More black women consider 'dating out'

**chldfknungrnd764** · 08-07-2007, 06:50 PM

If they want to leave let them go, there's plenty of hotness to go around!

Don't let the door hit ya in the "badonkadonk" on your way out!

**DaveR** · 08-07-2007, 08:33 PM

Originally Posted by Dj Izm

... I've heard a white comedian remark that he doesn't mind black men dating white women because we take the ugly ones off their (white men) hands! ...

I think I saw the same comedian, bout 15 years ago ...

**Leslie** · 08-07-2007, 08:37 PM

Originally Posted by DaveR

I think I saw the same comedian, bout 15 years ago ...

I'mm leave it 'lone....even though it's killing me....

**chldfknungrnd764** · 08-07-2007, 08:39 PM

There's plenty of good sistas, not worried about the small exodus!

**sstv3** · 08-07-2007, 08:45 PM

Too many sisters looking for prince charming. Mr. perfect looks white to them.

**chldfknungrnd764** · 08-07-2007, 08:58 PM

Originally Posted by sstv3

Too many sisters looking for prince charming. Mr. perfect looks white to them.

Only in a Walt Disney movie.

**Dj Izm** · 08-08-2007, 12:05 AM

Originally Posted by chldfknungrnd764

Only in a Walt Disney movie.

Basically!!!

And Yo, I'm digging the Letterman avatar!! That was the man back in the day!!! It's funny how he always had just the right letter for the job :-)

**NakedAge** · 08-08-2007, 01:16 AM

Originally Posted by Moksha

Right... 'cause Australia is really well known for being free of racists

Do you even understand what I said? Australia needs interacial marriges aswell, theres no doubt about it, but America's population is so huge, and because basically everything American touches everywhere else in the world, media and so forth, I can't say we know what it's like over there from a first hand perspective, but from what we see, the divide between blacks and whites in America is huge.

Maybe attitudes like yours is the reason why. Did you read my WHOLE post or just the parts you WANTED to read? I stand by my point, the whole WORLD should encourage interacial marrige, because that is a great way to break down racism. How are you going to be racist towards black people or white people if your in love with one?

Which is why, I'm saying, your all pouring over this article and questioning the political correctness of it all.. When, your not focussing on the beauty these marriages are creating. So far, the only person here I think has said anything of any worth, is Stan747.

Also, unless you've been to Australia, you can't speak from a first hand perspective either, and therefore instead of trying to point me out as a racist, by trying to portray my country as one, you should try focussing on this from an outside perspective as I've tried, and from an outside perspective, I feel its not about "why are black women going for white men, are black men losing their game" or what ever, for us, it's a beautiful example of love breaking the boundries of colour, and uniting black and white. If you can't see it as that, if you can only see it for the colour of it, and not the love of it, then theres something VERY wrong.

RX · 08-08-2007, 01:38 AM

but, for real, tho...who gives a fuck?
who gives a fuck about who fucks who especially when you have that much time on your hands to care?
the more happy people, the less crime, the less insurance premiums.

**NakedAge** · 08-08-2007, 01:43 AM

Exactly!

RX · 08-08-2007, 01:57 AM

on the other hand, we don't need to encourage interracial marriage, but pure happiness and love. i don't understand, for the life of me, why someone would be offended by another doing something that absolutely has nothing to do with them. i live in a place in which i encounter elder black brethren and sistren and they 90% of the time thank us for being a black married couple. i see where they are coming from. i see why lots of black men choose to marry white women, more specifically than mexican or native american. this place has a HUGE problem with ex-cons and ex-rehabbers and brothers on the run and they tend to choose women that won't question their lives. they also see that there are many white women who make it no secret that they want black men and nothing else. also, these black elders have been here for quite some time and would love to preserve the little tradition and neighborhoods still left in these parts. believe it or not, black cowboys are numerous in my 'hood...where there were once white ranchmen, there were black cowboys. these black men of the ranch still preserve their blackness, via family, traditions, etc.

the brothers and sisters i meet that are my peers are happy to see black couples but are definitely not turning up their noses at couples that are mixed AS LONG AS THOSE COUPLES ARE NOT TURNING THEIR NOSES UP AT US! that is a HUGE problem here. the mexicans are experiencing lots of their women marrying white men and they, for the most part, think it's for money and have no problem saying it. the white people marrying native americans still feel like they're gonna one day get that land (ha!!! along with some sort of spirituality as if only native americans have the key to enlightenment...you get a white man into yoga marrying a tribal woman and you can't tell that man SHIT, you hear me? they start charging $1000 for 2 day retreats to sedona) no matter how deeply involved and how loved you are by a native american, the land stays in the tribe - your native american spouse dies and you gotsta go!

i don't have a problem with interracial marriages and haven't for as long as i could remember. i feel there needs to be more support groups for their children. i feel there needs to be more support groups for the marriages to hold on and maintain in these times of hate and fear. i feel there needs to be more hair salons devoted to children who are products of mixed ethnicities. we ALL need help and strength.

love is the only thing that's gonna pull us out of all this junk i've been reading in this thread. love is the only thing that matters.

