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Soleful
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Hope these words help, if only just a bit. Her daily motivational messages are very soothing, inspiring and most of all healing. Peace n Blessings.
http://www.myspace.com/authenticspirit
Rise above it
When some particular difficulty has you feeling like you're surrounded, which way do you go? The best way to go is up. A powerful strategy for overcoming the challenges is to get yourself on top of them rather than in the midst of them.
So how do you do that? You have a powerful tool available to you. It's something you use all the time without even realizing it, something you've been using since you are a child. It's known as visualization. It can positively and definitively change your mind, your attitude, and your energy level. And by so doing it can change the reality of your life.
When you're deep within a difficult challenge, visualize yourself rising above it. Close your eyes, and see the challenge surrounding you. Imagine that it has color and texture. In your mind, give it a size and shape. Then, using the same power of imagination, see yourself rising above it, like a hot air balloon lifting off the ground and into the air.
Get high enough above it and you'll see a way out. Get high enough above it and you'll see what's beyond it. Imagine yourself high enough above that challenge and you'll know, with absolute certainty, that you have what it takes to emerge victorious.
Whatever challenge confronts you, give yourself some valuable perspective. In your mind, rise above it. And in your actions you'll find a way to make it through.
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May you live to be 100, and me 100 minus a day, so that I'll never know nice people like you have passed away ~ "The Chief Rocker" Frankie Crocker RIP
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AMc
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Originally posted by Tyler Durden:
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Originally posted by DJ Chuck P:
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Originally posted by Tyler Durden:
is a bitch. ![[Frown]](frown.gif)
it's also dangerous.....be careful
Told a friend of mine that I wanted to buy a gun with just one bullet. He began to laugh, but I half way serious.
Told many people "I want to be hit by a bus or something, but I don't want to jump in front of one."
Dude, 3 things - Time, Health, & Family (friends, acquaintances included)
Everything else other than those 3 things don't matter. Took me a long time to realize that a lot of shit in life is just not worthy of worry.
Listen to lots of music.
Watch some good comedy.
Concentrate on a hobby.
Hang out with elderly folks and listen to their stories.
Have fun with kids.
Run the 100 metre dash as fast as you can.
Write a screenplay!
Things will get better, as they always have. The good in this world outweighs the bad. You got one life to live - enjoy it as much as possible.
[ December 28, 2006, 04:14 PM: Message edited by: AMthems ]
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Disco Diva
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Originally posted by Free Russell:
-..... listen to some HOUSE.
Etc... ![[grinyes]](graemlins/grinyes.gif) ![[cheers]](graemlins/beerchug.gif)
This has helped me on a number of occassions among other soothing genres of music.
Know this too shall pass and if it is too overwhelming call one of those numbers Deep provided. Please just don't be too prideful to reach out. And also you have DHP..use it!!!!!!!!!!! ![[bighug]](graemlins/bighug.gif)
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It's never been about you or I only the music matters in the end!!!
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Free Russell
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Thank you for all your replies, PM's, emails and phone calls. I really do appreciate all the words of advice. I am definitely going thru some trials and tribulations right now. This is the lowest I have been in close to 10yrs. I thought today would be a better day, but it isn't.
Then DO, don't just talk. Act on the advice and DO.
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AMc
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Originally posted by Tyler Durden:
Thank you for all your replies, PM's, emails and phone calls. I really do appreciate all the words of advice. I am definitely going thru some trials and tribulations right now. This is the lowest I have been in close to 10yrs. I thought today would be a better day, but it isn't.
Have been there many times on Christmas. This year, I was physically ill on xmas day. Damn! Went to 3 family outings - was a long & rough day.
Owe it to yourself to feel great on Christmas next year.
Still got NYE/Day. Make the most of it. The holidays aren't over yet.
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KBig
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MUAH!!! ![[kiss]](graemlins/remybussi.gif)
all Imma say is there are plenty of people for you to reach out to.
We are HERE. (if you need us)
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soulman
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Yeah I hear ya...reading your post and the replies made me think about a post on here a few days ago
Here are some key points:
7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.
12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.
16. Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
33. Believe in miracles
45. The best is yet to come.
50. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift.
38. Read the Psalms. They cover every human emotion.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
42. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
And last but certainly not least...
27. Always choose life.
Keep your head up. The only thing constant in this life is change and change thing will do...
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And
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I say cry if you need to. I've had a couple sob fests recently. Besides the swollen eyes look, it does get out the icky ... for some time.
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Lady_of_da_House
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Tyler, I hope you don't mind me sharing with you my take on depression, as I have been diagnosed with post traumatic stress. I went through a bad depression period which almost killed me technically speaking. I got so depressed that one of the things I did was to stop eating which caused my body to go into coronary arrest and sent my butt to the intensive care unit in a coma for a few months. People will tell you that its' good to talk about how you feel with someone and I believe it does help. Only that at the time I remember not feeling much in the mood for talking to anyone. I just could'nt get anything out. Just knew I felt LOUSY, and helpless and just plain bummed out. Having been there and still struggling with the issues that made me depressed in the first place wants me to say to you today...
