Long story short and a short story even shorter. My manager who i am really cool with pulled me into the office because this girl who i work with told him i dont speak to her. I do speak to her but only if it's work related, she is a trouble maker. She has gone off on several facebook tirades about us being fake and phony in the department. Recently she went off again and i asked her on facebook if she was okay. Chick went bonkers, called me several expletives and said i and a few other coworkers are gonna be sorry when she goes off at work. I could have easily taken this to Hr as a threat i didnt because i think she is bipolar. She comes to me the other day because i dont say anything to this person unless its work related. She goes" i was going through something thats why i went off and so and so told me you said xy and Z. I told her she has my number, my email address and she knows where i live if she felt that way she could have contacted instead of going the facebook route. I made it clear in a nice way if thats possible that i expect us to remain professional but as far as a friendship i dont think its appropriate to engage in that at this moment.
The old Phc would have engaged back and forth with this person and it would have gotten ugly on facebook. I really just ignore her, when other people speak about her bad or good i just remove myself. I think what mom said is true when you ignore people it hurts them more.