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Koffy Brown
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How approachable are you? Do you like for women to approach you or do you prefer to do the approaching? My girlfriends are getting tired of me being so passive when it comes to socializing with the opposite sex. Before I jump out there and start being a little more assertive when I see someone I’m feeling, I want to know do you prefer to be approached or be the approachee…
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Martin Red
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In the past it depending on location.
Some places have really snooty women.
Some places have really friendly woman.
That's about it really. ![[Big Grin]](biggrin.gif)
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Koffy Brown
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Originally posted by Martin Red:
In the past it depending on location.
Some places have really snooty women.
Some places have really friendly woman.
That's about it really.
So Martin, do you prefer to do the approaching or be approached?
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Hk
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Both....
That too passive stuff makes one look like bambi...
I like-it when a sista macks on me--the element
of surprise brings ones true nature out....(if the foresaid woman is tight!..she ultimately gets pounced on....in a good way of course)....
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richierich
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I like both and can't honestly say that I prefer one over the other. The only time that I might not approach her is if she's with a group of girls, this tends to make me feel like I'm on the spot and I feel a little uncomfortable.
Peace
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Martin Red
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Originally posted by Ashaki:
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Originally posted by Martin Red:
In the past it depending on location.
Some places have really snooty women.
Some places have really friendly woman.
That's about it really.
So Martin, do you prefer to do the approaching or be approached?
The eyes give it all away in either direction.
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Dee-Dee Sheridan
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Originally posted by richierich:
The only time that I might not approach her is if she's with a group of girls, this tends to make me feel like I'm on the spot and I feel a little uncomfortable.
Peace
Hmmmmm interesting 
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lola desire
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fyi boys...
the women always approach. we just don't necessarilly throw out the first line. you may think you're doing the choosing, but the women who give you play have already chosen you before you've said word #1.
here's a tip. women who are attracted to you will move toward you. they may have been across the room, but if they like you they'll be dancing, standing, or positioning themselves in your area... so you can "just so happen to" notice them.
and please fellas, talk to the ladies that make eye contact with you and actually respond to you. not that it's impossible, but the woman you are trying to meet probably is NOT conducting a structual engineering inspection of the room you're in, she's more likely rolling her eyes. ![[Roll Eyes]](rolleyes.gif)
the best relationships (casual or committed) spring from mutual interest  , not one-sided obsession ![[Hail]](hail.gif) or lust  .
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Koffy Brown
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Originally posted by Hk:
Both....
That too passive stuff makes one look like bambi...
I like-it when a sista macks on me--the element
of surprise brings ones true nature out....(if the foresaid woman is tight!..she ultimately gets pounced on....in a good way of course)....
Okay...I always tell my girls like, I'm bout to holla at him...but I never can...okay good example..We're out drinking blah blah blah...brother comes in that I think is finnne as hell...I'm like I gotta say something to him to my girls...he walks pass and I'm like in his ear "you are a beautiful black man" and this brother gets a smile so damn big right, and he's caught off guard but hyped and he says.."you are beautiful as well" I'm like thank you...and he buys me a drink and that was basically it. So whenever we'd see each other out afterwards, we always made the eye contact and smiles..and I feel like he's waiting on me to strike up the convo...I'on know... ![[mecry]](graemlins/mecry.gif)
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richierich
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Originally posted by Dee-Dee Sheridan:
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Originally posted by richierich:
The only time that I might not approach her is if she's with a group of girls, this tends to make me feel like I'm on the spot and I feel a little uncomfortable.
Peace
Hmmmmm interesting
What???
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Dee-Dee Sheridan
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Originally posted by richierich:
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Originally posted by Dee-Dee Sheridan:
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Originally posted by richierich:
The only time that I might not approach her is if she's with a group of girls, this tends to make me feel like I'm on the spot and I feel a little uncomfortable.
Peace
Hmmmmm interesting
What???
Why are you uncomfortable? If your interested go for it.
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Dee-Dee Sheridan
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[ February 03, 2003, 01:22 PM: Message edited by: Dee-Dee Sheridan ]
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kara
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[QUOTE]Originally posted by lola desire:
[QB]fyi boys...
the women always approach. we just don't necessarilly throw out the first line. you may think you're doing the choosing, but the women who give you play have already chosen you before you've said word #1.
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ha! so true!
[ February 03, 2003, 01:23 PM: Message edited by: kara ]
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Mocambo
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Both
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Koffy Brown
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Originally posted by lola desire:
fyi boys...
the women always approach. we just don't necessarilly throw out the first line. you may think you're doing the choosing, but the women who give you play have already chosen you before you've said word #1.
here's a tip. women who are attracted to you will move toward you. they may have been across the room, but if they like you they'll be dancing, standing, or positioning themselves in your area... so you can "just so happen to" notice them.
and please fellas, talk to the ladies that make eye contact with you and actually respond to you. not that it's impossible, but the woman you are trying to meet probably is NOT conducting a structual engineering inspection of the room you're in, she's more likely rolling her eyes.
the best relationships (casual or committed) spring from mutual interest , not one-sided obsession or lust .