RX · 08-08-2007, 02:11 AM

and about all this "no one would step to a sista no matter how weathly she is if she's unattractive"...let me impart a bit of wisdom on you all - a lady could look like one of thee most unattractive women you've ever seen, but it is ALL in how she carries herself. there is not a woman on God's green earth that cannot get a man, and a decent one, a that. as a matter of fact, she can pretty much choose the mate she wants.

it's is all in how you carry yourself. men are simple creatures. if you are feeling you, so are they.

deny it if you want, but that is to be expected.

RX · 08-08-2007, 02:18 AM

Originally Posted by Dj Izm

Unfortunately, I can't speak from personal experience but there's just something about her. It's like when you look at Vivica. You know you're in for a nice ride. Sanaa has that quiet sensuality thing going on. Halle is just beautiful but I don't get a sense that she's very sexual (if that makes sense). Angelina Jolie...oozing sexuality. Sharon Stone (pre-Lesbian haircut)...DRIPPING WITH SEX!!!

Eh...what do I know?

you may be right...but the one thing i can say about these new-fangled black male celebs is that they're damn near asexual...they forgot to learn how to fuck...i mean, who in the hell are fighting over them and going ga-ga over them? they are are so fucking pretty...

you notice the celeb sistas are getting with NON-black male celebs...this is for a reason, kiddos...

**NakedAge** · 08-08-2007, 02:22 AM

I agree so much with what your saying, especially the part about the children, thing is right.

If you see in places like, Israel and Palestine, the children are raised by they're parents in ALOT of cases to hate eachother. Can you imagine if a palestinian girl went home one night and said "Mum meet my boyfriend" and it was a Jewish man?

By saying they should be encouraged, I don't mean in that if a white man loves a white girl he shouldn't marry her because shes white, but what I mean is that, if a black man and white women or vice versa are in love, than that love should be encouraged, which is exactly what you said, you worded what I was trying to say.

It's going to happen eventually.. Eventually the world will be so interbred that, the nationalities we know today and cultures etc, simply won't exist. Just like ancient roman and greek etc etc etc. And it's great, it's evolution but your not going to get to that next level of human evolution until rather than fight over differences we learn to use them to make us stronger as a species. Thats why it really ticks me off when this forum gets so political over issues like this, because, on the scheme of things the political agenda of these things is just immature childs play.

I love, when, like a muslim man and christian women want to hook up.. And the muslim church says "No cos he's not muslim or shes not" and the christian church says similar or the same thing.. and they just say "FUCK IT" and get married by the state, and gay marriges aswell.. I love when gays just go "fuck it, we're entitled to love eachother" Everyone in this world is entitled to love, and if you think they're only entitled to love their own.. Your going to perish in a rainbow of culture and faith. Variety is the spice of life.

RX · 08-08-2007, 02:39 AM

word...i feel you.
but, for some reason, i don't think traditions will ever dissipate. these are the essences for our pasts and, for the greater part, makes us who were are even if it's only a 1/4 or an 1/8. for instance, i would never want to live in a world in which traditional dances, dress, music, foods, etc. were no longer practiced because people have chosen to merge their cultures. this should be an even STRONGER reason to preserve these cultural and ethnic differences. just imagine how much more rich the lives of these children would be being brought up practicing and paying homage to many different cultures including the one that they are creating as they are living. one day they will have their own traditions to pass down that were created when they were growing up. but the only way they will know how to create those traditions is to follow the blueprint of their ancestors.

these are times in which marriages can have 2,3,4 or more different traditions incorporated into the actual ceremony and please and educate and bring together everyone and have a beautiful time, you know?

i've told my daughters from day one, don't EVER give up on love or happiness because the man you are interested in is not black. don't you EVER come to me stating that you do not want to date this particular gentleman because he is not black. that is a sure-fire way of ensuring your own unhappiness due to self-inflicted racism. this is not to say that i encourage interracial relationships. i encourage nothing of the sort. the ethnicities of the gentlemen they chose to love is none of my business. my encouragement means nothing in that area.

