to dance. House music....well I tend to gravitate towards the music and it keeps my focus (hopefully). If I want to dance, I don't ask...I just dance.
Why??? I don't know.

MusicFilter

07-28-2003, 02:29 PM

Originally posted by Jamie Lennox:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by chgodj3:
Just because there were some fine women there doesn't mean they were going to dance or dance with the "trainspotters".

Some of the parties I attend I swear people come there to show off their shit! I hate to see a woman sit or stand there all night lookin' good, rejectin' brothas all night.

What you waitin' on honey? VIPs? There are NBA players coming to this party! graemlins/spanka.gif

Then when they dance with you they are only good for about 3 songs unless the DJ is inconsistent.

You know there is no such word in the dictionary as trainspotting. Can someone give me the true meaning and where it came from.

Oh one of my favorite movies of all time is

TRAINSPOTTING Yea my girlfriend and her friends decide to go out without the boys for a night of dancing and when you and your monkey friends decide they need to be dancing with yall and they are "rejectin' brothas all night"...you and your 'boys' are gonna hate them?

Give me a ****ing break. [/QUOTE]What the fawk are you talkin' about? graemlins/lol.gif graemlins/stupid.gif

MusicFilter

07-28-2003, 02:32 PM

Originally posted by Jamie Lennox:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by richierich:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by Jamie Lennox:
What makes you think the women werent quite happy with the men talking amongst themselves and leaving them alone? Because on more than one occassion they have told me so. They will be like "Richard what the **** is up with the men up in here"? At more than a couple of parties at that. I don't know about antwhere else but believe it or not Some women come to get with men, dance with men , talk to men..what have you. And these lames wanna just talk shit when there aint no women and when you get women up in the joint you've got goofies standing around doind NOTHING... what are y'all scared or what? I see why a lot of girls go to HIP-HOP and R&B clubs .. the men give them ATTENTION. [/QUOTE]And SOME women come to dance and not be botherd.

Would you know the difference? [/QUOTE]Well if you want to dance with another woman, stay yo ass at home and dance in the mirror.

If you don't want to be bothered definately keep your tired ass at home

Tee Cee 13

07-28-2003, 02:33 PM

Originally posted by richierich:
and a bunch of dudes standing around talking about "Yeah I just got a promo of that" and "listen to that dope ass blend"...GET THE **** OUTTA HERE!!!!!! ---------------------------------------

That's the way it be sometime bro. That shit is mad funny Yo!

icon_rofl.gif

Bill Blake

07-28-2003, 02:41 PM

Originally posted by chgodj3:
Well if you want to dance with another woman, stay yo ass at home and dance in the mirror.

If you don't want to be bothered definately keep your tired ass at home Ah finally my point has been made....

Misogyny rears its ugly head.

[ July 28, 2003, 03:56 PM: Message edited by: Jamie Lennox ]

Dee-Dee Sheridan

07-28-2003, 02:47 PM

Originally posted by chgodj3:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by Jamie Lennox:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by richierich:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by Jamie Lennox:
What makes you think the women werent quite happy with the men talking amongst themselves and leaving them alone? Because on more than one occassion they have told me so. They will be like "Richard what the **** is up with the men up in here"? At more than a couple of parties at that. I don't know about antwhere else but believe it or not Some women come to get with men, dance with men , talk to men..what have you. And these lames wanna just talk shit when there aint no women and when you get women up in the joint you've got goofies standing around doind NOTHING... what are y'all scared or what? I see why a lot of girls go to HIP-HOP and R&B clubs .. the men give them ATTENTION. [/QUOTE]And SOME women come to dance and not be botherd.

Would you know the difference? [/QUOTE]Well if you want to dance with another woman, stay yo ass at home and dance in the mirror.

If you don't want to be bothered definately keep your tired ass at home [/QUOTE]That was mean, now take that! graemlins/spanka.gif

mhd

07-28-2003, 02:54 PM

Originally posted by Jamie Lennox:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by chgodj3:
Well if you want to dance with another woman, stay yo ass at home and dance in the mirror.

