Creflo Dollar arrested for assaulting his daughter.......

[Fletch]

1. I have to ask parents of teenagers (or people who have parented teenagers).......

What do you do in a situation like this, if a teen is so bent on doing what he/she wants,
or is in in straight up-rebellion mode? How do you/how did y'all handle it?

Flip side.....

2. Did anyone feel, when you were teens, that your parents were unreasonable and never
understood where you came from? Do you, as an adult, still feel this way about your upbringing
or did that mindset change for whatever reason (e.g.: found out mom was right or became a parent)?


http://www.11alive.com/News/Crime/24...lting-daughter

[bomb cola]

This would be Assault 2-DV in Washington. That's a felony.

[DodgeDanger]

My folks would have damn near kilt my ass for that shit!!

[Mr.I]

He sure don't look too happy..

[TAB.]

15's an iffy age. Growing up in my household, my moms kicked anybody who acted fool, out on their ass at 16 and up. LOL . If you were too old to receive physical punishment, yet too 'grown' for your own good, 'you gots to go'. My sisters raised their kids the same way- all their kids all bolted the nest by 17. I'm trying hard as I can to instill respect for the home, in my young kids so we don't go that route.

[Detroitbootybass]

1. I have to ask parents of teenagers (or people who have parented teenagers).......

What do you do in a situation like this, if a teen is so bent on doing what he/she wants,
or is in in straight up-rebellion mode? How do you/how did y'all handle it?

Flip side.....

2. Did anyone feel, when you were teens, that your parents were unreasonable and never
understood where you came from? Do you, as an adult, still feel this way about your upbringing
or did that mindset change for whatever reason (e.g.: found out mom was right or became a parent)?


http://www.11alive.com/News/Crime/24...lting-daughter

My son will be turning 17 this year, so I guess I'm qualified.


1.) One can try talking to their child in a less emotional way (and after a cooling down period so nobody flies off the handle). Of course, a person that is hell-bent on doing what they want would be quite a bit less likely to listen to reasoning. If they left the house over the parent's wishes, then maybe the local police could be called if it's after curfew. Another option would be to go to this party to retrieve the child. No kid wants to see their parent/parents show up at a peer event. The embarrassment alone might be enough to keep the child from doing that again (if they believe that the parents will show up each and every time).

Regardless of what one could do, one thing they should never do is what Mr. Dollar (I can't believe that I typed that) did: choked her; threw her to the ground; punched her; hit her with any object (and shoe in this case).


2.) Yes, my parents were unreasonable and never understood me. They still don't and I have never forgotten or forgiven. It has caused me to do a full 180 in regards to the parenting style that I was exposed to (most people just blindly do what their parents did without forethought). I will not repeat what they did to me with my own son.

[soulman]

you know I read this and thought...this is ridiculous......my parents whipped me until i got to be a certain age maybe 13 or 14) and then as long as I stayed resectful there was never a problem....with my son, who is 17 now, we had a few issues when he hit his teens and had 2 fights...the first hurt me so bad I cried that it even went there...he was going through "smelling himself" as my dad called it. sorry got to go will finish this later

[mhd]

gotta keep your cool

[Detroitbootybass]

gotta keep your cool

That's what it boils down to.

[Detroitbootybass]

"smelling himself"

What's that mean? This is a term that I'm completely unaware of.

[Mr.I]

What's that mean? This is a term that I'm completely unaware of.

think his shit don't stink .. cocky..

[Detroitbootybass]

think his shit don't stink .. cocky..

Ahhhh... thanks!

I was totally stumped as to what it could be. I actually considered the option that he was smelling his armpits! LOL

[mhd]

Ahhhh... thanks!

I was totally stumped as to what it could be. I actually considered the option that he was smelling his armpits! LOL

that's actually correct, as a kid matures, gets more hair, bigger, stronger, hormoes raging and body odor increases as well, hence....

[Daniel, Grand Duke of Stony Island]

You better raise your kids and not worry about getting arrested. Creflo handled his as best he could. He'll get out. And his kids will know better.

Cops coming to the house is the folks next door raising your kids. Better raise your own fuckin' kids. Or be prepared to attend their trials and funerals. Cops won't help you with that, thus you better not care what happens when they're called for you doing what you're inspired to do. Those fuckers have no problems SHOOTING black children who haven't been raised by the Creflos of the world, now do they?

My eldest is 24. My youngest is 18. I have you assholes beat by three adult children and two grandchildren. I know of what I speak. Fuck the cops.

[mhd]

You better raise your kids and not worry about getting arrested. Creflo handled his as best he could. He'll get out. And his kids will know better.

Cops coming to the house is the folks next door raising your kids. Better raise your own fuckin' kids. Or be prepared to attend their trials and funerals. Cops won't help you with that, thus you better not care what happens when they're called for you doing what you're inspired to do. Those fuckers have no problems SHOOTING black children who haven't been raised by the Creflos of the world, now do they?

