Pretty and single? You gots to be crazy ... [Archive]

And

10-02-2003, 09:46 AM

Alright .. Just laughing at a few comments in the Halle Berry thread then I started thinking ... Why is it that people tend to automatically assume something is wrong with a woman if she happens to be pretty and single. More specifically, why is the word "crazy" used to describe her instead of just single. Why crazy? Attractive people can't be single without something being wrong with them? Please share your thoughts on this one.

GROOVE VICTIM

10-02-2003, 09:47 AM

have you read this woman's track record?

[ October 02, 2003, 10:48 AM: Message edited by: GROOVE VICTIM ]

JMJ

10-02-2003, 09:48 AM

The story of my life. Great topic.....JMJ biggrinangel.gif

'Magic' Juan

10-02-2003, 09:49 AM

The comments are based more on her past actions, rather than her looks.

magic_juan

MYOR

10-02-2003, 09:50 AM

You mean... Whats wrong with you, Why are you still single?? icon_rofl.gif

Get that all the time icon_rofl.gif

GROOVE VICTIM

10-02-2003, 09:51 AM

Originally posted by MYOR:
You mean... Whats wrong with you, Why are you still single?? icon_rofl.gif

Get that all the time icon_rofl.gif I do too, by married women.

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Brut by Faberge

10-02-2003, 09:52 AM

Hey 6 23...nice thread. You know, I'm no Halle Berry, but I think I am a pretty nice-looking kid...got all my teeth and limbs, and not too much body hair and whatnot...

But ya know, I was single for about 2 years! Why? Not because of any questionable psychiatric profile or anything, but because I chose to be. I was working on myself and loving myself. I wanted to be fit in every way when my perfect match rolled up. And so far, it looks like things worked out for the better graemlins/thumbsup.gif

Keith Blackstone

10-02-2003, 09:55 AM

Originally posted by GROOVE VICTIM:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by MYOR:
You mean... Whats wrong with you, Why are you still single?? icon_rofl.gif

Get that all the time icon_rofl.gif I do too, by married women.

graemlins/conf44.gif [/QUOTE]Same here...

JMJ

10-02-2003, 09:55 AM

Originally posted by THX-1138:
Hey 6 23...nice thread. You know, I'm no Halle Berry, but I think I am a pretty nice-looking kid...got all my teeth and limbs, and not too much body hair and whatnot...

But ya know, I was single for about 2 years! Why? Not because of any questionable psychiatric profile or anything, but because I chose to be. I was working on myself and loving myself. I wanted to be fit in every way when my perfect match rolled up. And so far, it looks like things worked out for the better graemlins/thumbsup.gif Could you define "not too much" body hair?? Be specific. Thanks in advance......JMJ
biggrinangel.gif biggrinangel.gif biggrinangel.gif biggrinangel.gif biggrinangel.gif

And

10-02-2003, 09:55 AM

Magic Juan & Groove ... I'm not just referring to Halle ... She has a thread of her own. I'm talking generally ... I've heard the comment made several times not referring to Halle ...
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Recently the following conversation happened.
Dude: So, are you seeing anyone?
Me: No
Dude: Really? (exaggerated look of surprise here). What's wrong with you? You must be crazy or something ... Are you?
Me: Er ... (stunned into silence)
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Myor I hear you ... graemlins/rofl.gif

MYOR

10-02-2003, 09:56 AM

'Magic' Juan

10-02-2003, 09:58 AM

Originally posted by 6 23:
Magic Juan & Groove ... I'm not just referring to Halle ... She has a thread of her own. I'm talking generally ... I've heard the comment made several times not referring to Halle ...
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Recently the following conversation happened.
Dude: So, are you seeing anyone?
Me: No
Dude: Really? (exaggerated look of surprise here). What's wrong with you? You must be crazy or something ... Are you?
Me: Er ... (stunned into silence)
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Myor I hear you ... graemlins/rofl.gif So what you are saying is that you are FINE as hell?? Hmmmmm .... :rolleyes:

I think I know what you are getting at, though. There are lots of attractive young ladies that I am amazed are still "unhitched," but I assume that part of the issue is that the guys are intimidated by them. The price of beauty, I suppose ...

