Ever get the feeling you're just not good enough?

[jimmymack-2000]

Ever look around at your peer group and go, "Damn, there's some smart mahfahckas out here - what am I doing?"

I think I'm having a major episode of depression right now - the weather sucks, I work at home with no human interaction, I'm having a hard time getting paid by clients/suppliers...

On one hand, I look at all these wunderkinds 5 years or more younger than me, who have started their own firm and are all over the Internet, being interviewed on blogs, speaking at conferences, etc., and I think "I wish I was like that - successful, high-profile...all my troubles would go away".

On the other hand, I love my family. I don't spend enough time with them as it is - I don't want to be one of these people that can't turn the work off (it's already pretty bad: up at 7 a.m., check emails and write a few, take my daughter to school, get back home and work straight until 5:30 or 6:00, eat dinner with the family, then back to work until 9-10 p.m.).

I truly think this modern lifestyle is killing us. How do you find enough space to have a life without the business world thinking you're slacking?

Rant off...

[Bill Blake]

Don’t worry, all those wunderkinds are just as miserable as you, and likely even more so.

Get a good book, go to a pub, and have a pint or two every now or then.

And for Christ's sake stop confusing sucess with intellegence!

[Doug]

Ever look around at your peer group and go, "Damn, there's some smart mahfahckas out here - what am I doing?"

That's at least a small part of what prompted me to go to law school. I started feeling like I was slacker and hadn't lived up to my potential.

[Bill Blake]

I started feeling like I was slacker and hadn't lived up to my potential.

Ha ha, and you still ain't!

[MYOR]

Yes..

I need to do more....

[Monny JcIntosh]

Definitely. It's worse now that I have a child. (And am spending each day in the library until 8pm!)

[Bill Blake]

Definitely. It's worse now that I have a child. (And am spending each day in the library until 8pm!)

But see that's just it: I'd KILL to be spending time at the library till 8 instead of the dead job.

[jimmymack-2000]

Definitely. It's worse now that I have a child. (And am spending each day in the library until 8pm!)

Having a child definitely changes things up a bit. I hate going to bed at night knowing I spent all of 30 minutes with her today. That's a lot of lost opportunity, IMHO. I wonder if it's all worth it?

Thanks everyone for the feedback. I've thought about going back to school, but it would have to be part-time: my spouse is just starting a new career, and can't support us both. And, we're just emerging from debt now - can't go back in....

[sn]

Ever look around at your peer group and go, "Damn, there's some smart mahfahckas out here - what am I doing?"

I think I'm having a major episode of depression right now - the weather sucks, I work at home with no human interaction, I'm having a hard time getting paid by clients/suppliers...

On one hand, I look at all these wunderkinds 5 years or more younger than me, who have started their own firm and are all over the Internet, being interviewed on blogs, speaking at conferences, etc., and I think "I wish I was like that - successful, high-profile...all my troubles would go away".

On the other hand, I love my family. I don't spend enough time with them as it is - I don't want to be one of these people that can't turn the work off (it's already pretty bad: up at 7 a.m., check emails and write a few, take my daughter to school, get back home and work straight until 5:30 or 6:00, eat dinner with the family, then back to work until 9-10 p.m.).

I truly think this modern lifestyle is killing us. How do you find enough space to have a life without the business world thinking you're slacking?

Rant off...

What's amazing is..I look at you and I feel like I am slacking! Now the cold weather will put you in a depressing fog. But in a couple of months, it will be springtime again.

[TAC]

No.

[kara]

do what i do! surround yourself with burnouts and underachievers, so you end up feeling real good about yourself



but seriously, you need perspective. get out of the house and smell the roses. volunteer. it's not about what everyeone else is doing, it's about what you do in this life. be as important and as great as you want to be. period. it's not a competition. it's not about others finding you important, it's about you doing what you think is important.

[KBig]

Nope... I suffer from great self esteem.

And my profession doesnt define WHO I AM.


Im a friggn wizkid ! but only I know it

[TAC]

Nope... I suffer from great self esteem.

And my profession doesnt define WHO I AM.


Im a friggn wizkid ! but only I know it

Dang, help the kid out would ya!!!

[Suspended]

And for Christ's sake stop confusing sucess with intellegence!

...and happiness. Few people I know are happy and successful. People don't realise that you have to work at happiness too.

The Grand essentials of happiness are: something to do, something to love, and something to hope for. Happiness belongs to the self-sufficient. Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.