Tyler, you might need to rewire your way of thinking so it can trigger off how you feel. I decided to work on my gloom, by writing down what issues depressed me. I wrote each one down as I thought about them in my head. Once I figured what was bugging me I was then able to work on the issues that I knew I could change and work on. For the issues that seemed unreachable I begun to keep my thoughts occupied on thinking of different stratagies that I could utilize, I searched out different options I could probably use so that I can reach my goals. I asked the Lord to clear my thoughts, to help me focus on the gift of life that he had given to me. To fix that which I could'nt fix. I begun to think on the things I should be thankful for.
So, Tyler work on your gloom... You're a trooper.. as human beings its our nature to feel challenged. Maybe inside you feel you can't work out some of these challenges. Well guy I'm here to tell you, you can. Here's a poem that helped me tru such a period in my life. I still have it by my desk so I can see it everyday.. Here goes..
When you've trusted Jesus and walked his way
when you've felt his hand lead you day by day
but your steps now take you another way,
start over.
When you've made your plans and they've gone awry
when you've tried your best and there's no more try
when you've failed yourself and you don't know why,
start over.
When you've failed your kids and they're grown and gone
when you've done your best but it's turned out wrong
and now your granchildren have come along,
start over.
When you've prayed to God so you'll know his will
when you've prayed and prayed and you don't know still
when you want to stop cause you've had your fill,
start over.
When you think you're finished and want to quit
when you've bottomed out in life's deepest pit
when you've tried and tried to get out of it,
start over.
When the year has been long and successes few
when December comes and you're feeling blue
God gives a january just for you,
start over.
Starting over means "Victories Won"
starting over means "A Race well run"
starting over means "The Lords' will done"
We need not just sit there... START OVER
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Love like you've never been hurt, and dance like no one is watching."
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SoulSista No#1
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This is truly the saddest,sincerest,rawest post Ive,ever seen on DHP..........You truly just brought tears to my eyes....You took me back to a time in the summer of 2004,where I truly was at my lowest......I had got fired from my job, I got denied umemployment......rent was due not to mention countless other bills........There didnt seem to be a way out........But it was a lesson that I needed to be taught........I wasnt a humble person........didnt really know the definition....It was God way of Humbling me..........and Today I am so thankful for that experience........Tyler/Bhouse.........Bills will always be there..........Everything aint about money.........Think about your kids.......Peace and Love to you
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MYOR
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Of course you are depressed.. You havent been here enough making fun of every one..
Seriously.. Hope you talk it out, work it out. Feel better..
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MEP
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Brandonn, there are many "levels" and root causes of depression.
Sometimes depression can be helped with the above suggestions; sometimes not.
I encourage you to seek a competent professional who can help you decide the best course of action for yourself.
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islandlover
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Originally posted by anniemae jones:
This is truly the saddest,sincerest,rawest post Ive,ever seen on DHP..........You truly just brought tears to my eyes....You took me back to a time in the summer of 2004,where I truly was at my lowest......I had got fired from my job, I got denied umemployment......rent was due not to mention countless other bills........There didnt seem to be a way out........But it was a lesson that I needed to be taught........I wasnt a humble person........didnt really know the definition....It was God way of Humbling me..........and Today I am so thankful for that experience........Tyler/Bhouse.........Bills will always be there..........Everything aint about money.........Think about your kids.......Peace and Love to you
Girl I feel you. Been there and understand ya know. I'm happy for going through it. That experience has truly changed my life for the better. Glad you came out well.
B, please think about what we discussed and everyone on this thread is telling you. You know what to do. It just takes a little more strength on your part to make it happen sweetie.
I'm pulling for you, you can do it.
[ December 28, 2006, 05:25 PM: Message edited by: islandlover ]
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Paula
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Originally posted by MEP:
Brandonn, there are many "levels" and root causes of depression.
Sometimes depression can be helped with the above suggestions; sometimes not.
I encourage you to seek a competent professional who can help you decide the best course of action for yourself.
co-sign. You don't have to deal with this alone. Brandonn, dude we love you. Your real man of genius posts bring a smile to everyone's face and have lifted us at a low point in our day.
Remember, don't sweat the small stuff 'cause it's all small stuff.
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Hey...I'm just the bartender. Hating me won't make you pretty, thinner or get you served any faster!
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Dagny Dostoevsky, CBU/CFF
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dude.
i'm so sorry to hear that.
let me dig a lil' somethin' up from my vault for ya:
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Even the wisest among you is only a disharmony and hybrid of plant and phantom. But do I bid you become phantoms or plants?
Lo, I teach you the Superman!
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