My main man is 2 yrs old already...

[darrow]

It won't fit

Nooo...not for me.

Well...maybe me too.

[DeesKo]

Yeah, "the end" has been coming for quite some time now starting as early as August 2008. Typically, there is a Review Hearing every 6 months where DSS and The Court review the case. Specifically, they review the parents progress/compliance with the plan set before them. As of this February, the case will have gone well past the upper State and Federal limits for the number of months that Ty can be in an out-of-home placement. If DSS and/or The Court decides that the parents continue to not make progress by February, the plan for Ty will change to adoption. That change though will likely bring about at least one appeal. This thing could drag out until he turns 4.

Man oh man..... :(

My hope is that this case comes to a close soon before Ty gets too old - old enough to remember things prior to becoming 3 1/2 or 4 years old. I'm a bit ambivalent about whether I want Ty to remember us or not, if he returns to his parents. Though the thought is extremely painful, I lean towards wanting him to not remember us. I think to do so would make things even more confusing for him.

...and this is why you are such a good father figure. The willingness to accept and take on personal suffering/hardship for the good of your child.

Yes, I think the judge's decision is an extremely difficult one. The Court and State must allow some level of parental rights and autonomy but it also is charged with protecting children and considering the best interests of those children. I'm witnessing first-hand how at-odds parents' rights and children's best interests can be.

Are the Ty's biological parents actually trying to get their shit together and just struggling to do so, or are they half-assing, not really changing anything but still fighting for custody out of some sense of "ownership" ?

Peace

[DeesKo]

Nooo...not for me.

Well...maybe me too.

hahahaahah I can't remember where we got it. I'll doublecheck the tag when I get home and let you know.

[darrow]

Are the Ty's biological parents actually trying to get their shit together and just struggling to do so, or are they half-assing, not really changing anything but still fighting for custody out of some sense of "ownership" ?

I wonder this almost daily.

[bkny11203]

Congrats dude. My son just turned 12 back in Dec, and I swear I can't believe it. I took him and a couple of his boys to Dave & Busters for his bday, and I just watched them in awe. it seemed like it was just yesterday that his was just my little dude running around with a blanket around his neck like a cape. Now he's in JR High. Enjoy this gift of parenthood people. It's the best thing in the world.

[DeesKo]

I wonder this almost daily.

:(


if only they knew....