If you don't want to be bothered definately keep your tired ass at home Ah finally my point has been made....

Misogyny rears is ugly head. [/QUOTE]misogyny needs to keep her head down and get back to work

Bill Blake

07-28-2003, 02:58 PM

Originally posted by mhd:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by Jamie Lennox:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by chgodj3:
Well if you want to dance with another woman, stay yo ass at home and dance in the mirror.

If you don't want to be bothered definately keep your tired ass at home Ah finally my point has been made....

Misogyny rears is ugly head. [/QUOTE]misogyny needs to keep her head down and get back to work [/QUOTE]Misogyny is AT work today:

Check it:

Im in the elevator today talking with a guy who is new in my company, pretty young, early 20's or so and a girl that works for a different company but in the same building gets in the elevator with us.

Im the middle of our conversation (about some car trouble shit he's having), he goes to the girl (only us three in the elevator) 'Hey I dont mean to bother you but your gorgeous, really, gorgeous’.

The girl of course uncomfortable whispered something like ‘thanks’ but with ( what I would call a nervous) disappointment.

Me, I got that damn pissed off something in my throat reaction, like what the **** are you doing this shit for, especially around me, I aint your ****ing 'homie'!?!?!

I let it go in the elevator to not make things more uncomfortable and just got back from pulling him aside and basically said ‘a word of advice, don’t you EVER say anything like that to a woman that works in this building again. You can lose your job over a comment like that’. I didn’t even begin to go in to the bad taste that type of shit is and how it puts her in a very uncomfortable situation since I figure there is no need to cause conflict between me and him that might hinder our ‘working relationship’, unless of course I catch him doing that shit again.

I suppose I need to approach the girl too (with some sort of apology or to let her know I didn’t approve of that, maybe even mention that I talked with him about it) but to be honest, Im a little uncomfortable with that too.

I ****ing hate the position this idiot put her and I in.

He could ****ing get ME fired with that shit.

mhd

07-28-2003, 03:04 PM

Originally posted by Jamie Lennox:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by mhd:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by Jamie Lennox:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by chgodj3:
Well if you want to dance with another woman, stay yo ass at home and dance in the mirror.

If you don't want to be bothered definately keep your tired ass at home Ah finally my point has been made....

Misogyny rears is ugly head. [/QUOTE]misogyny needs to keep her head down and get back to work [/QUOTE]Misogyny is AT work today:

Check it:

Im in the elevator today talking with a guy who is new in my company, pretty young, early 20's or so and a girl that works for a different company but in the same building gets in the elevator with us.

Im the middle of our conversation (about some car trouble shit he's having), he goes to the girl (only us three in the elevator) 'Hey I dont mean to bother you but your gorgeous, really, gorgeous’.

The girl of course uncomfortable whispered something like ‘thanks’ but with ( what I would call a nervous) disappointment.

Me, I got that damn pissed off something in my throat reaction, like what the **** are you doing this shit for, especially around me, I aint your ****ing 'homie'!?!?!

I let it go in the elevator to not make things more uncomfortable and just got back from pulling him aside and basically said ‘a word of advice, don’t you EVER say anything like that to a woman that works in this building again. You can lose your job over a comment like that’. I didn’t even begin to go in to the bad taste that type of shit is and how it puts her in a very uncomfortable situation since I figure there is no need to cause conflict between me and him that might hinder our ‘working relationship’, unless of course I catch him doing that shit again.

I suppose I need to approach the girl too (with some sort of apology or to let her know I didn’t approve of that, maybe even mention that I talked with him about it) but to be honest, Im a little uncomfortable with that too.

I ****ing hate the position this idiot put her and I in.

He could ****ing get ME fired with that shit. [/QUOTE]who do you work for? the moral majority new york chapter? do me a favor, go to HR and relate this story and tell me how they respond? what part bothered you? the "excuse me" or the "i don't mean to bother you" part? better yet, tell me what is the proper way to speak to a stranger of the opposite gender?