Whoo Sistah Friend you took a couple of them to school with this post..^5
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SHEIK YERBOUTI
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Originally posted by lola desire:
fyi boys...
the women always approach. we just don't necessarilly throw out the first line. you may think you're doing the choosing, but the women who give you play have already chosen you before you've said word #1.
here's a tip. women who are attracted to you will move toward you. they may have been across the room, but if they like you they'll be dancing, standing, or positioning themselves in your area... so you can "just so happen to" notice them.
and please fellas, talk to the ladies that make eye contact with you and actually respond to you. not that it's impossible, but the woman you are trying to meet probably is NOT conducting a structual engineering inspection of the room you're in, she's more likely rolling her eyes.
the best relationships (casual or committed) spring from mutual interest , not one-sided obsession or lust .
(furiously scribbling notes for future reference...) Damn it, where did I put my 3x5's?
[ February 03, 2003, 01:37 PM: Message edited by: toomuchtv ]
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Drrtynewyork
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Originally posted by Ashaki:
How approachable are you? Do you like for women to approach you or do you prefer to do the approaching? My girlfriends are getting tired of me being so passive when it comes to socializing with the opposite sex. Before I jump out there and start being a little more assertive when I see someone I’m feeling, I want to know do you prefer to be approached or be the approachee…
i think a girl should just give some eye contact and maybe even a smile then look away. if a guy doesnt get the hint after that then move to the next ![[Wink]](wink.gif)
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Koffy Brown
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Originally posted by DOUG GOMEZ:
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Originally posted by Ashaki:
How approachable are you? Do you like for women to approach you or do you prefer to do the approaching? My girlfriends are getting tired of me being so passive when it comes to socializing with the opposite sex. Before I jump out there and start being a little more assertive when I see someone I’m feeling, I want to know do you prefer to be approached or be the approachee…
i think a girl should just give some eye contact and maybe even a smile then look away. if a guy doesnt get the hint after that then move to the next
So don't buy him a drink or anything like that...see that's it I don't want to come off as aggressive...because I'm not, but I think I do need to be a little more assertive...far too many women and less too many men...I'm losing out...
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I like being approached.....sometimes I will do the approaching.........
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Drrtynewyork
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Originally posted by Ashaki:
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Originally posted by DOUG GOMEZ:
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Originally posted by Ashaki:
How approachable are you? Do you like for women to approach you or do you prefer to do the approaching? My girlfriends are getting tired of me being so passive when it comes to socializing with the opposite sex. Before I jump out there and start being a little more assertive when I see someone I’m feeling, I want to know do you prefer to be approached or be the approachee…
i think a girl should just give some eye contact and maybe even a smile then look away. if a guy doesnt get the hint after that then move to the next
So don't buy him a drink or anything like that...see that's it I don't want to come off as aggressive...because I'm not, but I think I do need to be a little more assertive...far too many women and less too many men...I'm losing out...
if you really want to get some cats attention , just send one of your girls to tell him "my friend thinks youre cute" LOL then when he looks give him a shy smile..let the man do the next move, if he likes u and is intereted you wont have to do much
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Hk
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I feel U Ashaki....
Peep! Just try to focus on being you.
Here's my thing, but do keep in mind I'm a weirdo(as the below example will illustrate)
Its very important to be you, not impulsive but real(and I aint talking about that Mass-MTV/Rapp City shit either). If you, in the above example, felt like giving the brotha a compliment...its cool....its U....(women on this angle are lynched by social customs.....)....
U have to be balanced, dont get me wrong...if you get the feel'n often, dont act on it ALL THE TIME(cuz balance is the key, with everything in life they say).
Had that been me, and this could be the dudes reaction to the above scenario, I might just not bite to see was she just complimenting me and leaving it at that....just being cool...or what...
Be ya self, but be balanced with it(ya dont sound like this is habit....so holla!)
Hk!
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Originally posted by DOUG GOMEZ:
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Originally posted by Ashaki:
How approachable are you? Do you like for women to approach you or do you prefer to do the approaching? My girlfriends are getting tired of me being so passive when it comes to socializing with the opposite sex. Before I jump out there and start being a little more assertive when I see someone I’m feeling, I want to know do you prefer to be approached or be the approachee…
i think a girl should just give some eye contact and maybe even a smile then look away. if a guy doesnt get the hint after that then move to the next
me...>  <...whoever. Sometimes I miss the boat COMPLETELY.
Maybe that's why I'm toomuchtv?
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Drrtynewyork
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Originally posted by toomuchtv:
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Originally posted by DOUG GOMEZ:
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Originally posted by Ashaki:
How approachable are you? Do you like for women to approach you or do you prefer to do the approaching? My girlfriends are getting tired of me being so passive when it comes to socializing with the opposite sex. Before I jump out there and start being a little more assertive when I see someone I’m feeling, I want to know do you prefer to be approached or be the approachee…
i think a girl should just give some eye contact and maybe even a smile then look away. if a guy doesnt get the hint after that then move to the next
me...> <...whoever. Sometimes I miss the boat COMPLETELY.
Maybe that's why I'm toomuchtv?
HAHA.. if a girl gives me a look , im in there baby! ![[Cool]](smokin.gif)
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Hk, just for the record, I march entirely to the beat of my own drum. I would never give a man or woman a compliment just for mere conversation. I only say things I mean and brother was absolutely beautiful to me… ![[Smile]](smile.gif)
[ February 03, 2003, 01:59 PM: Message edited by: Ashaki ]
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