This is a disaster!

[Wild i]

Some years ago when I (and everyone else) first discovered Sade, I was a true fan. I listened to the group religiously. I also noticed that I was consistently blue. Since I had just returned to New York after a 10 year absence, I assumed it was the change that had me so out of sorts. When discussing it with a friend, she said "That's because you're always listening to Sade." I thought that was stupid, but I stopped listening and felt much better.

Okay, here's the disaster. I haven't been listening to house much in the last few months, just as a change of pace. Well, I was listening to some tapes over the weekend and was filled with such a feeling of melancholy. The years I was hanging in the clubs were some of the best of my life. I looked good, felt good, had a bit of change, lots of freedom, so on and so on. I have very found memories of club life. But now listening to house reminds me of how much I've lost over the years: fitness, freedom, financial stability, loved ones. Somewhere in the back of my mind all these losses rattle around and make me feel blue, even while I'm loving the music.

Now, how in the world am I supposed to deal with that? Has anyone else experienced anything similar? How do you deal with it?

[mdpm99]

> Follow your heart...........
>
> Two traveling angels
>
>
> Keep reading to the bottom of the page -- don't
> stop at the feet (You'll see).
> =====================================
>
> Two traveling angels stopped to spend the night
> in the home of a wealthy family.
>
>
> The family was rude and refused to let the angels
> stay in the mansion's guest room.
>
>
> Instead the angels were given a small space in
> the cold basement.
>
>
> As they made their bed on the hard floor, the
> older angel saw a hole in the wall and repaired
> it.
>
>
> When the younger angel asked why, the older angel
> replied,
>
>
> "Things aren't always what they seem."
>
>
> The next night the pair came to rest at the house
> of a very poor, but very hospitable farmer and his
> wife.
>
>
> After sharing what little food they had the couple
> let the angels sleep in their bed where they could
> have a good night's rest.
>
>
> When the sun came up the next morning the angels
> found the farmer and his wife in tears.
>
>
> Their only cow, whose milk had been their sole
> income, lay dead in the field.
>
>
> The younger angel was infuriated and asked the
> older angel how could you have let this happen?
>
>
> The first man had everything, yet you helped him,
> she accused.
>
>
> The second family had little but was willing to
> share everything, and you let the cow die.
>
>
> "Things aren't always what they seem," the older
> angel replied.
>
>
> "When we stayed in the basement of the mansion, I
> noticed there was gold stored in that hole in the
> wall.
>
>
> Since the owner was so obsessed with greed and
> unwilling to share his good fortune, I sealed the
> wall so he wouldn't find it."
>
>
> "Then last night as we slept in the farmers bed,
> the angel of death came for his wife. I gave him
> the cow instead.
>
>
> Things aren't always what they seem."
>
>
> Sometimes that is exactly what happens when things
> don't turn out the way they should. If you have
> faith, you just need to trust that every out come
> is always to your advantage. You just might not
> know it until some time later...
> Oooo
> Some people ( )
> come into our lives ) /
> and quickly go.. (_ /
>
>
> oooO
> ( ) Some people
> \ ( become friends
> \_ ) and stay awhile...
>
>
> leaving beautiful Oooo
> footprints on our ( )
> hearts... ) /
> ( _/
>
>
> oooO
> ( ) and we are
> \ ( never
> \_ ) quite the same
> because we have
> made a good
> friend!!
>
>
> Yesterday is history.
> Tomorrow a mystery.
> Today is a gift.
> That's why it's called the present!
>
>
> I think this is special...live and savor every
> moment. This is not a dress rehearsal!
>
>
> (\ /)
> ( \ __ / )
> ( \()/ )
> ( / \ ) TAKE THIS LITTLE ANGEL
> ( / \/ \ ) AND KEEP HER CLOSE TO YOU
> / \ SHE IS YOUR GUARDIAN ANGEL
> ( ) SENT TO WATCH OVER YOU
> ____
>
>
> THIS IS A SPECIAL GUARDIAN ANGEL.... YOU MUST
> PASS THIS ON TO 5 PEOPLE WITHIN THE HOUR OF
> RECEIVING HER..AFTER YOU DO MAKE A WISH....
> IF YOU HAVE PASSED HER ON, YOUR WISH WILL
> BE GRANTED AND SHE WILL WATCH OVER YOU FOREVER....
> IF NOT.HER TEARS WILL FLOW AND NO WISHES
> WILL BE GRANTED....
>
>
> Now don't delete this message, because it comes
>
>
> from a very special angel.
>
>
> Right Now -
>
>
> -somebody is thinking of you.
> -somebody is caring about you.
> -somebody misses you
> -somebody wants to talk to you.
> -somebody wants to be with you.
> -somebody hopes you aren't in trouble.
> -somebody is thankful for the support you have
> provided.
> -somebody wants to hold your hand.
> -somebody hopes everything turns out all right.
> -somebody wants you to be happy.
> -somebody wants you to find him/her.
> -somebody is celebrating your successes.
> -somebody wants to give you a gift.
> -somebody thinks that you ARE a gift.
> -somebody loves you.
> -somebody admires your strength.
> -somebody is thinking of you and smiling.
> -somebody wants to be your shoulder to cry on.
>
>
>
> SOMEBODY NEEDS YOU TO SEND THIS TO THEM
> =====
> Never take away anyone's hope. That may be all
> they have.