Bill Blake

07-28-2003, 03:11 PM

Originally posted by mhd:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by Jamie Lennox:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by mhd:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by Jamie Lennox:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by chgodj3:
Well if you want to dance with another woman, stay yo ass at home and dance in the mirror.

If you don't want to be bothered definately keep your tired ass at home Ah finally my point has been made....

Misogyny rears is ugly head. [/QUOTE]misogyny needs to keep her head down and get back to work [/QUOTE]Misogyny is AT work today:

Check it:

Im in the elevator today talking with a guy who is new in my company, pretty young, early 20's or so and a girl that works for a different company but in the same building gets in the elevator with us.

Im the middle of our conversation (about some car trouble shit he's having), he goes to the girl (only us three in the elevator) 'Hey I dont mean to bother you but your gorgeous, really, gorgeous’.

The girl of course uncomfortable whispered something like ‘thanks’ but with ( what I would call a nervous) disappointment.

Me, I got that damn pissed off something in my throat reaction, like what the **** are you doing this shit for, especially around me, I aint your ****ing 'homie'!?!?!

I let it go in the elevator to not make things more uncomfortable and just got back from pulling him aside and basically said ‘a word of advice, don’t you EVER say anything like that to a woman that works in this building again. You can lose your job over a comment like that’. I didn’t even begin to go in to the bad taste that type of shit is and how it puts her in a very uncomfortable situation since I figure there is no need to cause conflict between me and him that might hinder our ‘working relationship’, unless of course I catch him doing that shit again.

I suppose I need to approach the girl too (with some sort of apology or to let her know I didn’t approve of that, maybe even mention that I talked with him about it) but to be honest, Im a little uncomfortable with that too.

I ****ing hate the position this idiot put her and I in.

He could ****ing get ME fired with that shit. [/QUOTE]who do you work for? the moral majority new york chapter? do me a favor, go to HR and relate this story and tell me how they respond? what part bothered you? the "excuse me" or the "i don't mean to bother you" part? better yet, tell me what is the proper way to speak to a stranger of the opposite gender? [/QUOTE]Not in the ****ing work place its not.

mhd

07-28-2003, 03:15 PM

i agree that some work places are taboo, but not all, but isn't the elevator neutral ground? what did HR say? are you saying that it is inappropriate to approach a stranger? i will admit, that i almost never do it, but when i do, usually the results are 50/50 some are friends/clients to this day.

Keith Blackstone

07-28-2003, 03:18 PM

Originally posted by mhd:
i agree that some work places are taboo, but not all, but isn't the elevator neutral ground? what did HR say? are you saying that it is inappropriate to approach a stranger? i will admit, that i almost never do it, but when i do, usually the results are 50/50 some are friends/clients to this day. The kind of thing he's referring to happened in our company as well (in the elevator no less)... it resulted in everyone in the company being forced to take a "respect in the workplace" course...

Mind you I work for an extremely large, global company so you can imagine the sheer numbers of people forced to attend this class over something like he's describing...

[ July 28, 2003, 04:18 PM: Message edited by: Keith Blackstone ]

Bill Blake

07-28-2003, 03:20 PM

Originally posted by mhd:
i agree that some work places are taboo, but not all, but isn't the elevator neutral ground? what did HR say? are you saying that it is inappropriate to approach a stranger? i will admit, that i almost never do it, but when i do, usually the results are 50/50 some are friends/clients to this day. All she has to do is go to her supervisor and complain and hers goes to mine and thats that.

Possible guilt by association and you and I both know SOP or the law doesnt matter...the stigma or a hint of that shit on your record can be sudden death.

Not that it matters but she didnt like it.

I dont think its that hard to understand that some women see themselves as professionals at work and would like to be taken seriously as that.

And its not about the 'opposite' sex.

How would you have reacted if he would have said that to you in the elevator?

[ July 28, 2003, 04:24 PM: Message edited by: Jamie Lennox ]

mhd

07-28-2003, 03:32 PM

Originally posted by Jamie Lennox:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by mhd:
i agree that some work places are taboo, but not all, but isn't the elevator neutral ground? what did HR say? are you saying that it is inappropriate to approach a stranger? i will admit, that i almost never do it, but when i do, usually the results are 50/50 some are friends/clients to this day. All she has to do is go to her supervisor and complain and hers goes to mine and thats that.