**NakedAge** · 08-08-2007, 02:57 AM

it'll be like how, we try to unravel the mysteries of ancient rome etc now. Like, my ancestors are Italian, and I'm sure we'd have traditions etc that date back to those days that haven't died yet, but you know what I mean yeah?

I wonder if it will ever get to a stage where, we're all just 1 colour of humanity and that, they dig up our bones and can say "ok he was a black man, the man beside him was white" and try to reconstruct our faces with technology how they do in documentaries now days when they find skulls etc in ancient graves.

See, but, when you merge cultures, you create new traditions. And it's beautiful and the old ways SHOULD be preserved also, your absolutely correct, how ever, say 2 cultures have a ceremony that fall on the same day, how do you celebrate two different things in one day? You figure it out of course, like, maybe visit both sides of that family, but the children grow up knowing BOTH, and when THEY have families, its quite possible they'd celebrate BOTH as one, which to me is beautiful. With musics etc now, we allready are inventing new traditions. Especially with the introduction of SUB cultures. Informal cultures that we choose that have no passports or national identities or colours etc that are identified via their culture, ie: Hip Hop Culture, Dance Music Culture, Rock Music Culture etc etc. New traditions form out of THOSE traditions also, and often, you'll find people from 2 different tradional/national backgrounds who've met via the same Sub culture, and fallen in love, and because of that, the traditions of that SUB culture, become their CULTURE. eg: Say you meet a beautiful girl opposite colour to you at a house music picnic, you fall in love, get married, have a black and white child, and every year, it becomes tradition to go to that house music picnic where you met. And the child grows up knowing that as a family tradition.

Its just really sad, that, people have this mentality of, I guess the one I can relate to most in my own personal life and society I live in, is for example, the Italian/Australian girls here who want to marry good Italian/Australian men, who will date arabic or afrikan men for so long only to dump them and come running to the Italian boys saying "he wasn't Italian, so I knew I wasn't going to marry him so it was just for a bit of fun" just really shits me. The whole "bring home a nice Italian girl to mumma, from a good family" basically, they want replicas of themselves, fuck that. I like diversity.

RX · 08-08-2007, 03:42 AM

i absolutely LOVE diversity...i live for it...i cannot say that i have chosen to be much diverse in my mate of choice, but i can tell you that my life and the way i live, think, aspire and dream is totally different from his. i would never want the world to become one culture. i think that has a lot to do with being black. for some (according to others who have no idea why) God-awful reason, we actually love being black. we've practically created america. we are fun, exciting, intense, boring, regular, bland, brilliant, genius, crafty...and we have a knack of making useful treasures out of horrific garbage. never would i want that essence to be destroyed.

what i do love is your example of raising a child and a house picnic serving as her family tradition. italian/american/ukranian/british...these will become mere historical dust. checking "white/black/hispanic/asian" on a census will be gone given 5-10 years from now. the only things that will remain are those traditions that bring forth growth and properity, love and unification, fun and happiness. but we must be strong. and we must persevere for another 25 or so generations so that all the ills of slavery and war and "the bush regime" has become extinct and we can no longer feel we have to be guilty for something our ancestors did, yet feel proud that we've survived in spite of what our ancestors did to be able to love who we want.

i have yet to travel overseas. i do plan on it very soon. i hope to stay up hours on end have these type of discussions over great food, drink and people.

**NakedAge** · 08-08-2007, 04:56 AM

yeah you'll find it here.

by one culture, I mean, a humanity, of cultures I guess... not 1 tradition as such, more so a recognition where by, we're all just human. And don't need to clasify ourselves according to borders, thus, we won't need passports etc etc etc, and, the people in one country are as rich as the people in the next, and can all like, live under 1 flag but many traditions. A world with out borders so to speak. It's all politics.

Politics and religion rape life.

**ngeso** · 08-08-2007, 06:59 AM

You two need to step back from the pipe, now!

**BrazenMuse** · 08-08-2007, 07:01 AM

RX...it's wonderful to see you back here...your posts are always good ones!!!

Naked Age, I like this line...interesting indeed:

Politics and religion rape life.

**Leslie** · 08-08-2007, 08:47 PM

Originally Posted by RX

you may be right...but the one thing i can say about these new-fangled black male celebs is that they're damn near asexual...they forgot to learn how to fuck...i mean, who in the hell are fighting over them and going ga-ga over them? they are are so fucking pretty...

you notice the celeb sistas are getting with NON-black male celebs...this is for a reason, kiddos...

I like to jump up out my chair and start testifying behind the truth a Sista done laid down right here! A bunch of lil bitches! Where are the MEN?!