magic_juan

richierich

10-02-2003, 09:58 AM

Originally posted by MYOR:
You mean... Whats wrong with you, Why are you still single?? icon_rofl.gif

Get that all the time icon_rofl.gif You're single graemlins/scared.gif oh my God she must be crazy..how can someone so fine be single :D
No maybe fools just aint acting right ;)

GROOVE VICTIM

10-02-2003, 09:59 AM

I don't know about you guys who are in the same boat as me, but these married women will talk your ears off about why they are not that happy in their marriage. This of course is after I'm finished answering the "Where you from and what do you do" type of questions.

"Damn if I just waited a few months"

graemlins/jpshakehead.gif

[ October 02, 2003, 11:00 AM: Message edited by: GROOVE VICTIM ]

darrow

10-02-2003, 10:00 AM

It's not just a looks thing. I've also heard people use the "He/She is SUCH a good person. I can't believe he/she hasn't been snatched up!"

As if being a good person guarantees you finding a good match. Hell, I think good people often attract, not deter, The Crazies. :D

Brut by Faberge

10-02-2003, 10:01 AM

Originally posted by JMJ:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by THX-1138:
Hey 6 23...nice thread. You know, I'm no Halle Berry, but I think I am a pretty nice-looking kid...got all my teeth and limbs, and not too much body hair and whatnot...

But ya know, I was single for about 2 years! Why? Not because of any questionable psychiatric profile or anything, but because I chose to be. I was working on myself and loving myself. I wanted to be fit in every way when my perfect match rolled up. And so far, it looks like things worked out for the better graemlins/thumbsup.gif Could you define "not too much" body hair?? Be specific. Thanks in advance......JMJ
biggrinangel.gif biggrinangel.gif biggrinangel.gif biggrinangel.gif biggrinangel.gif [/QUOTE]icon_rofl.gif it's uh...managable graemlins/rofl.gif

And

10-02-2003, 10:01 AM

Originally posted by THX-1138:
Hey 6 23...nice thread. You know, I'm no Halle Berry, but I think I am a pretty nice-looking kid...got all my teeth and limbs, and not too much body hair and whatnot...

But ya know, I was single for about 2 years! Why? Not because of any questionable psychiatric profile or anything, but because I chose to be. I was working on myself and loving myself. I wanted to be fit in every way when my perfect match rolled up. And so far, it looks like things worked out for the better graemlins/thumbsup.gif I hear ya sista as someone a bit on the freakishly scared of relationships side I understand not wanting to jump into anything. How that translates into I must be "crazy" (or any other woman that has dealt with these comments) still puzzles me. Shoot what is "crazy" anyway?

graemlins/rofl.gif

Bill Blake

10-02-2003, 10:05 AM

Originally posted by 6 23:

Recently the following conversation happened.
Dude: So, are you seeing anyone?
Me: No
Dude: Really? (exaggerated look of surprise here). What's wrong with you? You must be crazy or something ... Are you?
Me: Er ... (stunned into silence)
This doesnt = 'dude' saying 'oh your single and you must have problems'

It translate into covert for

Dude saying 'I want to #@$%@ the #@%@@! out of you.'

alex zen

10-02-2003, 10:06 AM

Originally posted by 6 23:
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Recently the following conversation happened.
Dude: So, are you seeing anyone?
Me: No
Dude: Really? (exaggerated look of surprise here). What's wrong with you? You must be crazy or something ... Are you?
Me: Er ... (stunned into silence)
graemlins/jpshakehead.gif that's not a very good pick up line. some people like being single or just don't want to have to settle. i've had to many girlfriends where i should have cut it off early rather then being stuck in a boring, unfullfilling relationship. besides i thinl most people are crazy, myself included.