Possible guilt by association and you and I both know SOP or the law doesnt matter...the stigma or a hint of that shit on your record can be sudden death.

Not that it matters but she didnt like it.

I dont think its that hard to understand that some women see themselves as professionals at work and would like to be taken seriously as that.

And its not about the 'opposite' sex.

How would you have reacted if he would have said that to you in the elevator? [/QUOTE]happens all the time, you say thank you, and if you care to, which i usually do, start a conversation. what if the guy complimented her suit, or purse instead of saying "gorgeous"? complimenting someone does not demean their professionalism, guys get told, "have you been working out" or nice tie, etc. btw, what did HR say?

mhd

07-28-2003, 03:34 PM

dude, you changed the hypo, but it still would be no problem,

MusicFilter

07-28-2003, 03:35 PM

Originally posted by Jamie Lennox:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by mhd:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by Jamie Lennox:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by chgodj3:
Well if you want to dance with another woman, stay yo ass at home and dance in the mirror.

If you don't want to be bothered definately keep your tired ass at home Ah finally my point has been made....

Misogyny rears is ugly head. [/QUOTE]misogyny needs to keep her head down and get back to work [/QUOTE]Misogyny is AT work today:

Check it:

Im in the elevator today talking with a guy who is new in my company, pretty young, early 20's or so and a girl that works for a different company but in the same building gets in the elevator with us.

Im the middle of our conversation (about some car trouble shit he's having), he goes to the girl (only us three in the elevator) 'Hey I dont mean to bother you but your gorgeous, really, gorgeous’.

The girl of course uncomfortable whispered something like ‘thanks’ but with ( what I would call a nervous) disappointment.

Me, I got that damn pissed off something in my throat reaction, like what the **** are you doing this shit for, especially around me, I aint your ****ing 'homie'!?!?!

I let it go in the elevator to not make things more uncomfortable and just got back from pulling him aside and basically said ‘a word of advice, don’t you EVER say anything like that to a woman that works in this building again. You can lose your job over a comment like that’. I didn’t even begin to go in to the bad taste that type of shit is and how it puts her in a very uncomfortable situation since I figure there is no need to cause conflict between me and him that might hinder our ‘working relationship’, unless of course I catch him doing that shit again.

I suppose I need to approach the girl too (with some sort of apology or to let her know I didn’t approve of that, maybe even mention that I talked with him about it) but to be honest, Im a little uncomfortable with that too.

I ****ing hate the position this idiot put her and I in.

He could ****ing get ME fired with that shit. [/QUOTE]It was just a compliment dude! Sometimes I compliment a woman, but I preface it with a "sexual harrasment disclaimer". By the time I get around to the actual compliment they feel bad that I even have had to preface it.

You know just as long as he wasn't saying "nice ass" or describing any of her personal being. To say one is georgous is one of the best compliments you can give a woman and they know that.

I'm kinda wondering what you're on, something doesn't feel quite right about what you're hung up on. graemlins/conf44.gif

Am I sensing a little bitterness towards women?

just askin' Dog.

mhd

07-28-2003, 03:40 PM

Originally posted by Keith Blackstone:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by mhd:
i agree that some work places are taboo, but not all, but isn't the elevator neutral ground? what did HR say? are you saying that it is inappropriate to approach a stranger? i will admit, that i almost never do it, but when i do, usually the results are 50/50 some are friends/clients to this day. The kind of thing he's referring to happened in our company as well (in the elevator no less)... it resulted in everyone in the company being forced to take a "respect in the workplace" course...

Mind you I work for an extremely large, global company so you can imagine the sheer numbers of people forced to attend this class over something like he's describing... [/QUOTE]so nobody's getting laid at work? seriously, school me, what was inappropriate about the scenario? from a corporate conduct point of view and a common-sense point of view?