My eldest is 24. My youngest is 18. I have you assholes beat by three adult children and two grandchildren. I know of what I speak. Fuck the cops.

what do you make of the older sister? first she covers up then she flips right on the spot, unreal, at that point it wasn't even about protecting her sister from her dad but protecting her father from a georgia cop and she got it wrong

[soulman]

by "smelling himself" i meant as the poster indicated...testing the boundaries....As I had challenged my dad when I was a teen...funny thing is my mom iced that shit real quick..."nigga who you talking too" and that was the end of that....after my son and I had our couple of run ins we were cool after that and are still cool. after the second time, i swore i would never hit him again but he had raised up on me and started using language and cussing at me like i was some cat on the street. I was definitely not having that. I feel that if he would do that to his own father...who was not abusive or anything he would do that to someone in authority who was trying to help him develop and he got pissed because things were not going his way. since that time we have had heated discussions as men do but we are very respectful of each other...and let not get it twisted, I am not your frind, your boy, your road dawg or any or that modern day crap - I am your dad and I expect the respect and courtesy that is due me. In turn I will treat you as my son with that same respect, courtesy and will continue to provide and bethere for you no matter what. If she had raise up on me...I would have tried to find out why....mind you briefly...and then commenced to whippin that azz too....

[Daniel, Grand Duke of Stony Island]

what do you make of the older sister? first she covers up then she flips right on the spot, unreal, at that point it wasn't even about protecting her sister from her dad but protecting her father from a georgia cop and she got it wrong

Didnt know about the elder daughter. All I know is, if the one who got broke down lived to tell the tale to the cops, that tells you something right there. Family can be an ugly, dirty business. So many of these kids are hip to the world as it is today. A young black woman calling the law on her pops - but is clearly coherent enough to state her own case to the cops after the incident - is, in our culture, potentially some bullshit. I know it's harsh and shameful to state. Still, it happens. "Aw naw...I'm grown...you ain't gonna hit me...let me dial 911..."

Happens every day. Black parenting is complicated enough without the cops coming to your house and leading you out in handcuffs, making you do the perp walk 'n shit. She's 15. If Creflo puts her saditty-ass out, he's liable for child endangerment and abandonment. If he lets her stay but doesn't handle his, he's a weak, eneffectual parent. Then shit really starts.

Occam's Razor, my man. Perhaps it's as simple as the little heffa needed a frickin' spanking.

Black parenting is complicated enough without a father or mother having to FEAR the involvement of the cops when attempting to deal with the realities of shepherding at risk kids in this weird world. And all black kids are at risk in this world, man. Creflo gets lead out his own house and makes national news. Casey Anthony could've cooked and eaten her daughter, same outcome would've happened, as in SCOTT FREE.

Just sayin'. We don't parent our kids, we're wrong. We parent our kids, we're wrong. Just because someone made the way we deal with our kids illegal without providing alternatives doesn't mean they know better.

[Fletch]

As a father of a a small child, I now always wonder about what happens when those teenage years come. I know I have some time to think about it, but I do understand that teen time will come quicker than I think!

Having said that, I always would get a laugh when I would pop in the Richard Pryor tape and hear him talk about his relationship with his father while Rich was young ("What that clock say?....The clock, mutha*****, what the clock say?....bring yo ass home by 11!"). But I do understand, in reality, that teen parenting is a tough job, and is something I will have to go through like everyone else! Peace!

[The Good Reverend Rollo Goodlove]

gotta keep your cool

I'm sayin. Choking and punching your 15 year old daughter? I couldn't imagine doing that.

[Fletch]

It is very unfortunate that things went as far as they did!

[Monny JcIntosh]

But I do understand, in reality, that teen parenting is a tough job, and is something I will have to go through like everyone else! Peace!

My eldest daughter is bad enough approaching five. I'm half dreading what she's going to be like approaching fifteen!

[JR JAM]

Well I have two teenage daughters 15 and 16 and the youngest is going through this 'I'm entitled to everything and anything phase ' right now.

[chldfknungrnd764]

Well I have two teenage daughters 15 and 16 and the youngest is going through this 'I'm entitled to everything and anything phase ' right now.

Good luck!!!

[Fletch]

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[BHouse]

My 13yr old son has been acting up in school since I left Chicago. He is a star wrestler but his grades have slipped. I have talked to my ex-wife about taking him out of wrestling, but she hasn't done it. To make a long story short, I been getting in his ass over the phone about his grades. Talking to his teachers, conference calls at 6am in morning, the whole nine. This grades picked up and made the honor roll twice. I flew back home a couple of weeks ago and he call himself showing some of his wrestling moves. He jumps on my back and tries to put me in sleeper hold. Didn't realize how stronger the lil' negro has gotten. I immediately reached behind me and grabbed his nutsack and squeezed the shit out of them. I told him no matter how old, big, stronger he gets he will never never ever ever eva eva eva eva beat me.