And

10-02-2003, 10:06 AM

Originally posted by darrow:

As if being a good person guarantees you finding a good match. Hell, I think good people often attract, not deter, The Crazies. :D Indeed Darrow ... I guess it's those if A then B must be true comments that amuse me. Shoot if I'm to go with the single and available numbers being tossed around for the DC area then single and crazy I is for a long time coming ...

graemlins/rofl.gif but not really 'cause it's getting cold and body heat is nice.
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PS - I missed you ... Glad to see you back. :D

Brut by Faberge

10-02-2003, 10:07 AM

Originally posted by 6 23:
Shoot what is "crazy" anyway?
we're all a little psychotic ya know...how can you go through life without your central nervous system enduring a few um...dents and dings biggrinangel.gif

richierich

10-02-2003, 10:09 AM

I think people will put up with cookoo patties so to speak just because they're fine and people think you must be the shit if you got a fine girl nuts or not. I've had people say to me "So why aren't you two a couple" referring to one of my female friends that happens to be attractive...I'm like "Why do you think we should be"..."Cause y'all look so good together"...WTF???

kara

10-02-2003, 10:10 AM

another one is "she must be a lesbian"

dumb

And

10-02-2003, 10:10 AM

Originally posted by Jamie Lennox:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by 6 23:

Recently the following conversation happened.
Dude: So, are you seeing anyone?
Me: No
Dude: Really? (exaggerated look of surprise here). What's wrong with you? You must be crazy or something ... Are you?
Me: Er ... (stunned into silence)
This doesnt = 'dude' saying 'oh your single and you must have problems'

It translate into covert for

Dude saying 'I want to #@$%@ the #@%@@! out of you.' [/QUOTE]Hmm ... and yet another possible reason I'm single. I'm just not cracking the code.

Bill Blake

10-02-2003, 10:12 AM

Originally posted by kara:
another one is "she must be a lesbian"

dumb No Zack is a Lesbian not 6 23

JMJ

10-02-2003, 10:12 AM

Originally posted by THX-1138:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by JMJ:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by THX-1138:
Hey 6 23...nice thread. You know, I'm no Halle Berry, but I think I am a pretty nice-looking kid...got all my teeth and limbs, and not too much body hair and whatnot...

But ya know, I was single for about 2 years! Why? Not because of any questionable psychiatric profile or anything, but because I chose to be. I was working on myself and loving myself. I wanted to be fit in every way when my perfect match rolled up. And so far, it looks like things worked out for the better graemlins/thumbsup.gif Could you define "not too much" body hair?? Be specific. Thanks in advance......JMJ
biggrinangel.gif biggrinangel.gif biggrinangel.gif biggrinangel.gif [/QUOTE]icon_rofl.gif it's uh...managable graemlins/rofl.gif [/QUOTE]Just as long as you don't braid it......JMJ ;)

And

10-02-2003, 10:15 AM

Originally posted by THX-1138:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by 6 23:
Shoot what is "crazy" anyway?
we're all a little psychotic ya know...how can you go through life without your central nervous system enduring a few um...dents and dings biggrinangel.gif [/QUOTE]Hee, hee ... I ask what really is "crazy" 'cause frankly, when I think of some of the adventures some friends and I have been through ... well either Halle ain't that "crazy" or as you and Alex say ... We're all nibbling on a bit of cuckoo pie. I mean think about this too: If people are running around hurting each other in relationships and leaving scars that don't heal right away, well the next person gets a taste and the person after that. It's a big ole cycle of nuts dating nuts ... graemlins/rofl.gif

BHouse

10-02-2003, 10:18 AM

THIS IS MY 2CENTS: (DOUBLE POST)

I believe Eric Benet and Dave Justice had more of a problem than Halle. Eric Benet has an sexual addiction. Why get married if you know that you are going to have a "hard" time keeping your pants up. Marriage is sacred. This is not Halle's fault regardless of how crazy she is or isn't. We have never heard of her cheated or having any kind of issue. Yes she could have covered up alot of issues because she is an celebrity, but so could have Eric and Dave for that matter. Dave is suppose to have beat on her. No sympathy from me on that as well. Any woman I have to put my hands on I rather not be with. Again no matter how crazy she maybe. Yes she maybe 0 - 2, but how many of us have had relationships that went south after a couple of months and years. I personally just got a divorce after 8yrs of marriage. I never once cheated and only put my hands on my wife once in self-defense. I never would have thought in a million years I would be divorced and I did everything in my power to make it work. Halle stuck by Dave and Eric when all the rumors were circulating. Thats all.