Elbert Phillips

07-28-2003, 03:44 PM

"Different strokes, for different folks-whatever makes you happy!"

-Ten City

I'm not ashamed to say that I can be all of these at times-trainspotter/record geek-whatever! I wouldn't have made anything happen dj-wise (work is far from over) if I were trying to be some fake "mack" talking to every woman in a nightclub. So far, payoff for my efforts has been watching hundreds of people on a dancefloor get off to my music! I cannot fake the funk-I'm no player/casanova when I'm out at a party, I'm a record/dj-nerd and PROUD of it!

[ July 28, 2003, 04:50 PM: Message edited by: EL ]

Fletch

07-28-2003, 03:44 PM

Originally posted by Leslie:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by richierich:
Leslie, Ashaki.. what is Really going on with SOME of these brothers? Is it because they feel that they are too cool to approach a woman or what? I didn't say stick your hand up her dress and grab her..or tell her what you wanna do to her (Some girls might be open to that I don't know) we're talking about basic socializing between the sexes. Man you'd think guys don't like girls anymore. Richie its due to a few things in MY OPINION (this ain't gospel just houw I see it). You have a lot of men who for one reason or another were NEVER taught the proper way to approach a woman. Maybe this is due to lack of proper male role models in their lives, could be any reason. You have a proliferation of females who have no idea what it is to be approached respectfuly by a man (same reasoning as above, and any other reason). You have men that are so wussy that they got rejected ONCE never got over it and now refuse to ask another woman to dance as a form of eternal punishment to the first woman who turned them down - grow up and get over it and yourself. [/QUOTE]A lot of times, men don't get over it based on the tone of the rejection. There are times, however, where a lady has a nasty vibe in her rejection. This in turn, turns a lot of men off, and, in effect, ruins their confidence. I have no problem being rejected for a dance. And I've been rejected plenty of times. However, if everyone I approach displays a negative vibe when rejecting my offer, I will question whether I belong at that party (why do you want to deal with a whole lot of conceited women?), and I will leave. Peace.

[ July 28, 2003, 04:44 PM: Message edited by: einnod23 ]

Ronnie Ron

07-28-2003, 03:52 PM

Originally posted by einnod23:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by Leslie:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by richierich:
Leslie, Ashaki.. what is Really going on with SOME of these brothers? Is it because they feel that they are too cool to approach a woman or what? I didn't say stick your hand up her dress and grab her..or tell her what you wanna do to her (Some girls might be open to that I don't know) we're talking about basic socializing between the sexes. Man you'd think guys don't like girls anymore. Richie its due to a few things in MY OPINION (this ain't gospel just houw I see it). You have a lot of men who for one reason or another were NEVER taught the proper way to approach a woman. Maybe this is due to lack of proper male role models in their lives, could be any reason. You have a proliferation of females who have no idea what it is to be approached respectfuly by a man (same reasoning as above, and any other reason). You have men that are so wussy that they got rejected ONCE never got over it and now refuse to ask another woman to dance as a form of eternal punishment to the first woman who turned them down - grow up and get over it and yourself. [/QUOTE]A lot of times, men don't get over it based on the tone of the rejection. There are times, however, where a lady has a nasty vibe in her rejection. This in turn, turns a lot of men off, and, in effect, ruins their confidence. I have no problem being rejected for a dance. And I've been rejected plenty of times. However, if everyone I approach displays a negative vibe when rejecting my offer, I will question whether I belong at that party (why do you want to deal with a whole lot of conceited women?), and I will leave. Peace. [/QUOTE]I can dig this statemtent. In a normal setting i usualy dont ask women to dance because i have had some bad experiences, a lot of women travel in packs and sometimes turn kats down just for the sport of it so they can get a little giggle and look big to her friends, I usually dance with women i know it keeps it friendly and fun.

