How do you keep your kids out of gangs?

[Basecore Boy]

?

[richierich]

That's a tough one seing how you can't be around your kids 24/7. You can instill all of the proper morals and teach them right from wrong and they still can get sucked in. Move to Montana????
Peace

[Basecore Boy]

They will likely show up in Montana next.

[richierich]

Originally posted by Basecore Boy:
They will likely show up in Montana next. Yeah no shit. Interesting question, some people think... no not my kid... why not yo kid!!!

[ April 03, 2003, 04:02 PM: Message edited by: richierich ]

[darrow]

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[ April 03, 2003, 03:57 PM: Message edited by: darrow ]

[Basecore Boy]

Originally posted by darrow:
birth control smile.gif That's a good one!

[floorgasm]

take em on a tour of a prison. or show them video of someone getting shot. that's pretty severe, but if you're at the point where you have to ask that question, they can handle it.

[ April 03, 2003, 04:00 PM: Message edited by: floorgasm ]

[P-Flipp]

Keeping them as busy as possible,talking to them and most important Listening to them.

[darrow]

On the serious note, I'm not a parent yet, but do plan on having kids. This is a good question. I guess you have to understand the reasons kids join gangs and come at it from that angle.

So why do you think kids join gangs?

[TAC]

beat dey ass from day one!

[Sharp Eye Washington]

Keep your kids active. Enroll them in after school programs academic or sports related. Expand there horizons beyond the local neighborhood & neighborhood friends. Always find examples why education is important. Take them to your old neighborhood. Show them the coolest guy from your day. If he isn't dead or in jail he may be on the corner strung out. My sons are 7 & 8, so far so good with my guys. The true test starts in highschool when peer pressure is the most intense. As long as i'm alive & kicking my guys will not join any gangs.

[Jamie 3:26]

You have to realize what it is to be a kid.If you are ot giving them love,affection and attention,they will seek it elsewhere.

Where a lot of parents messup is they substitute physical love and attention with material things.

Sometimes kids want to feel loved and appreciated.
Take for example a kid who has a single mother.While she was not seeing anyone,she gave him all the attention in the world.She meets a new guy and all of a sudden the attention goes to the new guy and the child may be treated as a outcast.

You have to be there for your kids and establish a relationship with them.Kids do certain things to get your attention.

I do not have any kids,but from seeing the mistakes parents have made,I know what to do and what not to do.

[Friday]

Take them on a tour of a jail or maybe a morgue. They may think twice about the repercussions of gang life.
My father was a correctional officer when I was a kid and my brother and I used to hang out with the inmates(we were always safe) when we visited his work...as for myself, I knew I never wanted to end up in a place like that......now about the mental hospital graemlins/all_coholic.gif

[TAC]

F*CK ALL THAT TOUCHY FEELY CRAP.

BEAT DEY A**

[Jamie 3:26]

Originally posted by TAC:
F*CK ALL THAT TOUCHY FEELY CRAP.

BEAT DEY A** Hey,I never said don't kick ass. graemlins/spanka.gif Will keep em in line also.I just do not believe in beating kids for any little thing.

[TAC]

Originally posted by JAMIE 3:26:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by TAC:
F*CK ALL THAT TOUCHY FEELY CRAP.

BEAT DEY A** Hey,I never said don't kick ass. graemlins/spanka.gif Will keep em in line also.I just do not believe in beating kids for any little thing. </font>[/QUOTE]yer gots to start early brah. Ain't no sense trying to beat no grown man.

You gots to instil the fear in em at a young age. Beat dat a**. Real early. Like when little man ain't looking just walk up and steal him in the chest.

He'll be red, but he'll love you for it later...

P.S. don't tell social services on my a*ss PERLEASEE

[ April 03, 2003, 04:38 PM: Message edited by: TAC ]

[richierich]

Not that I would ever disclose what I was but I was in every extracurricular activity in the book, got mad love and attention from my moms, had a paper route, got good grades, did what I was told, went to church, and it still didn't stop me from joining one. You don't know what your shorties can get into when you are not around. You just better pray and hope for the best. Oh yeah and my moms would whip my ass also..... what????

[TAD]

ask BuddyLove

[Sharp Eye Washington]

Originally posted by Cosmic_Twin:
ask BuddyLove graemlins/thumbsup.gif

[mhd]

have them join your gang

[Koffy Brown]

Originally posted by TAC:
beat dey ass from day one! Then my boyz should be gang free biggrinangel.gif
Keeping them busy is very good...parenting, communicating...hopefully get to them before it's too late...

[Dr. Freud]

For the record... beating a kid's ass won't keep him or her out of a gang, or any other kind of trouble. It just teaches them that voilence is OK, and that it settles problems. Kids will begin to associate hitting people as a method of punishment for something that person "did wrong." graemlins/nono.gif

Eventually, that child will grow into an angry, violent young man/woman and begin to try and solve all of his or her problems with violence (fighting, baseball bats, knives, guns, etc).

[jsd540]

You teach them right from wrong very early. Talk with them not at them, and put the fear of you in them. Keep your fingers crossed and be as involved as possible. Stay up late and worry and in the end it's still up to them...

my 2 cents

[V-ROD]

Just be involved in their lives, do things with them, don't just tell them what to do. Sometimes that just goes in one ear and out the other. Beat their a$$??? Well that is one way, but why have them hate you for beating them for the wrong reasons that they beleive in. I believe that your better off doing stuff with them than doing stuff without them rather than having them do it on their own, that makes them vulnerable to other bad kids that can influence your kids to do some bad stuff, no matter how small. If you don't have time... make time, or don't have kids at all.