[BHouse]

You know what? Sometimes when I leave a club after dancing all night, I think to myself "I'm not as young as I used to be!" Don't get me wrong I can still party and dance with the best of them. But now responsibilities like work, children, bills, baby mama drama and age have snuck up on me. Back in the days, all you had to worry about was looking good, smelling good and next major event. Where's to the good old days of HOUSE... graemlins/beerchug.gif http://deephousepage.com/smilies/club.gif

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[DJJM3.COM]

Originally posted by Wild i:
But now listening to house reminds me of how much I've lost over the years: fitness, freedom, financial stability, loved ones. Somewhere in the back of my mind all these losses rattle around and make me feel blue, even while I'm loving the music.

Now, how in the world am I supposed to deal with that? Has anyone else experienced anything similar? How do you deal with it? Focus on the positive.......What you feel is what everyone feels everyday....it just surfaces when you play house....Its normal to feel the pain of loss, but you must grow stonger from it. Acknowledge the loss/pain, but focus on positive and love again............

[Ken1015]

Yeah, what JM3 said. I don't party nearly as much as I used to because of the vicissitudes of life. However, I get a great feeling when I listen to house music, particularly music from '88 to '93 which is when my social life was in high gear.

First of all, house music is some of the most uplifting music this side of gospel. Secondly, I think back and fondly reminisce on what I have gained not lost. I feel so fortunate to have been a part of the movement in its infancy in Chicago. I experienced nightlife here as it will most likely never be experienced again. At least not on a regular basis. I walked into a club at 12:30 a.m. and didn't leave until 7:30 a.m. Chicagoans can't do that anymore. I'm one of few people you'll hear saying they wish they were older.

Be thankful that you were a part of the movement in NYC or wherever and contributed to it. You probably affected people you don't even know by providing them with fond "Remember that girl at the club?.." memories. You have so much more than you think. It is a normal human emotion and I do it myself ocassionally but the reality is that there are very few people in this country who should ever feel sorry for themselves. It's the old "half empty/half full" thing. Your glass is half full for having been a househead back in the day.

[eileen]

i know what you mean, totally. i went through a period of not listening to much house because it had a particular connection during some real glory days for me.

i think what revived it for me is moving to a new place (san fran) where i entered a different scene. so basically i got a new association with the same type of music, had different but really cool experiences with house music.

like, for example, house used to have a strong nighttime association for me, vs. like, dub reggae had a morning association. but now, i like house a lot more for during the daytime, and i listen to it a lot with my kids and when i'm driving since i drive a lot more now.

and it used to have an association with looking fabulous and glam when i went out to hear it at a club back east, but out here i started to prefer sneakers and funky t-shirts when i go out.

i think the more you are able to have positive new experiences and make new memories, you won't dwell so much on the "old"... smile.gif

-wicked witch of the west

[Friday]

Originally posted by david mancuso:
Yesterday is history.
Tomorrow a mystery.
Today is a gift.
That's why it's called the present!
I had been forgetting this for the past few days. Thanks David. smile.gif

[ July 22, 2003, 03:54 PM: Message edited by: gf ]

[Tee Cee 13]

Hey wildi it's okay just do you.... this is not a disaster. You wanna know what a disaster is just tune in to the T.V. SEE ALL THAT DISASTER GOING ON THAT'S DISASTER.....