God forbid if a women would come to you and ask for a dance, hell i may look outside for snow in July... ;)

LEONARD REMIX RROY

07-28-2003, 04:15 PM

In my single days I would rather be at a dance party rather than a (what I call Hip Hop & R&B) Thug or Common Music party. The Common party has the common things every week:

A group of 4 to 5 women sitting at one table that over examine everyman who walks up for whatever reason....there is also the group of guys and their click is on some "who gonna get a new female in their bed tonight first".

Glad I am too old for all that stuff now smile.gif

Elbert Phillips

07-28-2003, 05:12 PM

Don't get me wrong, a party isn't happening without good/great looking women to look at (I like having the option should I decide to step up)-not harass with wack "playa" bullshit.

[ July 28, 2003, 11:20 PM: Message edited by: EL ]

Querck

07-28-2003, 06:06 PM

Originally posted by RonnieRon:

God forbid if a women would come to you and ask for a dance, hell i may look outside for snow in July... ;) Speaking of which, just this past week-end, I was at a club and a VERY FINE woman came out of nowhere and asked me to dance (I was just sitting on the couch, chillin'). I was not feeling the music, so I said "Sorry, I can't", because I really cannot dance when I am not feeling the music. She got so upset with me and called me a "sissy" or something like that. Like I was supposed to dance on demand?! (I did end up dancing with her later, and explained why I refused at first).

This brings me to my question for the guys: if a FINE woman asked you to dance, but you were really not in the dancing mood (f.e. if the music was terrible), would you dance anyway?

Jamie 3:26

07-28-2003, 06:32 PM

Now I see why there is not a lot of women at house sets...cats scared to ask them to dance and will only dance if it's a song they like playing...sounds quite gay to me....

Fletch

07-28-2003, 06:39 PM

Originally posted by dannyboy:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by RonnieRon:

God forbid if a women would come to you and ask for a dance, hell i may look outside for snow in July... ;) Speaking of which, just this past week-end, I was at a club and a VERY FINE woman came out of nowhere and asked me to dance (I was just sitting on the couch, chillin'). I was not feeling the music, so I said "Sorry, I can't", because I really cannot dance when I am not feeling the music. She got so upset with me and called me a "sissy" or something like that. Like I was supposed to dance on demand?! (I did end up dancing with her later, and explained why I refused at first).

This brings me to my question for the guys: if a FINE woman asked you to dance, but you were really not in the dancing mood (f.e. if the music was terrible), would you dance anyway? [/QUOTE]For me, the social interaction outweighs the bad music anytime. I'm not gonna reject a lady (especially a nice, respectable, fine lady) for a dance. If I gotta do the cha-cha slide, no problem. Parties are about interaction, in addition to the music. If I'm not feeling the vibe or the music, I will at least try to get another attempt to enjoy myself. If that doesn't work, then I will consider leaving the party. Peace.

Querck

07-28-2003, 07:02 PM

Originally posted by einnod23:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by dannyboy:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by RonnieRon:

God forbid if a women would come to you and ask for a dance, hell i may look outside for snow in July... ;) Speaking of which, just this past week-end, I was at a club and a VERY FINE woman came out of nowhere and asked me to dance (I was just sitting on the couch, chillin'). I was not feeling the music, so I said "Sorry, I can't", because I really cannot dance when I am not feeling the music. She got so upset with me and called me a "sissy" or something like that. Like I was supposed to dance on demand?! (I did end up dancing with her later, and explained why I refused at first).

This brings me to my question for the guys: if a FINE woman asked you to dance, but you were really not in the dancing mood (f.e. if the music was terrible), would you dance anyway? [/QUOTE]For me, the social interaction outweighs the bad music anytime. I'm not gonna reject a lady (especially a nice, respectable, fine lady) for a dance. If I gotta do the cha-cha slide, no problem. Parties are about interaction, in addition to the music. If I'm not feeling the vibe or the music, I will at least try to get another attempt to enjoy myself. If that doesn't work, then I will consider leaving the party. Peace. [/QUOTE]Yeah, I kinda feel you on this, but for me it just doesn't work. The times when I've made myself dance inspite of the music, I've disliked it, and it almost seemed like labor to me (labor of love ;) ). I wish it weren't so, but this is something I can't change...