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6 23 HOLLA AT ME....

MYOR

10-02-2003, 10:25 AM

Originally posted by richierich:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by MYOR:
You mean... Whats wrong with you, Why are you still single?? icon_rofl.gif

Get that all the time icon_rofl.gif You're single graemlins/scared.gif oh my God she must be crazy..how can someone so fine be single :D
No maybe fools just aint acting right ;) [/QUOTE]No, we have to be the crazy ones.. graemlins/mecry.gif

I'm normal I tell you NORMAL (that's my story & I'm sticking to it) biggrinangel.gif graemlins/cool_shades.gif

[ October 02, 2003, 11:32 AM: Message edited by: MYOR ]

And

10-02-2003, 10:26 AM

Originally posted by BHouse:
THIS IS MY 2CENTS: (DOUBLE POST)

I believe Eric Benet and Dave Justice had more of a problem than Halle. Eric Benet has an sexual addiction. Why get married if you know that you are going to have a "hard" time keeping your pants up. Marriage is sacred. This is not Halle's fault regardless of how crazy she is or isn't. We have never heard of her cheated or having any kind of issue. Yes she could have covered up alot of issues because she is an celebrity, but so could have Eric and Dave for that matter. Dave is suppose to have beat on her. No sympathy from me on that as well. Any woman I have to put my hands on I rather not be with. Again no matter how crazy she maybe. Yes she maybe 0 - 2, but how many of us have had relationships that went south after a couple of months and years. I personally just got a divorce after 8yrs of marriage. I never once cheated and only put my hands on my wife once in self-defense. I never would have thought in a million years I would be divorced and I did everything in my power to make it work. Halle stuck by Dave and Eric when all the rumors were circulating. Thats all.

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6 23 HOLLA AT ME.... graemlins/thumbsup.gif

Coming atcha in 5, 4, 3, 2 ... smile.gif

10-02-2003, 10:45 AM

Crazy or not, she looks GOOD! graemlins/1luvu.gif

alex zen

10-02-2003, 10:46 AM

Originally posted by Albert Diaz:
Crazy or not, she looks GOOD! graemlins/1luvu.gif crazy good?

däp

10-02-2003, 10:52 AM

Originally posted by THX-1138:
edited...But ya know, I was single for about 2 years! Why? Not because of any questionable psychiatric profile or anything, but because I chose to be. I was working on myself and loving myself. I wanted to be fit in every way when my perfect match rolled up. And so far, it looks like things worked out for the better graemlins/thumbsup.gif more people should think like this before entering into a serious relationship. lot's of people use relationships as crutches and therapy.

has anyone ever been in a relationship where the person you dummped got their shit together after you let them go? one of my ex's is now working on her PhD. but was wacked when we were together. guess she could still be wacked though smile.gif

mhd

10-02-2003, 11:08 AM

Originally posted by t o r i n:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by THX-1138:
edited...But ya know, I was single for about 2 years! Why? Not because of any questionable psychiatric profile or anything, but because I chose to be. I was working on myself and loving myself. I wanted to be fit in every way when my perfect match rolled up. And so far, it looks like things worked out for the better graemlins/thumbsup.gif more people should think like this before entering into a serious relationship. lot's of people use relationships as crutches and therapy.

has anyone ever been in a relationship where the person you dummped got their shit together after you let them go? one of my ex's is now working on her PhD. but was wacked when we were together. guess she could still be wacked though smile.gif [/QUOTE]bruh, please don't be fooled by advanced degrees, please

Bill Blake

10-02-2003, 11:09 AM

Originally posted by mhd:
bruh, please don't be fooled by advanced degrees, please Wizerd,

People with PHD's built the gas chambers for Hilter.

