I was feeling quite horny today so I was not inclined to get to serious about the Freaky Friday thread and actually tried to just have fun with it - which I must confess I did. Sex is pleasurable and a really great way to be close to another human being.
I think a significant part of the issue with guys posting next to nude pics of females, drooling and saying stupid things about them & their bodies is violence against women by men. And sex (and sexual attraction) is a major of vehicle of the violence.
When a man is attracted to a woman, society has all kinds of slack for men's behavior whether it is rational or not.
So, I would argue that is part of the reason why many women on the board feel uncomfortable when the guys talk about women like objects, toys, less than fully human, etc.
I am not saying that guys on the board have bad intentions - I'm pretty clear they don't in the case of the Freaky Friday thread, but what most guys don't realize is the connection between this behavior and the violence that is happening to women all the time.
1. Man makes a comment about a woman's looks as she walks by. When she doesn't respond with immediate adoring appreciation she's a BITCH or suddenly NOT ALL THAT! Also, often the guys behavior becomes angry and even aggressive.
2. Boyfriend/Husband/Date wants to have sex. Female does not... man may beg, become angry, belligerent, and sometimes may decide to "take things into his own hands" literally and figuratively.
Am I off base?
This is the common stuff that happens to women all of the time and I haven't even started to talk about the abuse, assaults, and rapes that make it into the news every day.
SO, I think we all need to keep things in perspective, b/c no one is being abused, assaulted, or raped on this board, but guys, you need to be aware, thoughtful, and a bit more sensitive. When women make sexual comments about men, do you fear being raped or physically overpowered against your will? Most likely not.
Believe me, it is still possible to have fun. When it all boils down, women love sex too. [img]graemlins/1luvu.gif[/img]
[ January 11, 2004, 12:17 PM: Message edited by: i.be.me ]