IF YOU WERE UNHAPPILY MARRIED...

[DISKOQUEEN99]

SOME PEOPLE SUBSCRIBE TO THE POINT OF VIEW THAT "IT'S CHEAPER TO KEEP HER." (THIS QUESTION IS NOT AIMED JUST AT THE FELLAS) IN SOME CASES, PEOPLE STAY IN RELATIONSHIPS/MARRIAGES BECAUSE THEY STAND TO LOSE FINANCIALLY. SOME WON'T LEAVE BECAUSE THEY STAND TO LOSE BENEFITS THAT THEY ARE ENTITLED TO AS THE SPOUSE (SUCH AS IN THE CASE OF A MILITARY VETERAN). IN CASES WHERE THERE IS MONEY/PROPERTY INVOLVED, THE OTHER PERSON MAY WALK AWAY WITH GOD KNOWS HOW MUCH. CHILD SUPPORT CAN BE MURDER. SOME FEEL IT'S CHEAPER TO PUT UP WITH SOMEBODY'S B.S. THAN TO LIVE IN SEPARATE HOUSEHOLDS AND GIVE UP THAT 20 TO 32 PERCENT OF NET INCOME. SOME PEOPLE ACTUALLY DO THIS; IS IT WORTH IT? DAMN.

Q: MARRIED OR IN A RELATIONSHIP, AND YOU'RE NOT HAPPY, WOULD YOU STAY FOR FINANCIAL REASONS?

Q: FOR THE SAKE OF YOUR CHILDREN (IF YOU HAVE THEM)?

Q: WOULD YOU STAY AND JUST GET SOMEBODY ON THE SIDE (OR CARE IF YOUR PARTNER GOT SOMEBODY ELSE?)

[Drrtynewyork]

wow i guess no ones unhappily married..well if i was i would be out like a mofo. lifes too short . :D

[Pete Nice]

that's what i plan to find next girl i sucker into dating me.... :D i hope i've learned enough to jump ship when i know it's sinking. if shes got a lot of money i might stay, but it would have to be money i could put away in my own account to have safety net, when i bail :rolleyes:

[ April 08, 2003, 04:48 PM: Message edited by: square root ]

[lola desire]

Originally posted by DISKOQUEEN99:
Q: MARRIED OR IN A RELATIONSHIP, AND YOU'RE NOT HAPPY, WOULD YOU STAY FOR FINANCIAL REASONS?
being married carries a whole host of legal implications that just being in a relationship doesn't. common law marriage is not the same as actual marriage. if the relationship is anything less than marriage, do not stay. if one is married and has a bad relationship, get a good lawyer. if you can't afford a good lawyer, then that person would have to evaluate the pros and cons on thier own: either chill and make the best of it or risk loosing out financially.


Originally posted by DISKOQUEEN99:
Q: FOR THE SAKE OF YOUR CHILDREN (IF YOU HAVE THEM)?this is the worst excuse for staying. sticking around in a bad relationship only teaches the kids to put up with bullsh*t and compromise their quality of life: agreeing to be miserable. instead, move on and pursue a healthy relationship with someone else: the child witnesses, first hand, how to have a healthy relationship.


Originally posted by DISKOQUEEN99:
Q: WOULD YOU STAY AND JUST GET SOMEBODY ON THE SIDE (OR CARE IF YOUR PARTNER GOT SOMEBODY ELSE?) this will surely lead to some type of drama and it is trecherous on the children's (if any) perception of interpersonal relationships.

bottom line: if you're single, do a good job of picking your mate BEFORE you tie the knot or conceive or both. looks are only one of the many criteria to concider. check for lack of sanity, love of drama, and need to be right. discuss your principals, goals, and timelines; make sure they are compatible with those of your potential partner. this should help to weed out the wrong ones for you.

[DISKOQUEEN99]

YOU SAID IT, SISTER.

[Big Paul Y'all!!]

Originally posted by DISKOQUEEN99:
YOU SAID IT, SISTER. youve been bored lately or youre going from disko queen to posting shit queen :D

[DISKOQUEEN99]

YOU LOVE ME ANYWAY, PAUL. DON'T WORRY ABOUT WHAT I'M DOING YOU JUST BETTER HAVE MY CDS. graemlins/tongueout.gif

(YOU KNOW I LOVE YOU, BP!!)

[Koffy Brown]

been there done that...the unhappily married thing that is...and my take is...

I'm responsible for my own happiness...

[nev m]

....get the hell outa Dodge!

[(Im)poster]

No offense, but I just realized that all caps really hurts my eyes. Couldn't even read the question. Sorry!