10-02-2003, 11:12 AM

Originally posted by alex zen:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by Albert Diaz:
Crazy or not, she looks GOOD! graemlins/1luvu.gif crazy good? [/QUOTE]Mad good.
http://deephousepage.com/smilies/smokin.gif

TAC

10-02-2003, 11:15 AM

Originally posted by mhd:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by t o r i n:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by THX-1138:
edited...But ya know, I was single for about 2 years! Why? Not because of any questionable psychiatric profile or anything, but because I chose to be. I was working on myself and loving myself. I wanted to be fit in every way when my perfect match rolled up. And so far, it looks like things worked out for the better graemlins/thumbsup.gif more people should think like this before entering into a serious relationship. lot's of people use relationships as crutches and therapy.

has anyone ever been in a relationship where the person you dummped got their shit together after you let them go? one of my ex's is now working on her PhD. but was wacked when we were together. guess she could still be wacked though smile.gif [/QUOTE]bruh, please don't be fooled by advanced degrees, please [/QUOTE]Word!!

Friday

10-02-2003, 11:25 AM

Let me say something, a pretty & single girl nowadays better have some craziness in her because there are some ruthless ****ers out there.
Why should a woman want to put up with some man's shit, thats's how you get ugly & single or even worse ugly & married. And don't know one bring up men because this is a thread about women! smile.gif

lola desire

10-02-2003, 11:28 AM

... on the flipside though ...

there are a lot of dudes who approach "fine" women and expect that they are good to date because somehow:

fine = sane + interested in me

in some cases, this could not be further from the truth. sometimes "fine" women DO have issues.

DJ76

10-02-2003, 11:31 AM

Originally posted by gf:
Let me say something, a pretty & single girl nowadays better have some craziness in her because there are some ruthless ****ers out there.
Why should a woman want to put up with some man's shit, thats's how you get ugly & single or even worse ugly & married. And don't know one bring up men because this is a thread about women! smile.gif See, that's where you wrong. If you meet an idiot who doesn't know how to treat you, it doesn't mean you should have a crazy attitude cause hey, you just might turn off the next man that comes up and he just might be good to you if you give him the chance.

Move on, but don't change.

JMJ

10-02-2003, 11:35 AM

Friday

10-02-2003, 11:37 AM

Originally posted by lola desire:
... on the flipside though ...

there are a lot of dudes who approach "fine" women and expect that they are good to date because somehow:

fine = sane + interested in me

in some cases, this could not be further from the truth. sometimes "fine" women DO have issues. This is true, dosen't happen to me they must sense my craziness, but this is true biggrinangel.gif graemlins/rofl.gif

Also, it was wonderful meeting you and Ken in NY smile.gif

BHouse

10-02-2003, 12:01 PM

Originally posted by t o r i n:
<blockquote>quote:<hr />Originally posted by THX-1138:
edited...But ya know, I was single for about 2 years! Why? Not because of any questionable psychiatric profile or anything, but because I chose to be. I was working on myself and loving myself. I wanted to be fit in every way when my perfect match rolled up. And so far, it looks like things worked out for the better graemlins/thumbsup.gif more people should think like this before entering into a serious relationship. lot's of people use relationships as crutches and therapy.

has anyone ever been in a relationship where the person you dummped got their shit together after you let them go? one of my ex's is now working on her PhD. but was wacked when we were together. guess she could still be wacked though smile.gif [/QUOTE]I understand what you mean. She couldn't work on herself and get her act together while in a relationship with you for whatever reason. Sometimes in relationships we lose focus on what we want and need because we are wrapped up in our partners wants and needs. Whether she is working on her PH.D, concentrating on work or hiting the gym, the fact that she is doing something to better herself is all that matters...

And

10-02-2003, 12:26 PM

That's why cutting 'em off at the 3 month mark is a good way to refocus.
Not a peep on the above comment out of you BHouse ... ;) graemlins/rofl.gif

BHouse

10-02-2003, 12:33 PM

Originally posted by 6 23:
That's why cutting 'em off at the 3 month mark is a good way to refocus.
Not a peep on the above comment out of you BHouse ... ;) graemlins/rofl.gif You are so wrong... SO VERY WRONG... graemlins/nono.gif icon_rofl.gif

DLow

10-02-2003, 12:37 PM

I can't front. As crazy as I think she is, I'd still give her a run...along with Janet and Mariah...well if I was single I would. biggrinangel.gif

lyot

10-02-2003, 02:47 PM