[Phyllis Hyman Cherry]

With all due respect JimmyMack you are coming accross as Pathetic.Life is to short to dwell and live in self doubt and misery.Understand that you created the situation you are in and you have the power to get out of it.Its time to get out of the Fetal Position and make some moves.People have done far more with far less than you.Peace....

[Doug]

Ha ha, and you still ain't!

Meaning that there's even more room to distance myself from you intellectually...bitch.

[DJ Loka]

Ever look around at your peer group and go, "Damn, there's some smart mahfahckas out here - what am I doing?"

I think I'm having a major episode of depression right now - the weather sucks, I work at home with no human interaction, I'm having a hard time getting paid by clients/suppliers...

On one hand, I look at all these wunderkinds 5 years or more younger than me, who have started their own firm and are all over the Internet, being interviewed on blogs, speaking at conferences, etc., and I think "I wish I was like that - successful, high-profile...all my troubles would go away".

On the other hand, I love my family. I don't spend enough time with them as it is - I don't want to be one of these people that can't turn the work off (it's already pretty bad: up at 7 a.m., check emails and write a few, take my daughter to school, get back home and work straight until 5:30 or 6:00, eat dinner with the family, then back to work until 9-10 p.m.).

I truly think this modern lifestyle is killing us. How do you find enough space to have a life without the business world thinking you're slacking?

Rant off...

i work from home and use these boards to give me the interaction i need to stay connected to people. i see clients, but it's not the same as a measured dialogue one has with clients vs. just hanging peeps.

you mentioned your spouse starting a new career...

- we're in a similar situation, and just remember that everything is temporary...you mentioned getting out of debt, that's and AWESOME accomplishment right now! we just did that too, and right now you just need to realize you're in a different phase of your life that requires different priorities..

you're in a building phase, and that doesnt mean you're slacking, it means you're laying the foundation for the next level...

it can be repetitous and not the most exciting thing thing, but remember it's temporary and necessary for the stability of your family, and THAT is something the wunderkinds can't manage until they burn out and start wondering 'is this all there is???' lolol

you're actually in a great place, and you're not alone - hang in there

[Bill Blake]

Meaning that there's even more room to distance myself from you intellectually...bitch.

O trust you should, with what I’ve been reading, all of these folk so way smarter and educated than me, toppled with my guilt that I’m not learning enough, I’m a bonafide retard.

[Suspended]

Also, working from home may have its cons....but don't forget the bitchin' and politics that you're avoiding by not being in a workplace. Most people I know with a 9to5 hate the people they work with and can't call their job 'human interaction.' Nothing makes you feel more lonely than sitting with a bunch of people you have little in common with and can do nothing about it.

Chin up...you've just got the temporary blues.

[MYOR]

Having a child definitely changes things up a bit. I hate going to bed at night knowing I spent all of 30 minutes with her today. That's a lot of lost opportunity, IMHO. I wonder if it's all worth it?

Thanks everyone for the feedback. I've thought about going back to school, but it would have to be part-time: my spouse is just starting a new career, and can't support us both. And, we're just emerging from debt now - can't go back in....

I alway say I rather make less money and spend more time with my child.. As it is I know I'm missing many important things b/c I'm working..

Actually I alway rather make less money and have more time for myself.. Shit I cant take it with me when I die..

[Doug]

O trust you should, with what I’ve been reading, all of these folk so way smarter and educated than me, toppled with my guilt that I’m not learning enough, I’m a bonafide retard.

hahahaha

[mhd]

spend more time with your kid, thats the best investment you could ever make

[upliftdisco365]

Nope... I suffer from great self esteem.

Same here. I live with the perpetual understanding that I am the shit. I'm sure that detracts from my local popularity to some extent, because you've got a lot of nerve shining and knowing that you shine all out in the open. Besides, local popularity ain't feeding me, getting me off or paying for shit.

It begins with you. What are you doing to be where you want to be? Honestly. How's what you're doing working out for you? How willing are you to take a long, honest look at how you do things and begin to do them differently? Hard sincere effort in an efficient method always wins.

Man, fuck feeling not good enough, be better, work harder and smarter and know with certainty that you are a star.

[TAC]

YOU GOT'S TA FEEEEEEEL IT MAN!!!!

[MYOR]

pfft it doesnt matter if you are the shit and still not spending time with your family..